Bad kissers

janie1234

janie1234

Cathlete
Okay just wondering. Would you marry someone who was really bad at kissing? I mean if you found a man who was wonderful at everything else, . . supportive, kind, caring, but just not the best weak at the knees kisser would that matter to you and would you spend the rest of your life with him?
 
I agree with Laura. My ex-DH opened his mouth so wide, I thought he was trying to eat my head! We worked on it and it improved. Now, granted he is my ex-DH so all those lessons are being used on someone else!!

Carrie
 
I agree with Dawn. It's overrated IMO. And if the overall package works (good man, good sex, good life together) the kissing wouldn't matter to me at all. In fact, I'm not that into kissing, really. In a rare attempt to be tactful I'll just say that the "deep" kissing stuff has never appealed to me in the least, and leave it at that. :)

Sparrow
 
LauraMax said:
No. First I'd teach him how to do it right, then I'd marry him. ;)
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Ditto. Whether you're into kissing or not, the ones you do share shouldn't have to be 'suffered'

On a side note, I once kissed a guy, I don't know what he was doing, but I felt like he was tonguing my back molar. Very gross. Got rid of him immediately (not just for that, he turned out to be an ass, although really I should have known when he told me 'I'm a bad boy'. can we get any cheesier?)

TMI I know, my apologies
 
HAHA

I was wondering... what is a bad kisser? how can someone be a bad kisser. i thought it's instinct. I mean it's not rocket science! same as sex... I guess I don't understand what's bad... but these description made it more clear
HAHA funny! poor guys
 
my dh would kill me for telling this....but when we were in high school he WAS A TEETH BANGER! smacked into my front teeth on more than one occasion! hurt!!!
 
Hi-

I guess my question would be if you feel there is any sexual chemistry/attraction there if you didn't like the way he kissed? I'm thinking you might not have the "sparkage" for this guy if the kisses didn't do it for you.

Also, was it the one time or was it alot of times? The first kiss can sometimes be kind of awkward if you don't know each other and how they do it. After that though, I would think each person would figure out how to make it work and be enjoyable to both.

I would say if there isn't any chemistry in the kiss now if its been a couple of times w/ no improvement, I'm not sure I would stay w/ the relationship, frankly. Even though the firework phase goes away, if it was never there to begin with, it may make for a more challenging long term relationship, imho.

PS.. I am no expert, I've been w/ my husband since we were in high school ( 1985) and we don't really have those "hollywood type kisses" anymore so I'm just hypothesizing.


Take care, Lynn M
 
I really think that a man who loves you is teachable. Tell him what you like...if he loves you he will want to make you happy that way.;)
 
This was funny. I was curious. I was just watching True Blood HBO-series and they film kisses the type of kisses that sorta take your breath away, . . .the toe kick type kiss. Any how I was thinking, . . .I've been married very happily for 10 years and my husband doesn't kiss like that. As a matter of fact my very first kiss at the age of 16 was by far the worst kiss in the universe of the world.
 
Janie,

Funny! And interesting thread. I think a lot of husbands don't kiss like that. :) Every now and then I'll say to DH, "kiss me like you mean it!" :)
 
Good god, No.

RUN. Depending on how old he is, someone probably should've trained him by now.

I had a few absolutely terrific dates with a lovely, intelligent, eminently eligible guy a few years ago and he was a totally horrible, cringe-inducingly bad kisser. In my personal lore he is known as "the tongue stabber".

I decided it was worth it to try and gently guide him toward better kissing, but he simply could not adapt. *shudder*

Many torturous dates later, I had to end it because he leaned toward me and I actually jumped away from him. I just couldn't handle any more! And I'm totally not sorry!
 
Afreet said:
RUN. Depending on how old he is, someone probably should've trained him by now.

I had a few absolutely terrific dates with a lovely, intelligent, eminently eligible guy a few years ago and he was a totally horrible, cringe-inducingly bad kisser. In my personal lore he is known as "the tongue stabber".

I decided it was worth it to try and gently guide him toward better kissing, but he simply could not adapt. *shudder*

Many torturous dates later, I had to end it because he leaned toward me and I actually jumped away from him. I just couldn't handle any more! And I'm totally not sorry!
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Thanks for the laugh!!! That's funny!!!!
 
chefkate said:
my dh would kill me for telling this....but when we were in high school he WAS A TEETH BANGER! smacked into my front teeth on more than one occasion! hurt!!!
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:eek: Ha, ha! I had a date with one of those! It was a friend of my brother's (blind date) and when he kissed me goodnight, I thought I was going to be missing a few teeth afterwards! Ick!

Of course, I agree, if everything else about him is wonderful, who cares if he can't kiss great. Kissing isn't all that anyway. I prefer the touch. The hand on my shoulder, holding hands, etc. Wait . . . okay, had to touch my honey! :eek:

Anyway, that's what I think, for what it's worth!

Tricia
 
If he didn't improve--I wouldn't marry him.

My husband was kind of a weird kisser at first, but he rapidly improved. I can't get enough of his kisses. He kisses like he means it, but that doesn't mean that he's checking my tonsils, thankfully.
 
Once you've gotten a deep, intense, soulful kiss from a man; the kind that makes your knees collapse and sends a wide, warm volt of electricity all through your body; you'll never again say great kissing is "overrated."

It's a feeling that will stay with you your whole life. You'll never get over it. It's an awful thing to have to give up.
 
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