This thread has been incredibly insightful—thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences.
I wasn’t born with what people might consider a “genetically gifted” athletic body. As an ectomorph, I’ve always found it difficult to build muscle mass, and my frame lacks the curves that many around me seemed to prize. In my late 20s, I pursued fitness for all the wrong reasons—not from a place of self-love, but to silence the unkind comments from others, particularly from some college women who, frankly, could be quite harsh.
Back then, I completed three full rounds of P90X, and somewhat by accident, I discovered Cathe’s workouts. Her energy, endurance, and sheer power captivated me. Even though I’ve only seen her through a screen, her strength left a lasting impression on me.
As someone in STEM, I naturally take a methodical and research-driven approach to health and fitness. After diving into books, watching countless testimonials, and examining scientific studies, I eventually simplified my focus to one core metric:
strength-to-weight ratio. That became my personal gauge of success.
Cathe’s original STS series helped me unlock a level of strength I never thought possible. I became lean and strong—and to my quiet satisfaction, I could outperform many of my male office colleagues in pull-ups, across various grips.
Now in my middle age, things are shifting. My endurance isn’t what it used to be, and recovery takes longer than before. For a while, I grieved the decline in performance. But I’ve since re-framed that mindset. It’s not about what I used to do—it’s about adapting and preparing for the years ahead, caring for the body that’s carried me this far.
I’m still pushing myself with STS and STS 2.0, and yes, I’m still doing real pull-ups and lifting heavy. But I’ve learned to respect my need for recovery, and I give myself that grace.
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that
no one else’s path is a perfect fit for yours. Feedback—however well-meaning—is shaped by someone else’s life, body, and circumstances. We each have to tailor our routines to our physiology, life’s responsibilities, and where we are in our journey.
As for cardio, I now focus on 1–2 short sessions that really elevate my heart rate, with the rest being martial arts or simply moving more throughout the day. Walking has become an underrated but essential tool—not just for fitness, but for peace of mind.
I’ve come to embrace a broader, more balanced view of fitness. One that includes strength, longevity, adaptability, and kindness toward myself.
Just my two cents, from where I stand today.
