Dating question....again.

divagirl

Cathlete
I have been dating a guy for 2 weeks who seems pretty into me and calls pretty often, however, he also has on several occassions said "I'll call you tomorrow" and then not call.

My friend seems to think this shows he is not good on his word and I should say something at this point. I personally feel I would say something about it if he ever asks to see me exclusively.

A lot of guys I've dated the last few years do this. I don't like it at all but I'm not sure what to really do about it. What do you think?

Tina
 
Next time he says it, just laugh & say "yeah, sure you will." Then you can say something like, "honey, you don't have to call me every day, but if you say you're going to than do it."

Be lighthearted about it but make your point. Honesty & directness w/a little tact is the way to go.
 
Just think of it this way . . .

If he told one of his buddies he would call and didn't, do you think his buddy would care? Probably not.

If you are young, (I am only guessing so don't take this the wrong way) most of the guys have a lot to learn - namely that we females like follow up.

So, do whatever you want to do with your life, friends, etc. and don't wait around for him. It just doesn't always dawn on them.;)
 
Personally I think there is way too much game playing out there these days. I would call his a** out like Lauramax says and be like don't contradict yourself, call if you want but don't say you will if you won't.

On another note: Women sometimes take conversation very literal where men communicate in a general, casual way. He probably does not even realize how he is affecting you.

Typical man:)
 
I'm of the belief that if you say you're gonna call, then call. I wouldn't confront the guy on it, but I would be turned off by the lack of follow-through and let it go. If he can't show more interest in the beginning of a relationship, I can't see it getting any better.

What did you wind up doing, Tina?
 

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