Does anyone skip chest work?
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Connie1
Cathlete
I can't stand not knowing the details! Spill, spill! What kind of complaining?
Seriously, I think chest and back should be balanced, as well as all other parts of the body. What is his complaint.
-Connie
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Seriously, I think chest and back should be balanced, as well as all other parts of the body. What is his complaint.
-Connie
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jgoycoolea
Cathlete
Absolutely not. I would never skip chest work, I love it. And my husband isn't complaining.
And I admit--unashamed-- to doing things just for my husband. For instance, I would sort of like to cut about 4 inches off my hair to get rid of these horrible layers (anyone recall my hair disaster of January???). But my husband really likes to see some hair length, so I leave it. When the shortest layer gets longer, then I'll cut it up to that length.
jeanne
And I admit--unashamed-- to doing things just for my husband. For instance, I would sort of like to cut about 4 inches off my hair to get rid of these horrible layers (anyone recall my hair disaster of January???). But my husband really likes to see some hair length, so I leave it. When the shortest layer gets longer, then I'll cut it up to that length.
jeanne
jgoycoolea
Cathlete
Absolutely not. I would never skip chest work, I love it. And my husband isn't complaining.
And I admit--unashamed-- to doing things just for my husband. For instance, I would sort of like to cut about 4 inches off my hair to get rid of these horrible layers (anyone recall my hair disaster of January???). But my husband really likes to see some hair length, so I leave it. When the shortest layer gets longer, then I'll cut it up to that length.
jeanne
And I admit--unashamed-- to doing things just for my husband. For instance, I would sort of like to cut about 4 inches off my hair to get rid of these horrible layers (anyone recall my hair disaster of January???). But my husband really likes to see some hair length, so I leave it. When the shortest layer gets longer, then I'll cut it up to that length.
jeanne
I used to skip chest because I thought "who really sees my chest muscles (in clothes)??" Then I started doing it because I fell like I'm "resting" since I'm technically laying down while doing presses/flys. I like the muscle that you get so I think it's worth it (I only do it 1x a week though- nothing excessive).
Maybe you could just do push-ups for some tone?
Maybe you could just do push-ups for some tone?
Hi, Jillybean and others:
Here's a story for you: My DH said (in the nicest possible way) that he has been seeing changes in my chest since I've been doing heavier weight lifting. I am pretty small-chested, about a B, and since going heavy on chest it seems that it is getting too muscular for his liking, and the muscle seems to be replacing the beloved fat tissue. I told him that I would not stop doing chest--not only do I love the way it feels to lift this large muscle group with heavy weights, but I think it's imperative to balance out with the back muscles.
So a couple days later he approached me and asked me if I would like to have a "boob job"! He was so enthusiastic as he described how this would be a "win-win" situation. Of course, he says he is satisfied with me just the way I am, too--no pressure! Right! Ah, men, what will we do with them?!
Denise
Here's a story for you: My DH said (in the nicest possible way) that he has been seeing changes in my chest since I've been doing heavier weight lifting. I am pretty small-chested, about a B, and since going heavy on chest it seems that it is getting too muscular for his liking, and the muscle seems to be replacing the beloved fat tissue. I told him that I would not stop doing chest--not only do I love the way it feels to lift this large muscle group with heavy weights, but I think it's imperative to balance out with the back muscles.
So a couple days later he approached me and asked me if I would like to have a "boob job"! He was so enthusiastic as he described how this would be a "win-win" situation. Of course, he says he is satisfied with me just the way I am, too--no pressure! Right! Ah, men, what will we do with them?!
Denise
Good god, I would slap anyone who said that to me!!! Cosmetic surgery is such a personal decision, with plenty of risks as well as benefits. Please don't consider it just for someone else, even if that someone else is your husband. Sorry to react like this, but I'm shocked that your husband said this to you.
Sharon.
Sharon.
Rachel_Lam
Cathlete
RE: Amen, Shaz
I always thought it was amazing that you could have the option to change your breast size. To have them the right size and not to ever sag. I mean it is the only part you really couldn't alter with weights the way you want. You see so many women with them now anyway. But then one day I had a patient in her late 30s who got cancer after some complications with her implants. It was so sad because she looked so frail and so bad and was very uncomfortable and she started telling about how she used to be healthy and a fitness enthusiast until things went downhill after the implants. I thought it was rather unfair when all she wanted was to look good. Seeing all the others that went well but seeing one that ended up like that made me realize maybe push up bras are a good thing instead.
I always thought it was amazing that you could have the option to change your breast size. To have them the right size and not to ever sag. I mean it is the only part you really couldn't alter with weights the way you want. You see so many women with them now anyway. But then one day I had a patient in her late 30s who got cancer after some complications with her implants. It was so sad because she looked so frail and so bad and was very uncomfortable and she started telling about how she used to be healthy and a fitness enthusiast until things went downhill after the implants. I thought it was rather unfair when all she wanted was to look good. Seeing all the others that went well but seeing one that ended up like that made me realize maybe push up bras are a good thing instead.
jillybean
Cathlete
RE: I hear ya!!!
When I met my husband I was well, busty. Now, I am not. He said to me, "I like your body so much better now. I just wish your chest was how it was before." I know he didn't mean it to hurt, but it did. So many fitness competitions make me mad also. You have these women who are super lean and then they have these giant silicon globes hovering above their ribs. It gives men the wrong idea. I want my husband to love my body, but you know what, I want to love my body too!!! And injecting a gelatin like substance into my breast does not turn me on. Especially since my grandmother's 5 sisters have all died of breast cancer. If there is something there, I'd like to be able to detect it!
When I met my husband I was well, busty. Now, I am not. He said to me, "I like your body so much better now. I just wish your chest was how it was before." I know he didn't mean it to hurt, but it did. So many fitness competitions make me mad also. You have these women who are super lean and then they have these giant silicon globes hovering above their ribs. It gives men the wrong idea. I want my husband to love my body, but you know what, I want to love my body too!!! And injecting a gelatin like substance into my breast does not turn me on. Especially since my grandmother's 5 sisters have all died of breast cancer. If there is something there, I'd like to be able to detect it!
Aquajock
Cathlete
RE: Pec work vs. bustiness vs. MYOB
The main fallacy on this subject is thinking that pec work (push-ups, bench presses, pec flyes) has any effect at all on breast size. Not so. Pec strengthening work conditions the muscles underlying the breasts; the size of the breasts is determined by the amount of fatty tissue within them, not the size of the muscles underneath them. Pec training may change apparent breast shape by filling in the area just underneath the collarbone, but it doesn't change their size.
It still never ceases to amaze me how comfortable people feel, including our "loved ones", in making pointed, judgmental comments about one's physique, especially women's physiques. - and how obliged women continue to feel about pandering to those pointed comments.
Annette
The main fallacy on this subject is thinking that pec work (push-ups, bench presses, pec flyes) has any effect at all on breast size. Not so. Pec strengthening work conditions the muscles underlying the breasts; the size of the breasts is determined by the amount of fatty tissue within them, not the size of the muscles underneath them. Pec training may change apparent breast shape by filling in the area just underneath the collarbone, but it doesn't change their size.
It still never ceases to amaze me how comfortable people feel, including our "loved ones", in making pointed, judgmental comments about one's physique, especially women's physiques. - and how obliged women continue to feel about pandering to those pointed comments.
Annette
RE: I hear ya!!!
Haha--you're right, I should slap him off the side of the head, shouldn't I?! To top it all off, he told me last night that I needed to make my mind up fairly quickly if I was going to get the implants because he is willing to invest in this now, but if I wait too long it "won't be worth it". His point was that I am 38, and soon "we" will be too old to enjoy them. Oh my!
Jillybean, I know just how you feel--it does hurt to hear that from your husband. I would never say something to him about his body that would make him feel bad about himself. As a matter of fact, he's losing his hair pretty quickly and all I tell him is that it just doesn't matter to me, and it really doesn't. I love him for who he is. I feel a bit self-conscious now when I'm changing, taking a shower, etc., in front of him and find myself trying to cover up. I never felt like that before.
So, I went from thinking this was kind of amusing to being a little angry at him, as well as myself, because I have actually been considering the surgery (shame on me, I know!). There is a part of me that's thinking--hmmm...that might look really good, but there's another part of me that is holding back. I am always saying that women should not buy into what society and media portray as the "perfect" woman, but rather to strive to be healthy and strong. I would certainly be contradicting myself if I did this.
It has been really interesting to read all your input on this, you are all wonderful!
Denise
Haha--you're right, I should slap him off the side of the head, shouldn't I?! To top it all off, he told me last night that I needed to make my mind up fairly quickly if I was going to get the implants because he is willing to invest in this now, but if I wait too long it "won't be worth it". His point was that I am 38, and soon "we" will be too old to enjoy them. Oh my!
Jillybean, I know just how you feel--it does hurt to hear that from your husband. I would never say something to him about his body that would make him feel bad about himself. As a matter of fact, he's losing his hair pretty quickly and all I tell him is that it just doesn't matter to me, and it really doesn't. I love him for who he is. I feel a bit self-conscious now when I'm changing, taking a shower, etc., in front of him and find myself trying to cover up. I never felt like that before.
So, I went from thinking this was kind of amusing to being a little angry at him, as well as myself, because I have actually been considering the surgery (shame on me, I know!). There is a part of me that's thinking--hmmm...that might look really good, but there's another part of me that is holding back. I am always saying that women should not buy into what society and media portray as the "perfect" woman, but rather to strive to be healthy and strong. I would certainly be contradicting myself if I did this.
It has been really interesting to read all your input on this, you are all wonderful!
Denise
RE: I hear ya!!!
If you are considering breast implants, there's no shame in it, I just don't want you to do it for anyone but yourself. Also, please research the whole area (good things and bad things) before doing anything.
I expect your husband doesn't realize that he has made you feel self conscious, so perhaps you should talk to him about it. I bet he just thought you'd be pleased with him for thinking of it, and didn't realy think it through properly. There are a lot of underlying issues (physical and mental) to consider.
Take care,
Sharon.
If you are considering breast implants, there's no shame in it, I just don't want you to do it for anyone but yourself. Also, please research the whole area (good things and bad things) before doing anything.
I expect your husband doesn't realize that he has made you feel self conscious, so perhaps you should talk to him about it. I bet he just thought you'd be pleased with him for thinking of it, and didn't realy think it through properly. There are a lot of underlying issues (physical and mental) to consider.
Take care,
Sharon.
L
lorraine
Guest
RE: I hear ya!!!
Your husband sounds like a jerk.
You're only 38!!! How many decades will it be before you're "too old" to enjoy your breasts? My inlaws are 80 and still active.
Have you considered the new pills I keep reading about? They seem to always carry a guarantee, so you won't lose money if they aren't effective.
On a more serious note, someone mentioned a patient who has cancer secondary to breast surgery--can't happen. There has been no link demonstrated between breast implant leakage and connective tissue disease or cancer.
Good luck.
Your husband sounds like a jerk.
You're only 38!!! How many decades will it be before you're "too old" to enjoy your breasts? My inlaws are 80 and still active.
Have you considered the new pills I keep reading about? They seem to always carry a guarantee, so you won't lose money if they aren't effective.
On a more serious note, someone mentioned a patient who has cancer secondary to breast surgery--can't happen. There has been no link demonstrated between breast implant leakage and connective tissue disease or cancer.
Good luck.
mom23dolls
Cathlete
RE: I hear ya!!!
Here's a different perspective: I always though that doing chest work would help me lose some size in my chest and worked toward that goal, but it hasn't happened for me at all. I'm 4'11, size 2 and a D-DD cup (depending on the bra). My hard work has done nothing to reduce my size, but the back and postural work has really helped me to be able to carry the weight more easily. I feel and look taller (ok, that's relative) and don't have the horrible back and shoulder pains anymore. I had considered reduction surgery, but now that I'm strong and fit I feel so much better about myself.
Carole
Here's a different perspective: I always though that doing chest work would help me lose some size in my chest and worked toward that goal, but it hasn't happened for me at all. I'm 4'11, size 2 and a D-DD cup (depending on the bra). My hard work has done nothing to reduce my size, but the back and postural work has really helped me to be able to carry the weight more easily. I feel and look taller (ok, that's relative) and don't have the horrible back and shoulder pains anymore. I had considered reduction surgery, but now that I'm strong and fit I feel so much better about myself.
Carole
ChristinaK
Cathlete
[font size="1" color="#FF0000"]LAST EDITED ON Jun-26-02 AT 04:38PM (Est)[/font][p]Men can be so insensitive sometimes. I think part of it is that they don't have the same body image issues that we have. My hubby has never really had a problem with his weight but it wouldn't bother him for someone to say he was getting love handles or he had gained weight. His hair is thinning and he really doesn't care. He says when it gets too thin, he'll just shave it. When I first gained weight after we married, he would sometimes make comments about my appearance that I didn't appreciate. I really don't think he realized that they would hurt my feelings. To him, it was just an observation. Well, once I got it through to him that if I felt bad about my body image it meant I had less interest in bedroom activities, he straightened right up. But until I explained it to him he didn't understand that his comments caused me to have negative emotional feelings which in turn resulted in me not being interested in him.
Just my experience....
Just my experience....
Connie1
Cathlete
Hey Denise-
What Sharon said. And I also second what Christina K said. Men often do not have the same personal connection to their bodies/appearance that women do, or at least they are not in tune with it! That is why that commercial- you may have seen it- with men one by one saying things like "I have my mother's thighs, and I'm just going to have to learn to accept it" was so darned funny.
Implants, for certain people, can be just great, and a very valuable thing. Many husbands "forbid" it and that makes those wives frustrated too. It is, however, a hassle to go through the recovery. About 6 weeks or more till resuming full impact/strength work. Not that I really know or anything! I admit nothing! And so many women make a big personal deal about how unrighteous it is. Well for them it must be. Anyway it's scary to be at the mercy of anti-anything Nazi's. Just my 2 cents. - C.
What Sharon said. And I also second what Christina K said. Men often do not have the same personal connection to their bodies/appearance that women do, or at least they are not in tune with it! That is why that commercial- you may have seen it- with men one by one saying things like "I have my mother's thighs, and I'm just going to have to learn to accept it" was so darned funny.
Implants, for certain people, can be just great, and a very valuable thing. Many husbands "forbid" it and that makes those wives frustrated too. It is, however, a hassle to go through the recovery. About 6 weeks or more till resuming full impact/strength work. Not that I really know or anything! I admit nothing! And so many women make a big personal deal about how unrighteous it is. Well for them it must be. Anyway it's scary to be at the mercy of anti-anything Nazi's. Just my 2 cents. - C.