Ladies,
Now, I need some honest opinions on this. I'm going to try to make this message very PG-rated, but warning! it is all about a very R-rated topic. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, moments ago, but of course it was a long time in the making. There is basically one single issue that caused us to break up: he refuses to have an exclusive relationship with me. He wants to reserve his right to date other women. But, as he tells me, it's not that he wants to have actual relationships with other women, he just wants to sleep with them. And the reason for this is that there are a whole variety of things I won't do in bed that he considers to be so important to him that he can't live without. I definately don't want to get to graffic or spell things out here, but I think that most of these things are on the outer margins of what is considered the average sex life. For example, do you remember what R Kelly was doing with that 16 year old that got him in so much trouble? Dave Chapelle did a hilarious skit about it. Well, that's one thing. I'm not trying to make judgements here, and I think consenting adults should go ahead and do what they like behind closed doors, but it's simply not for me, and I won't do it. And as embarrassing as it is, this is really the whole reason we're breaking up! He insists on having a 'perverse sex life' (his term) and I insist upon not, and also I insist that we be monogamous, and to him that is like imprisoning him for life (again his term.)
But this is where my question comes in--> he doesn't want to break up, and he tried to convince me to stay with him by arguing that if I insist upon having my man be monogamous, eventually he will just sneak behind my back and cheat on me. The way he describes it, men can not resist hooking up with other women, and there are two ways of doing it: with your wife knowing about it, or behind her back. Now, don't worry, I didn't fall for this argument. But my question is...do you think this is true, do all men eventually cheat? I have to say, my dad cheated on my mom their entire marraige--he even had another family stashed away! Is he right about this?
Amy:+
Now, I need some honest opinions on this. I'm going to try to make this message very PG-rated, but warning! it is all about a very R-rated topic. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, moments ago, but of course it was a long time in the making. There is basically one single issue that caused us to break up: he refuses to have an exclusive relationship with me. He wants to reserve his right to date other women. But, as he tells me, it's not that he wants to have actual relationships with other women, he just wants to sleep with them. And the reason for this is that there are a whole variety of things I won't do in bed that he considers to be so important to him that he can't live without. I definately don't want to get to graffic or spell things out here, but I think that most of these things are on the outer margins of what is considered the average sex life. For example, do you remember what R Kelly was doing with that 16 year old that got him in so much trouble? Dave Chapelle did a hilarious skit about it. Well, that's one thing. I'm not trying to make judgements here, and I think consenting adults should go ahead and do what they like behind closed doors, but it's simply not for me, and I won't do it. And as embarrassing as it is, this is really the whole reason we're breaking up! He insists on having a 'perverse sex life' (his term) and I insist upon not, and also I insist that we be monogamous, and to him that is like imprisoning him for life (again his term.)
But this is where my question comes in--> he doesn't want to break up, and he tried to convince me to stay with him by arguing that if I insist upon having my man be monogamous, eventually he will just sneak behind my back and cheat on me. The way he describes it, men can not resist hooking up with other women, and there are two ways of doing it: with your wife knowing about it, or behind her back. Now, don't worry, I didn't fall for this argument. But my question is...do you think this is true, do all men eventually cheat? I have to say, my dad cheated on my mom their entire marraige--he even had another family stashed away! Is he right about this?
Amy:+
