Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you nervous?

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lundquist93

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Just a question for all of those out there who are trying to convceive or pregnant with your first.

Although excited, are you any of you nervous about how your life will change? How do you deal with the roller coaster of emotions?
 
I'm 33 weeeks pregnant with my first:) I am excited, nervous and how do I deal with it? Hmm..I talk about how I feel with my DH so it doesn't all build up. I also try not to dwell on how my life - otherwise, I would never get to sleep again! It is something I am very happy about, so I try to accept it. I don't know how things will change, I just know that they will. I hope that I have the patience and perserverance to maintain a happy life despite these unforeseen changes:) I don't feel like I have answered your questions very well though!
 
Hi,

I am 28 weeks pregnant with my first and we are going to have a little girl.

I am really really excited, not nervous and ready to have this big change in my life happening. I am just very anxcious to start a new chapter of my life, I can't wait!

Don't worry to much about it, I am sure everything will work out just fine as long as you know that you and your DH are ready to have a baby.

Kristine :)
 
I am not TTC or pregant with my first but hopefully I can help you. I have 2 little girls now, age 3years and 4 months. After months of TTC, I became pregnant with DD #1. Everyone asked my hubby and i if we were excited, we responded no! Although our little girl was planned, we were both anxious about the changes it would bring, the lack of sleep and lack of me time. We truly believed our life would stink with a newborn. Well, we did get little sleep with dd#1 but the only thing that stunk was her poop. Lol. I had very realistic expectations of the difficulty of motherhood and as a result, it wasn't as hard an adjustment as I thought it would be. Good luck.
 
Shopaholic - Your post hit home with me. DH and I have been trying for months and are currently seeing a specialist to get pregnant. I am nervous about all of the things you mentioned and it makes me feel so much better that I'm not the only one who felt this way. LOL! Your post made me laugh and also made me realize it's normal to be nervous about the life changes that we can expect.

DH and I have been together for 13 years, so it will be quite a change for us to have a newborn in our lives. We truly are very excited about starting a family, but as you said, we have very realistic expectations of what a newborn brings.

By the way, you are inspirational with your post partum workouts and I hope to join the post partum check-in in the future. I will probably be asking you for a lot of advice!

P.S. Shopaholic, I read on the Post Partum check-in that you are around 5 ft tall...so am I. I am so inspired that you were able to get back into shape so quickly. Did you find it hard to carry a pregnancy being so small?

Thanks to everyone for their posts.
 
I'm not pregnant or TTC, but I can tell you that having my son is the BEST thing that has ever happened to me. I never thought I could love someone or something so much. Yes, being a parent is hard work and yes, it does change your life, but all in a positive way. I was never scared just excited. He is now six and an absolute doll.

Tina
 
It is absolutely normal to be nervous - I wake up at night thinking about it - it's this big unknown at this point in my life. But, it is important to be optimistic as well. Good luck with your specialist:) DH and I were going down this route and I was looking at a possible 2 year timeframe before I would ever even get pregnant. We've been married for 5 years now and had settled into a comfortable routine before I got pregnant. But, as luck would have it, I got pregnant before I actually had any treatment. I still don't understand how it happened given the doctor's initial findings! It was a complete shock as a result. I also thought pregnancy would be this wonderful event in my life - and the reality of it was such a shock too. I even felt guilt for feeling terrible about it at first, especially given our initial struggle to become pregnant. I think it's important to be honest about your feelings and expectations as is finding other women to share this with - partners/husbands are important in this regard too! I wish you the best!
 
Stardust, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree that it's all the "unknown" that can make me nervous. That is wonderful that you were able to get pregnant before treatment! I do think that once I actually get pregnant I will be much more excited. All of the doctor appt's and testing and such can really put a damper on being excited. It really does help to talk to other women about their experiences. Thanks so much for sharing!
 
Lunquist, quite a few of my friends had postpartum depression. All of them reported thinking that parenthood was going to be great and all hoped to be perfect moms. I on the hand, as mentioned, was realistic and despite a family history of depression was a happy new mom with both my girls. On another note, being petite, I showed very quickly. Most of my weight was tummy, so I looked big but I only had minor back aches and if you read my posts pregnant worked out til the end. I gained 23 pounds with my first, 21.5 pounds with my second. I felt good til the end and my body knew it needed to deliver petite babies and each of my girls weighed in the 6 pound range and quickly came ut. Hope this helps. BTW, if you do get pregnant soon, I have tons of tiny maternity clothes that i am selling.
 
Shopaholic,
Are you selling the maternity clothes on e-bay or ya-ya? I'd like to take a look at what you have. It might be nice to already have a few pieces on hand before I get preggo (God willing).

I plan on exercising through my pregnancy as well. I currently workout six days a week. Running is my base cardio, but I also spin, elliptical and of course use Cathe's cardio.

Aaahh, you're babies were petite, too. That is too cute!
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

My first baby is now almost 4 months old, and I had many of the same feelings while pregnant that you have. DH and I tried for almost a year to get pregnant, and when we finally succeeded I was a little bit happy and a lot nervous!! It's totally OK to be worried about how your life will change, it just shows that you're being realistic.

Having a baby was a lot more work and much more life-changing than I ever could have imagined. All of the work (diaper changes, midnight feedings) and lost "me" time, though, is totally worth it. I expected to be overwhelmed by the work (I feared endless diaper changes), but I never knew just how much I would love my baby and enjoy every minute with him. He's not the "intruding visitor" I sometimes imagined him to be, but a real part of our family.
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

Can I just thank you all for being so honest and open about this subject. I know it may not be a popular thing to say "yes, I was nervous about giving up my life as it was". But I am so glad that there are people willing to say yes, I felt that too and it's normal. It's also great to know how happy everyone is with their new additions and how wonderful motherhood can be.

I'm 33 years old and sometimes fear that I should have done this when I was younger. But I know I'm so much more prepared for a baby now that I ever would have been in my 20's.
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

Babbly me is back. First I am selling my stuff at craigslist, but have too much to list. You name it, I have it. I didn't realize how much maternity clothes I bought til I packed them all up. I found nice maternity clothes kept my morale up and feeling good about myself. I bought out the old navy maternity department. email me to chat more at [email protected]. Second, I was 33 when I had my first, 36 when I had my second. We will be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary tomorrow. I am glad we didn't rush into parenthood. I never thought I'd be ready but once all my friends were moms too, the transition was easier. I am a therapist, and I believe too many people are afraid to admit the difficulties of parenthood. It is a tough job, but strangely you end quickly adjusting and forgetting about those days when you can just take your tiny purse and go. everything takes longer these days but you get used to it.
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

Shopaholic,

Congrats on your wedding anniversary! That is wonderful! Any plans to celebrate?

I tried to send you an e-mail, but it came back undeliverable. I tried it twice. ??? My e-mail is [email protected] if you want to try to e-mail me.

I love to hear from women who were in their 30's when having their first child. I, too, am glad that DH and I didn't rush into parenthood. We will have our 13th wedding anniversary in December, so we've spent a long time being a single couple. I have no doubt our world will be turned upside down with a new baby, but we are ready for it in a way that we would not have been when we were younger.
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

My husband just had vasectomy reversal 3 months ago and we are TTC. I am 35, he's 50 and we have been together 10 years. We already have 3 "kids" in our dogs and they are work, work, work-but they have been good practice for us. Not as nearly as intensive as kids but still have a feeding schedule, need time and attention, etc. We both have concerns about bringing a child in the world and with having a financial stake in the decision (cost of surgery), we really had to be sure. We feel very realistic about the whole thing-with both our ages-it may not happen for us. We are more nervous than excited at this point, but the deciding factor was really our love for each other. We had deep reasons-We both really feel like if something happened to the other, we really wanted that combination of ourselves to exist to help us "go on" without the other. And we had our superficial reasons-we are just too curious-what in the heck would our kid look like?!? As for the roller coaster of emotions, we are just limiting our ride. If it doesn't happen this way, we are not going to try anything else. I will say it has been a little difficult each month when you get that sign that it hasn't happened, but that's really about it. I just try to get back to reality-it's really too soon to be thinking negatively. I wish you luck!

Jen
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

My DD was born in July '00 and I turned 30 in October '00. My DH and I had been married since 1990 and couple since 1986. DD was an EASY baby and so the transition was easy. Four years later, our DS was born. I am certain the transition to parenting would have been more difficult if he had been our first.

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Autumn
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

I am TTC, and also excited and nervous. There are moments when it hits me that our lives are going to change forever, and DH reminds me that once we have a baby, his days of being "worry-free" are over, but we are both so excited to have a little one. I can only imagine how joyful it will be to watch him/her grow up. I know there will be ups and downs, but all of our own lives are ups and downs, and we've survived those times. I have faith in my God to get me through.

Chrissy
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

Jen, I am 33 and my hubby is 42. We feel the same way in that we committed to trying for a certain amount of time and with a certain amount of assistance. But, after that I think there is a degree of fate that I am not comfortable messing with.

Chrissy, I agree, I am so excited about watching a little one grow up and all the ways that decorating for holidays will become magical again. And you're right, there will be ups and downs but that is life.

Thanks again for all the wonderful responses.
 
RE: Who is TTC or pregnant with your first? Are you n...

Heck yes, I am afraid!!! As of next week, my husband and I will be parents of twins!! (boy/girl) I have really never had to be this responsible, as I have been able to do/go/be whatever I want. Now, I know my life is not about me anymore, which is scary at times. As I say that, I am so excited to meet them and watch them grow.
I am nervous about the recovery, especially physically, but I am hoping it will go smoothly.

So many things rush through my mind in the middle of all those sleepless nights...it just shows you that life is more than we can ever dream. This journey manages to always suprise me.

jenni
36+weeks
twins!
 
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