Yes, Women Can be Cruel!!!

jaypea

Cathlete
I remember reading a post about how women can be cruel. Well, I had to share this.
I am a teacher, and yesterday when I was making copies in the copy room, an older teacher came in, and this is what she said...
"Jen, how much weight did you lose?" I told her 7 pounds (thinking...big whoop). She is looking me up and down. Then, I hear,
"Are you sick?", "I heard you have an awful class" (I do, but hey, I get them every now and then), "I am worried about you caue you look too thin". "You must be exercising too much"...blah, blah, blah. And, she kept drilling me over and over.

I was defending myself, but the whole time, I was thinking, "Why am I defending my healthy lifestyle?" I wake up early to work out for 30-45 min about 4 mornings a week, I work out maybe one day on the weekend (I do have a little one). I eat regularly, maybe could be a little cleaner, and I try to keep a positive outlook on life. What the he**?

Here's another doozy (yes, this happened in the same day)...I sell a Direct Sales product on the side, and I absolutely love it. It's my hobby, and I have so much fun doing it. Well, last week, I got a lead (on the company's website) from someone who wanted to buy my product and wanted me to send them a catalog. So, I had e-mailed that person and sent out a catalog the very next day. Yesterday, upon returning from work, there sat the envelope with the catalog. The postal service had returned it to me marked "address does not exist". Then, I went back to the lead information on the company site, and saw that that person left really nasty comments about my and my services (how she would not recommend me to anyone, etc.). Here, it turns out that the whole thing was bogus. Why would someone do that? I believe it is someone at work who copies the jewelry I sell and sells it to teachers I work with, but can't be sure. I am going to have that case investigated by my lawyer (I just hope yahoo will give out subcriber info the the lawyer).

Anyway, I feel a lot better now because it is a new day. But, like the other poster a few weeks ago, I don't understand women!!! They are a rare breed! Thanks for reading this post.

Have a great weekend!!! I can't wait till I get those new DVDs-they look awesome!
-Jen:)
 
I'm sorry you had those negative experiences... sounds like the first one is the classic case of envy (I do think women get jealous of other women losing weight and getting in shape)... the second one sounds just plain hateful. Yes, women can be cruel... but so can men, kids even. Not to get up on a soapbox, but I think there's a reason there has always been war on this planet... and, IMO, always will be.

On a happier note, I can't wait for the new DVDs also. I'm hoping by this time next week, I'll be recovering from one of them!!!!!
Have a great weekend, too.
 
I'm sorry Jen. I'm a teacher also, and I've had the exact opposite exerience. I don't have advice for you and really don't know what I would do if that happened to me. Hang in there and be proud...7 pounds...woo hoo!
Angela:7
 
Jen,

I am sorry for your bad experiences. I must say that I agree 100%! I get along MUCH better with men then women. (No offense ladies!) I make friends with them easier. I get along with them better. I feel more comfortable around them. Why? Because women can get catty, viscious, cruel, competitive etc. I just can't stand that! ACK! I do have women friends but only a slight few. Most of my friends are guys. I wish it were different but atleast I have friends right? ;) :p Actually, even counting the men, there are only a few people whom I consider REAL FRIENDS...but that's a topic for another day...:)

Congrats on your weight loss! I'm sure you look FANTASTIC!:)
 
Don't write women off just because one was a bitch to you. I love being with other, like-minded, smart and funny women. They entertain me and stimulate me in ways men don't and cannot because as Harry says, "the sex (often) gets in the way." Everytime I meet a man who wants to chat in the Bookstore/coffee shop I have to be wary if he isn't a lot older. They latch onto you and even though I drop hints about DH and kids, they still want my telephone number. So what, can I not chat with a man without him thinking I want sex from him? Annoying, very annoying. With women, there's no other agenda and they can be so supportive. They understand men as you do and can see why you might have complaints about the man in your life, they help to put it in perspective and as we see on the post here labelled "DH .... paranoid?" we women can be so good at cutting through the bullshit and telling others when to start worrying and when to calm down.

My women friends are one of the best things in my life and I wish I had more of them.

The other woman, the teacher, ignore her in a friendly way, she probaby feels threatened by your weight loss, especially if she herself is in a rut and not making the most of or improving her life and self. Nothing really to worry about there.

Clare
 
What a terrible experience and all in 48 hours! Let it go!
There are unhappy (thus nasty & cruel) people of all genders races and creeds....
What a wonderful workd it will become when women start to support and uplift and encourage each other! We are a powerful group indeed and when we stop attacking and judging each other we can overcome and accomplish anything!
Thats one of the reasons I love the debates on these boards... 95% of the time we are sharing opinions (as diverse as they may be) without throwing daggers or putting each other down... Thats my kind of ladies! (with a few good men thrown into the mix!)
Cathe is the epitomy of women supporting women... More could take her example.
:7
 
Jen, I can feel your frustration. All I can say is that when you find out who did that to you, B**** slap the heifer into next week. The nerve of her.}( }( }(
 
Thanks everyone,
I feel that I this site has many intelligent women who are very supportive of each other. Thanks for the support and a "listening ear". Now, that it is 2 days later, I am fine. I am still going to investigate the bogus business thing (cause that's not o.k. with me). Maybe in 7th grade that stuff happened (cause it was normal adolescent girl behavior), but not when I'm 31 and someone was deliberately trying to ruin my business.

As for the lady at work, I do understand that she may be a little envious about the weight loss and about good things that are happening in my life. She will not get me down. I was having one of those days, and I just felt down for the time being.

Well, I am up early to get some exercise. And, I do have plans to spend time with some "good" girlfriends later on.

Thanks again,
-Jen
p.s. New workouts coming soon.........woo-hoo!!! I'm still excited even though I have to wait till Christmas:) .
 

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