Anyone else alone on Thanksgiving?

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diane334

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Hi everyone -

I felt pretty lame after even writing the title to this post!! I am a student right now living across the country from my family and I am not able to fly home for the holidays. Just wandering if anyone else was not able to be with their family this holiday and what you are doing to celebrate instead. My school is having a big turkey dinner I might go to with some friends. I am glad that Christmas is right around the corner and I will be able to go home for a long Christmas break.

Happy Holidays!! :)

- Diane
 
Sending (((((((( HUGS ))))))))) Diane!! I hope you can see your family for Christmas!!

I can't sleep, and just finished (sort of!) Boot Camp. The turkey and yams are in the oven, and I'm going to shower so I can try and be civil and awake when my in-laws show up in a couple of hours! I'm sorry you're alone, but enjoy that turkey dinner with your friends!!

Carol
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Thanks for the hugs Carol! I just keep telling myself that I get to see my family for a whole month during Christmas! We have a really long Christmas break in law school, so it more than makes up for what I missed during Thanksgiving.

I know the school's Thanksgiving dinner won't compare to my grandma's, but it will be fun to hang out with friends.

Today might be a Bootcamp day for me as well!

- Diane
 
I'm sorry you're alone and don't want to be. I have to see my family and I'd rather be alone!!

My daughter went to Egypt to make some documentary, otherwise she would be here and that would be nice, but I would like to move to Paraguay to avoid my parents. Sigh.

I don't know if this helps you or not, but not all family get togethers are the Norman Rockwell moments we see in the media. Mine are boring at best and annoying/exhausting at worst.

So, enjoy your alone time. It will be over soon. At least you got to avoid the horrible airport/interstate nightmare of the Thanksgiving weekend. Read a nice book. Watch a nice movie and be glad you're not me!
 
hi diane! where are you??? if you are in cincinnati...you can come to my house....that is if you can tolerate my cooking!!!:D
 
I'm not alone but sorta of. I'm cooking for the same four people I cook for 364 other days of the year. No company. My entire family lives on the East coast and I'm in the Midwest. They rarely come out this way - we always have to go there.

Seems like you're lonely and missing home. But look what you have there. Friends, all in the same boat as you. Sounds like a party to me!

Honor your feelings of loneliness. Then go have some fun!

Great big hugs, Alexis
 
Mogambo you are cracking me up!! My husband's aunt comes over every year, and God love her, but she makes negative comments about every single thing on the table, year after year. If she had anywhere else to go I wouldn't invite her, but I'm stuck. I'm tired (I only slept two hours after working all night!!), and I just might find a new place for one of those drumsticks this year if she isn't careful what she says ... }( (where IS that darn wine glass ?????)

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Carol
:D
 
Alexis where in the Midwest do you live? I'm in North Central Ohio. I'll send my hubby's aunt to your house if you want! LOL!! Just kidding ... you would hate me if I did! }(

Happy Thanksgiving!!

Carol
:)
(still looking for a large glass of wine!!)
 
Hi Diane:

I am sorry you are alone. Remember that alone does not have to mean lonely. You can still participate in those school-arranged events and have a great time with friends who can become your family away from home. And you can also do a few things just for yourself and enjoy them: give yourself a hot bath after that Bootcamp, a facial, a manicure, take yourself off to see a movie that's fun and light hearted, "Love Actually?", and then have the dinner with your friends and it will be a fun day all over.

Smile, call your family on the phone, they still love you. I live over here and have not had a family Christmas with my folks back in London for about 4 years now. But I always call for a 2 hour chat on the big day and I still reconnect with them. I know how you feel, I'm a big family person myself.... :)

Clare
 
Thanks so much for the offer jonnafit! That is so sweet! I am actually in Palo Alto, CA. I have tons and tons of work to do for finals so it is really probably for the best that I have this time off to work.

And as for mogambo's comment, it is probably very true that I would be bored at my family gathering this year. My sister and her husband won't be there and they are the ones I hang out with the most. It would be nice to see my parents and my grandmother who is not well.

I might start a new book too since I just finished one - but getting into a good book can be dangerous during law school finals. }(

Thanks,
Diane
 
Carol, my friend, sounds like you found that large glass of wine.;)

I live in the suburbs west of Chicago. Sorry I can't help with dear ole auntie. And don't go thinking of ways to get her here!

Happy Turkey Day, Alexis

PS - now don't go falling asleep (or passing out) in the mashed potatoes. Very bad form.
 
Not alone, but on Sunday my brothers 1st ex-wife (long story on the ex-wife thing) ... died on Sunday from injuries from a car wreck, leaving an 18 yr old son, 5 yr old granddaughter(she had adopted), 22 yr old daughter, and 27 yr old daughter and 4 other grandchildren.
I feel pretty blessed right now, to have everyone else, even if they aren't in my house ;-) ... we will miss her ..... by the way she was 51............ Rhonda ;-)
 
Rhonda, I am so sorry to hear about your sister in-law. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers! I think it's particularly hard to lose a loved one at this time of the year. All the festivities make it that much more poignantly sad!

Hi, Diane! I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving! I am glad you can go home for a month at Christmas. Here's my thought on being alone: What's that? I have never been alone! I went from my parents home to sharing living spaces with a sister or two, then met and married my husband. By the end of the day yesterday, I was threatening to change my name. No one can make a move without consulting me! Enjoy and appreciate your independence. Hook up with your friend alot too! Some day you too may be in charge of dinner for 16 and you'll enjoy making everyone happy but you might very well wonder why after dishing up the youngsters and making sure it was all good to go, you ended up sitting at the kiddy table AGAIN while the adults seemed to be having a ball right next door at the adult table, discussing facinating adult stuff, I am sure, and you're looking at you six-year old pouring soda on his mashed potatoes instead of gravy! LOL! My son is soooo weird sometimes!

Sure I could have made the older kids change with me but I might have destroyed them emotionally and I would have had to hear about how they got stuck at the kiddie table and it just wasn't fair. Yada yada yada. In the end, I just refused to look at Sam and eavesdropped while I enjoyed my dinner!

Have a wonderful time at Christmas!
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You know what works for me when I'm feeling alone and lonely like that -- I try to think of someone (or something) who needs me, and I plan a way to do something nice for them. It might be a family member who needs some special attention (a special, homemade Christmas present, for instance), or the dogs and cats at the humane society (start preparing a goodie basket, with dogfood, cleaning supplies, medical supplies, etc. and take it out as a Christmas donation). There are so many things you could start planning right now. Doing things like that will take your mind off your loneliness, and it will make someone else feel good in the bargain! I know how corny and "goody-two-shoes" it sounds, but it really works!

Shari
 
Hi Diane, I'm so sorry you weren't able to spend Thanksgiving with your folks. Sounds like you were blessed with good ones! :7 I know I am a day late but wanted to let you know I'm tickled you get to go home for Christmas. That is EVEN BETTER! Thanks for wishing us a happy holiday. Hope you enjoyed dinner with your friends. Okay, I'm off to RE-wash my kitchen floor for the second time in TWO days! Ha! (The joy of family!!! ;-))
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Don't feel bad, Debbie! I just mopped the upstairs bathroom with bleachy water as the toilet went over! Yuck. I ran downstairs for the plunger, looked in the DS toilet and told my 6 year-old he had to flush when he did THAT and flushed, ran back upstairs to plunge and mop then when I went into the downstairs bathroom, thought didn't I just flush this and flushed again and it started to rise! Thank heaven, it didn't go over!
I hope it isn't gonna be one of those days! I am already over my mopping quota for the week!

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Oh no Bobbi!! Funny, we had to plunge one of our toilets the day BEFORE Turkey Day and it made me nervous we'd have an overflow, but THANKFULLY, it all rose just FINE! ;-) I'll be thinking of you while I'm back on my knees!
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!
 
Thanks everyone for making my Thanksgiving fun even though I was not with my family. I just ended up reading (C.S. Lewis - the best!!) and going to a movie with a friend (Lost in Translation - very strange, yet interesting movie). On the bright side, I didn't have tons and tons of extra calories to burn off from my Thanksgiving meal ;) I saw on CNN that the typical Thanksgiving dinner has 3,000 calories and 292 grams of fat. But I'm sure NO Catheites would EVER eat that much :p

Hi Rhonda - I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your sister-in-law. You and your family will be in my prayers tonight.

Thanks,
Diane
 
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