Why can't I get pregnant???

[lcobb2]

My husdand and I have been trying to have a baby via IVF and ICSI (i.e., insert one sperm into one egg) for over a year. I conceived last year, but micarried at 13 weeks. We've tried to conceive three times since then--one feritilized egg implanted each time, but it never implanted. My husband had a vasectomy reversal at the seven year mark and it "took". However, we still haven't been able to hold onto a baby. It's hell, but maybe I'm just meant to adopt. Especially considering the dream that I had last night (in my dream a woman already had twin boys and a one-week-old daughter who should couldn't care for. I asked her if she'd be willing to let me adopt her). I want to love a child so badly. Maybe my husband and I don't need to "reproduce" ourselves. The world has enough children. Maybe this is God's way of saying, "Give an existing deserving child a home." Maybe that's why I was recently looking up the option of adopting a retired military dog. They're already trained and they need a home.

All I know is that I want to be a mother. Any helpful advice you can provide?

Thanks,

Laura

"The difficult periods of life provide the best opportunities to gain useful experiences and develop inner strength. " ~ Dalai Lama

 

[chefkate]

Oh Laura. My heart goes out to you. Infertility is such a hard thing. My only piece of advice would be to read the book "taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wesschler (sp?). I found myself teaching my FORMER-OB things about fertility. You will learn so much from this book.

 

[EricaH]

Hi Laura,

I have 4 children - three were born after years of infertility treatments (one set of twins) and our last one was a "surprise". We also had unsuccessful IVF and ICSI cycles. Infertility is so difficult emotionally, physically and financially.

When I was undergoing infertility treatments, I joined a support group called Resolve (this was before the internet was popular). We shared stories and supported each other and actually had a lot of fun. Every single one of us in the group ended up with a baby one way or another. One adopted, several got pregnant using assisted reproduction and two got pregnant on their own.

I don't really have any advice for you, but I just wanted to say that I understand what you are going through and wish you lots of luck in building the family you dream of.


Good luck!

Erica

 

[amhess]

Hi Laura,
I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through. I too have had problems. 3 m/c's and the most recent in the past 3 weeks. I actually have a genetic disorder, balanced translocation, so my eggs have some bad strands of chromosomes and if the baby gets the bad one's it will miscarry. I've been going through the same emotions as you. I want a baby so bad too and I'm feeling like next year we'll have to think about adoption. My DH isn't really ready to talk about adoption, so I'm trying not to push it yet and just keep trying naturally. I can't afford IVF either.

Anyway, if you ever need to chat I'm here! It's really tough and I don't have a lot of answers for you, but maybe moving on to adoption would be the right thing for you. I'm sure you've heard the many stories of people starting adoption and then getting pregnant, so you just never know.

I hope you keep the Faith and understand that one way or another you will be a Mom someday. I believe I will be too.

Anne

 

[chefkate]

Hello Anne! So nice to see you!
Glad to hear you keeping encouraged.
(((((hugs)))))