Candi,
I have been reading your posts with some interest - I noticed you just turned 50 and I will be 50 this year, too. But I too like to workout 2 times a day, too.
I have ten children, 8 of which still live at home, and yes, there are times I feel guilty - I think maybe I should be doing other things - but I do not work outside the house and I have been homeschooling for 12 years. I workout in the morning before they are awake and then I do weight training when my husband gets home.
My dear husband doesn't mind for he says he reaps the benefits. He plays hockey two nights a week plus takes 4 of our boys to their hockey games all weekend.
We have been married for 30 years and still consider ourselves best friends - we can't keep our hands off each other - we still hold hands and put much effort into our relationship.
So, I know what you mean - it is great to hear that you cherish your relationship so much and you are aware of how important that is. It sounds to me like you are very balanced - we should all care about giving to each other - you work all day of course you want to spend time with your hubby.
If your hudsband doesn't mind even one night a week - go for it - my husband likes to watch sports - so I love it when there is a gsame on then I don't feel as guilty. Besides, I am still able to keep up on the laundry and housework and all their schooling and my husband loves to cook - so I don't need to cook dinners. I absolutely love that.
Cheryl