dating dilemma.....

[divagirl]

Ok, so dating a new guy I really like. Our first date we wound up going to a really expensive dinner, then afterwards we went to bar where I took care of our drinks.

Now, here's where my problem lies. We planned our second date and it looks like right now we are going to a byob restaurant and then bowling afterwards. Because we are hanging in the city it all get expensive. I am NOT making a lot of money right now and am struggling. This guy is self employed and makes some decent money by today's standards. I feel bad knowing that I really can't chip in alot. Should I say something or just relax and let him pay?

Bowling was my idea and it turned into byob and bowling later.

 

[LauraMax]

Oh, huh, my dating dilemma is that I can't get one.

My advice--say nothing & let him pay. I guess I'm old fashioned in some ways, but I do believe that at least in the beginning of a relationship the guy should pay, especially if he's the one who asks you out. Over time, after you're both comfortable enough to discuss it & taking both of your incomes into account you'll likely fall into a pattern that works for both of you.

Offering to pay for a drink or two would be nice, but unless he says something let him carry the bill.

 

[seeking_guns]

Divagirl,
I would probably bring the byob (bottle of wine or 6-pack won't break the bank) and then offer to pay for bowling (since that was your idea)...Chances are, he won't let you.

 

[Timber99]

I am w/Laura on this one, particularly in the very beginning of a dating relationship. If you are dead set against that, I would say that you pick upt he bowling tab since it was your suggestion.