totally frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!

C

cookiebaby

Cathlete
Hi everyone. I need to vent but I am totally perplexed and frustrated about this "epidemic" I am seeing all around me. Everywhere I go, there are many teenagers and young women my age who are extremely thin.I know about twenty five of them personally and work with six. They stuff their faces all day long with crappy junk and do not exercise at all. As one of them remarked "Sweat is like gross." I have lost weight but I do lots of exercise and eat very clean. It just frustrates the HELL out of me! Here I am trying to be healthy and lean with TONS of effort and they are eating candy bars, meat lover pizzas, potato chips, chocolate chip cookies and drinking coke like it is going out of style!!! I asked them how they do it and one girl told me it was smoking. I don't know about that but it depresses me. They all seem to look alike too. Same hair color, hair style, makeup, clothes and shoes, height, weight, and all with fake nails and a tan. I am really tall, Meditternean, no fake tan, no makeup, real nails, do not wear "fashion" and look like an elephant next to them. My hubby says they look manufactured. I think he's trying to make me feel better but I will say one oddity: many of them have double chins. Weird but I am still depressed about it!:( x( x( :( :-( x( ;( ;( ;(
 
I went to college at UC Santa Barbara and ALL my classmates were like you're describing. It was pitiful! I was 50 pounds overweight, miserable, and couldn't understand why I had to work at losing weight and they didn't.

But the more I learn about nutrition and exercise, the less I worry about them. They're goners. The simple matter is, it takes work to keep ourselves alive and healthy! If you don't put any work into your body, it won't work for you any longer than it has to.
Those double chins are saying something.

Hey wait. You're tall??? That's not fair!! I'm 5'2". That isn't something I can do anything about! ;)

I guess I mean, be grateful for your supportive husband AND the work you're putting in to keeping yourself on track. Your body thanks you no matter who it's standing next to.

Amy G
 
Their fast metabolism will catch up with them when they get older. They will be so used to eating crap all day that it will be 10x harder for them to break the habit and start taking care of their body after they gain 30 pounds. Ick - their bodies have got to be taking a huge toll with all the smoking and sugar and fat they are ingesting.

I'd rather be overweight and healthy than thin and unhealthy.


Angie
 
I'm a nurse & unfortunately I see a lot of these people & the shape their in when they are older. Trust me. If you had any clue as to how bad your health could be, you would know you are doing the right thing. Angie, it's all about strength & stamina, girl. If you gave me the choice between that and thinness, I have to say, strength & stamina. I used to be so hard on myself. Not anymore. God willing, I plan to keep on truckin' when I'm over 90 years old.

Marla
 
Those girls are setting themselves up for complete devastation! I watched some young girls buy crap to eat at the movie theatres. They have some body fat...let me tell you! They wear these tight low low pants and the rolls hang over. Sure they are slim, but not muscular. Body fat is already on its way. If you don't see it now on them, it will get there. Pour saps! They have no idea, and you do!!! Don't let it get to you. Most of the time, I do not wear make up, have my hair pulled back and probably don't look so cute then, but I would rather spend time working out then taking the time to put on makeup and then stuffing my face with a chili dog or something. I am on a roll, if I spent more time glamourizing then I wouldn't have as much time to eat right or workout...that is more important. You are doing the right thing. Stay focused!

Charlotte~~
 
I know its hard and I still struggle not to compare myself with others.Its not easy. I can remember when I lived in my SIL basement apt, she was natuarally thin,(ate take out for lunch)while I had started dating her brother and packed on 15 lbs:-( Then I changed my ways and she thought working out was the grossest thing ever as well. When she moved I felt more content with myself. I don't know why b/c it was all brought on myself.It was all in my own head, it was nothing she was doing.
Around here it is the opposite though.Alot of the younger girls have bellies that are hanging out over their jeans OR they are teenagers who are stick thin and aren't finished growing yet.
I know its fustrating but everyones metobolism is different.You can't really compare yourself to others and once you get to that place you will be comparing yourself in a good way.
Lori:)
 
Yeah, I feel your pain. I watch some others eat what they want, how they want and as often as they want and I work my a$$ off to stay in "decent" shape! I guess what it comes down to is that you are not only doing this to be thin or slender but to be on good health. That being said, I know that you want to see some results in your shape and I bet that if you think back, there are results that you have had that you are not acknowledging. Sure, you cant eat McDonald's and keep your shape but god, who wants to!? I WAS one of those girls that could eat eat eat and not have an issue as a youngster. One day, it all caught up with me - OVERNIGHT - and I had a weight issue for the next ten years. Thank god I came to my senses.

Oh, one more thing, I bet that your husband really DOES believe what he says to you. I find that when BF says stuff like that I am like "yeah sure" but when I think about him and the things that he thinks, I realize that he is not just tooting my horn and he really does think that.

Remember, accentuate the positive!
 
I know how you feel. I go through phases where I compare myself to everyone and feel very negative. It think its a quite a complex process to start feeling beautiful from the inside out.

I also think that comparing ourselves to other people can be a mistake - I remember seeing a quote that was really had a positive effect on me. I don't remember the exact words but it went something like- Be kind - because everyone you meet is fighting a battle.

I guess just because someone looks perfect, it doesn't mean they aren't struggling like we are. People who are young and who eat what they want will eventually have to go through the same process of getting older, having to eat healthier and making a choice about their bodies. It will be harder for those who have had bad eating habits for years.

What you are doing for yourself is something healthy and nourishing. Its always more beneficial to look at it in a positive way rather than say 'poor me, I can't eat this or that' Its all about trade offs. People may be able to gratify themselves in the short run by eating junk or smoking but in the long run there will be some effect. Or you could be one of those who can't eat junk too often or has to work out hard but you are getting the long term benefits of exercise and good nutrition.

I think also people who don't eat junk fall into the rut of eating the same old thing day in and day out. There are as many healthy foods out there (fruits, veg, wholegrains etc.) to provide the taste and variety that junk foods give. For eg. If I crave chocolate I know exactly what can give me that same experience/ pleasure in a manner that is good for me. A cup of pure cocoa with splenda, hot water, vanilla and a small amount of soy milk works just the same way.

Hope this helps and remember that majority of us have to work hard at maintaining balance in our lives - including the diet and exercise area.
 
Funny, I haven't noticed this at all. I wonder if it's a regional thing? I mean, I'm in north Jersey where pretty much everyone has big hair & fake nails, but all the young girls here seem fat! My cousin's daughter (who is more like my neice) is graduating HS this year & she is just plain pudgy. So are her friends.
 
Hi! You don't say how old you are (I suspect you are young 20's), but I had a similar experience with my sister. In her teens and early twenties she was very slim. She was a size 0 before they had size 0. She bought jeans in the little girls department because they were small enough. I, on the other hand, always had a weight problem. Plus, she was quite chesty and I have always been, well, not chesty. And to add insult to injury the girl existed on McDonald's and candy and coke. Never smoked, though.

Now, she is 40 and I'm 38. I am very slender (due to exercise and trying to eat well) and she is very large. It does catch up rather quickly, because the effects of her not exercising and bad eating habits were evident in her late 20's.

You'd think I'd be glad, but she's my sister and I wish she'd eat right and exercise because she is very pretty and the effects on her health can't be that great.

So, I don't really have great advice for you, but do know that regular exercise does pay off in the long run. And eating right, too.

Also, congratulations on eating well and exercising! You are doing great. Your future self will thank you mightily for it!!!!! And the future catches up with us quicker than you can possibly imagine.

Plus, I don't think your husband is blowing smoke. He married you, didn't he!?!?!!!! That alone speaks volumes about what he thinks.;)
 
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