Are we just a bunch of complainers?

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claridge

Cathlete
I have to put my hand up for this!

Just talking to my mum the other day and telling you how "tired" I was and I could do with another "break" because of the Christmas break mayhem.

Well! as always, out came the stories of when she was young, and the middle child of 13, and my Dad the youngest of 10.

She thinks, WE no nothing about hard work as in relation to her mother (my grandma), and even how much slog she as a child even had to go through in terms of helping her mother with other sibblings. It never was a 9-5 job in those days taking care of a family, and of course most of it was done without the convenience of microwaves and dryers etc.

And there was no time for "stress" or "depression" They just got on with it! Needless to say, excluding illness, she feels I really have NOTHING to complain about.

So, do you think we complain to much now? or is it just the times we live in now and our "complaints" are warrented?

Marion
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You're not actually complaining about complainers are you?!?!?

That takes the cake! ;-)

Actually I think some people to complain too much. Some are stressed and could learn a way of coping that wasn't so exhausting for others, but they learn it in their families of origin. Some really do have a lot to complain about and need help. So, it depends.

Do YOU think you complain too much, Marion, or is this one of those generational clashes? I mean, you can probably tell.

I think I complain too much sometimes. I get in crabby moods and my father is an incessant complainer, so I know I learned it. I try to rein it in, but sometimes I catch myself.
 
Good topic, Marion! I believe most people complain too much nowadays. Not that I know exactly what it was like a generation ago, but we have a better quality of life than ever before. We have modern conveniences, we make more money, we buy lots of things! If you can afford it (and more people can nowadays), we can pay someone else to clean our houses and watch our children. BUT...at the same time, we get bombarded by messages of so much stress, so little time, etc. Just look at all the women's magazines at the drugstore. It's always about how you can look slimmer than you are now, how to de-stress, how to find more time for yourselves. Basically, they are implying that our lives really aren't that great and how you need to improve it. I even read that the word "stress" wasn't even invented until the 50s. Now, I'm not in the least trying to say that we are all imagining our constant stresses of daily life, but I don't think we have more than our parents did. Hey, we're women! Don't you think we are capable of handling the little stresses daily life?
 
I think that most people complain a lot. The difference is that some people keep it in their minds and other people say it loud.
 
As someone who has suffered from depression in the past, I can sympathize with just about anyone. As a nurse I can sympathize with just about anyone (that's our nature). But, to quote my own self to my teenagers "Every second, every minute, every day we have here on earth alive is one to be thankful for". It's what we have, so we either have to accept it, or change it. There's no alternative. It's helped me to overcome some stuff. My belief in a higher power also helps.
I think every generation has stress in relation to what is happening around them. I believe that we are affected by so much more today because we have the (media) means to hear everything that happens in our world. Both good and bad. Somedays it's a lot to handle.

But try to imagine years ago, not having tampons, or birth control pills, or antibiotics...they did go through some serious stuff...

Just makes me appreciate what I have more!
Lynn
 
<< your not actually complaining about complainers are you!?>>

Ha Ha - good point

And Im not directing it to anyone who "complains" on this forum ether. Its just a general observation of our WANT WANT society, and its NEVER enough.

And Elaine, as woman we certainly do handle stress very well, but we just as quick to chugalug some pills or spend $$$$ on therapy.

I think THATS whats a shocker to my mothers generation! Im sure my grandparents and parents felt very overwhelmed at times (is that not what we call "stress"), but they could hardly take to bed for the day.

Marion

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It's all relative I guess. My son has has had some serious medical issues recently, now look at what I use to consider a big deal as absolutely nothing.

So I guess yes ... it seems a lot of folks think things are big deals and they really aren't at all. But we all live life at different levels I guess.

I use to stress about a few lbs.. some cellulite.. but it really is such a little deal.. if you have your health, friends, family... now that's important.
 
True maybe the older generation didn't complain as much but they also weren't as vocal about most things like expressions of love, and encouragement either. People committed suicide back then so there must have hard times and depression. Wives were beat and children were abused but they didn't say a whole lot about that either.
Maybe we are a bit spoiled but I think mostly we've just become a lot freer in all areas of our communication. Just a thought. This is a good topic one worth thinking more on.

Trish
 
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