Anyone else the B#T#H at work?

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KimDW

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I've got to gripe. I get so tired of being thought of as the company "B#T#H" because I follow through and do my job. It bugs me that they'll set a policy and I'm always the one that has to bug people for the paperwork I need. I can't help it if I'm organized and don't always do things half-ass that's not how I am. I'm getting tired of just hearing myself talk so I went to my boss and asked her to talk to the guy about getting the correct paperwork to me. Anyone else have this problem at work? I can't stand lazy people at work. What's the point. (Oh and I haven't exercised since last Wednesday and I'm feeling like a bloated whale so I'm sure that's making me crabby too.) Sorry for the rant.

Kimbra
 
I've probably never been called that word b/c I am a push over.I just started a new job so I won't be considered that for a while b/c I have nothing to do yet but the basics.
BUT I am glad to say that it is changing:) I don't know if its lack of sleep or I am just tired of being quiet but I have snapped at some people lately.I was talking to one of my co-workers(my other job) last night and she said that yesterday morning one of our other co-workers said something pretaining to "MY" work.I CANNOT and I repeat CANNOT, wait to work Saturday morning so that I can tell her off.Normally I would just go on about my business and not bother but it was on called for.I won't get into it b/c it could be long.
I hope this is a new thing I have picked up b/c I am tired of people walking over me.
Lori:)
 
I sometimes feel this way b/c I like to do things the "right way" as opposed to the "quick way" or the "easier way" (when it comes to certain things that I feel should be done the absolute best way). There are some people that I work with that have been there a lot loner than me, although they hold less authoritative positions, and they will go to someone else to override my decision or do it "their way" behind my back (so I sometimes find out and sometimes not). That bugs me b/c I always help out when needed and I don't want to waste my time telling you how to do someting if you just go elsewhere when you don't like my answer! This is not a huge isseus anymore b/c my bosses have backed me and the people have learned that my word is the law (so to speak...) but for a while it was very frustrating!

When you went to the boss, did it help? Is there any other way to accopmlish this? Perhaps a meeting with this person? Is it just a power trip to him or a real issue that he disagrees with the paperwor?
 
Hey Kimbra (gorgeous name, by the way)

Go ahead and rant away! I know how you feel - I can't stand lazy people, period. It seems like it takes the same amount of effort to do it and do it right than it does to ignore it and make up excuses why it didn't get done. There's nothing wrong about talking to the boss about it - that's his job, to spark a fire under some booty. ;-)

Oh, and you know the definition of B#T#H, don't you??
Babe
In
Total
Control of
Herself

Yep, that's me, and proud of it!!

Hope things get better for you at work!

Hugs,
Angie
 
I went thru team building and lean manufacturing training with middle management and supervisory staff and a few key subordinates. I was "faulted" for taking my job "seriously" by subordinates. WUWT?? I was taught to always do a job 100% and well enough that I'd be proud to sign my name to it. The trend these days seems to be to get paid as much as you can for doing as little as you can. How sad!

~ Kim

"Welcome the challenge...Embrace it...Don't fear it." -Cathe Friedrich
 
I don't THINK I'm considered the b-word at work. I know that I got the receptionist upset with me the other day because I informed her supervisor that the list she updates which we use to see who the managers of each of our group homes are, along with the district managers, was once again incorrect and I ended up sending information to the wrong person. That makes me look dumb. So this woman comes up to me and says that she updates it as soon as she's told there's a change - but she's putting an district manager's name in the site manager's spot. And she asks me where people are supposed to be. I told her I didn't know. If I knew...I wouldn't be upset that the list was wrong.

She got all defensive and snippy. I got a chuckle out of it. That's the second time I've seen that woman get a bit tempermental and that doesn't fly at our agency. Our Vice President has very little patience for insubordination.
 
Thanks guys for the thoughts. Angie I love your definition. I think I might post that in my office. When I first started here about 8 years ago he loved to pick a fight with me and I really let it upset me and would get so mad. But once I started being more aggressive he backed off. I do think he loves to stir the pot and push people's buttons. I've just started making notes on everything that I wasn't provided the proper paperwork. I don't know if going to my boss worked or not. I'm not sure if she's talked to him yet or not. But, after I posted yesterday I realized that I can't let people bother me so much. All I can do is do my job the best I can. So when it all comes down to it people will know that I'm a hard worker and can get the job done. Oh and Angie, thanks for the name compliment. When I was little I hated my name because people could never get it right. But these days I seem to be getting compliments on it.

Kimbra
 
Definitely, all the time, & proud of it! It's really hard to be a direct supervisor b/c you're the one who always has to say no, or implement a disciplinary action, or whatever. And my boss is always the good guy b/c he has me as a buffer.

About 5 years ago I had to take over a department of 7 & I remember writing someone up b/c she kept wearing bedroom slippers to work. After 3 warnings I had to suspend her for 48 hours. I could not believe the horrible things she & her coworkers said about me. But a good friend told me that when those you supervise don't like you it's a sign that you're doing your job right.
 
OMG, BEDROOM SLIPPERS?? SERIOUSLY?!?!?

That is so funny! She's lucky you gave her 3 warnings! What was she thinking?!? BIG DUH!!! :eek:

Of course, I would loooove to wear slippers to work if I could....... :p

Angie
 
What's wrong with bedroom slippers? I guess my philosophy is that I don't care what people wear to work if they are not interfacing with customers and/or it doesn't make other people feel uncomfortable (like too revealing or something). Having said that, I have never worn bedroom slippers to work :)

Maybe I'm mellowing somewhat as I age, or perhaps the corporate world has finally beaten me down, but I really don't get too concerned about things anymore. Yes, I'm sure some of my coworkers in the past have referred to me as the b#t#h. Any woman who is assertive and/or aggressive runs the risk of being called such a thing. I had a very assertive woman boss several years ago that taught me to come out of my shell and speak my mind. For a while, I went a little overboard with it. Now I'm trying to strike a balance.

I also give people (including myself) a break every now and then because life is just too short to get bent out of shape everytime something gets screwed up at work. I realize there are many "right" ways of doing something -- not just my way :) Of course, I prefer my way.

Shonie
 
She was a probation officer. I just didn't think it was appropriate.

I try to give breaks as well. The problem is that is not what staff remembers. They remember all the reasons they have to hate me. It doesn't bother me much--not that I don't want to be liked but I have enough friends, & I have a job to do. I'm not here to win a popularity contest. I'm here to play on the internet. :7
 
I work for a public defender's office and I find that a lot of people who are not on this same "side" of the legal system as me tend to already dislike me and find it completely acceptable to be rude to me just because of where I work.x(

Who knows, maybe they all think i AM a B!>ch! I'm not though, I just don't handle myself this way, so it gets frustrating. I treat everyone with respect unless they give me a reason otherwise.

I think I need a little thicker skin when it comes to this.
 
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