fear of losing

[kblover]

Hi everyone,

Next week I am starting a rotation to lose weight and I'm scared. I'm scared because I was thin once before, but the method to get there was very wrong and also cause a lot of hurt. On top of that, I always lived in fear that if I was thin, people would always expect that and make comments about everything - from what I ate to what activities I did. Basically I lived to please others and became so overwhelmed that I gave up and that is how I gained all the weight back.

As I said, I'm starting a new rotation next week and I joined a check-in - who are the most awesome group of ladies. They not only welcomed me, but immediately began to help me with adjusting the workouts.

That said, the old fear is trying to pop up. Stating, if I lose weight, it'll only be by the hardest and most difficult methods - ones I won't be able to maintain in 'real life.'

I know all of this is not true, but the thoughts still keep popping up. So, I guess I just wanted to post this partly for myself and partly so I could ask those of you who are Christian to pray for me. This is an internal battle as well as external.

I'm sorry this is so long, but I had to explain. I would love to hear from anyone who has been down the same road or anyone who has any advice.

Thanks for listening (reading).

CC

 

[nancy324]

CC, I think it's absolutely wonderful that you are in touch with your mixed emotions. Bravo! Most people are only aware that they want to lose weight, but can't somehow, and don't know why. You've gone straight to the heart of the problem. As you stated, there really are reasons to not lose weight, but we rarely hear them voiced. You have stated yours very well.

I assume by "losing weight rotation" you are also referring to diet. My advice is: never say diet. Just change your eating habits gradually over time from less healthy to more healthy. Don't make drastic changes, and don't expect to lose a pound a day. Just try to make healthy choices more often, until it becomes your norm. Be in it for life, not for the short term. Don't set strict requirements for yourself, and don't get hung-up on mistakes. Just keep moving forward.

Exercise is great and necessary, but in the long run it's only 20% of a weight loss regime, so my advice is don't obsess over it. Use exercise to motivate yourself to eat better, to control your appetite, and as part of a healthy lifestyle.

Good luck!
(Sorry, no religion here)

 

[kblover]

Thank you Nancy. It really took me a long time to admit it as I felt exercise must the be answer to everything. When that didn't work, I figured it was eating, but I still didn't lose. That is how I came to my conclusion and to hide from it just means more depression for me.

I'm actually going to work on what you've stated along with a rotation from my check-in group.

Also, support comes in all fashions and I'm grateful you responded.

Thanks so much!

 

[melodygirl]

CC,

Just wishing you strength and success. Nancy advised you well, and remember that each new day is a new chance to begin again. Never beat yourself up over bad days.

Take care.

 

[kblover]

Thank you Melody, that is something I really need to remember - especially on a bad day.

 

[SRP]

CC - I can't say it any better than Nancy did, so I just want to give you my support. And remember - if something you're doing causes you pain, stop and very seriously reconsider. Exercise should be fun, and eating should be enjoyable. Heck, living should be fun! There are lots of ways to get where you want to be, so take the road that's right for you. And take care.

 

[kblover]

Thank you Shannon. I appreaciate the support. I know I'm doing everything correct this time (or stepping out correctly, as I haven't started it all yet). I just have to remember the quote that FEAR is "False Evidence Appearing Real"

Thank you for the support

 

[BelovedHeather]

Prayers and Encouragement

Cheryl:

Remember that God has not given you a spirit of fear. Yes, this is a spiritual battle. I am giving up some of my computer time this month to focus on intense Bible study and prayer, and I am already feeling more joyful and peaceful. It would be my delight to pray for you. Feel free to send me a private message if you want a friend for this journey. I would love to share the insights from God’s Word that I am learning. I had a “holy wow” moment during my Bible study this morning. There is a reason why I weigh what I do, and it has nothing to do with food or exercise.

I do understand your fear. I can relate to you in so many ways. I too lost a significant amount of weight when I was younger and more foolish. Like you, I did not do it the right way. I lost weight, I lost my mind, and so much hell and devastation was ushered into my life as a result. Yes, I would rather be fat and free than thin and in bondage. Thankfully, it is possible to be fit and free.

I am believing God for your deliverance from fear and the extra weight. His grace is sufficient. Walk by faith! Start renouncing those lies and replacing them with faith affirmations. I started an index card binder with Scriptures to renew my mind. If you want suggestions for Bible studies and other Christian support for the journey, let me know.

Blessings,
Heather B.

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31 NIV).