Why do guys do this??

Awesome!!

Don't feel like a heel. Better that you said something rather than stewing and fretting. He seems like a sweetie, anyway, from that response!!

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
>Ok...I got an extremely sweet response back from this guy
>about how he found humor in what I wrote since he's actually
>going to be making more in his personal finances this year and
>our dating is certainly NOT an issue and is sorry if he in
>anyway made me feel that way. Also went on to mention that
>he's been having a GREAT time with me and can't wait to
>continue doing so, Wants to stay overnight with me for this
>faire, etc. etc. I feel like an IDIOT now. Of course one of
>my friends said how wonderful his email is despite the tone of
>my email and I just felt more like a heel. :eek:

Don't feel like an idiot. It's better to talk about things and know what's going on than to avoid them and wonder if anything is wrong. On a side note, I think he should stop talking about money like that if he doesn't want that type of reaction. I would react the same way you did.
 
Hello divagirl,

I agree with the girls when they tell you not to fret - 'don't feel like a heel'. You don't know what is going in his mind, you can only go by what he tells you. If he is saying things that you find unsettling or upsetting then you should let him know so he can clarify. You have not been together that long so you cannot know each other well enough to predict their behaviour.

It's worse when you just let this stew inside you and get more confused each time: the relationship will surely fail that way. I think you did the right thing by telling him: he did the right by replying and putting you at ease.

Keep going out with him, but be cautious until you know each other better. I hope he turns out to be a kind, considerate and generous person you've been looking for; after the previous bad dates you deserve it.

Please let us know if it works out.

Yen
 
I agree with the other ladies here. I think honesty is a FAR better policy and is really the only way a relationship can move forward. You have to be willing to be a little vulnerable sometimes, know what I mean?

Anyway, I'm glad it worked out! :)

Marie
 
I don't think the tone of your e-mail should be of any concern! I think it was written in a nice tone, just trying to get on the same page...classy! Don't think twice about it!

I did want to say that if the subject comes up again with him (or someone else...unless he is "the one";) ) then I would respond by suggesting less expensive alternatives...dinner and a movie at home, picnics at a park, that sort of thing.
 
Thankyou all for your help. I felt I did have to say something. My friend accidentally sent him a copy of an email I sent her yesterday which had my original email to him and his response. I could have killed her and died myself. I had to do damage control yesterday on that by email and then briefly mentioned it over the phone to this guy. I had to tell him I sent her my email to him because I wasn't sure if it sounded too harsh and wanted her opinion. I have to laugh about it today but it was quite embarrassing yesterday.. Copy, paste, copy paste. Learned that lesson.
 
How did your friend "accidentially" send an e-mail between you and her...off to him? Wouldn't she have to click "Forward" and then submit his e-mail address in the "To:______" space?
 
How did your friend "accidentially" send an e-mail between you and her...off to him? Wouldn't she have to click "Forward" and then submit his e-mail address in the "To:______" space?
 
>How did your friend "accidentially" send an e-mail between
>you and her...off to him? Wouldn't she have to click
>"Forward" and then submit his e-mail address in the
>"To:______" space?


I was just wondering that myself...

but I did make a mistake one time - DH was getting ready to start a really grueling work week, so to make his day a little more... um, I guess colorful is a good word, I sent him a very detailed and graphic email. When you type in the recipient's name a bunch of addresses show up that start with the first letter you type in, going in order of who you write the most. DH's name starts with D, and the only other person I email as much as DH is my grandparents, whose name also starts with D... you know exactly where this is going already, right? I have never been so embarrassed in my life! My grandpa thought it was hilarious, though... :+ I still get red faced when I see them.

Missy
 
>How did your friend "accidentially" send an e-mail between
>you and her...off to him? Wouldn't she have to click
>"Forward" and then submit his e-mail address in the
>"To:______" space?


I was just wondering that myself...

but I did make a mistake one time - DH was getting ready to start a really grueling work week, so to make his day a little more... um, I guess colorful is a good word, I sent him a very detailed and graphic email. When you type in the recipient's name a bunch of addresses show up that start with the first letter you type in, going in order of who you write the most. DH's name starts with D, and the only other person I email as much as DH is my grandparents, whose name also starts with D... you know exactly where this is going already, right? I have never been so embarrassed in my life! My grandpa thought it was hilarious, though... :+ I still get red faced when I see them.

Missy
 
>How did your friend "accidentially" send an e-mail between
>you and her...off to him? Wouldn't she have to click
>"Forward" and then submit his e-mail address in the
>"To:______" space?

Ima, my thoughts exactly! Not only did she click forward, she clicked send. I have my girl-friends and my guy-friends but if I'm dating someone that email address is only for me to know. In this case I assume that he's also her friend so I wouldn't email her about him to avoid those "accidents".
 
Hmmm. Depending on how long you have been dating I don't feel it is out of the question to expect both parties to chip in. If the guy suggests something you can't afford or don't want just say its outside your budget.

KIM
 
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