Janice, nursing school is the most difficult thing I've ever been through but I never had doubts during it. I have to agree with the folks on here who are saying if you have this much anxiety and doubt over it now, it is NOT right for you. There is no shame in quitting a program when you realize what you are studying is not your passion. I tell my daughter this all the time when she ties herself up in knots over her clarinet playing. If it's not your passion, you already KNOW that inside. And there are far too many people in this world who wake up miserable everyday and drag themselves to jobs they hate. Don't do that to yourself. You DO have a choice. We all do. The real courage comes with realizing that and making the change.
I hate to give advice to strangers on the Internet since it seems so assuming and smug to sit back and analyze someone's life from a few words in a post, but in this instance I'm going to because I can feel your pain and frustration coming through loud and clear. Here goes:
1) Ditch your therapist and find another one. I've been there ... done that ... and anyone who intimates you're a failure if you quit a program that is making you absolutely miserable is a bonehead, IMHO. It's obvious to more than just me that you are not happy in nursing school.
2) Quit nursing school. Do it now. If you're this miserable learning how to be a nurse believe me when I tell you that you will be a hundred times more miserable actually working as one. And forgive me if this sounds harsh, but no patient needs a miserable nurse taking care of them - even for 8 short hours ... which to a sick person is not "short" at all.
3) If you want to move to MN, be a housewife and have babies, then do it. If that's what you feel in your heart will make you happy, then make yourself happy. Don't do it for your family. Your family is not living your life - YOU are. Don't do it for them - do it for YOU, if that is what YOU truly want. This may sound selfish but I don't believe it is - I think it's a matter of self-preservation. You sound to me from all your other posts like someone who rarely puts her own needs and wants first. I think your body and basically your entire being is telling you that you need to do that, and you need to do it NOW before you implode.
Hope I haven't offended you. I'm speaking from my heart, and as someone who has "watched" you struggle through this for quite a while now. Take care of yourself for a change.
Carol