Those crazy in-laws! A vent.

kgalas

kgalas

Cathlete
So my youngest sister-in-law got engaged recently. We are very happy for her and love her fiance. She has asked me and my husband (her brother) as well as our 3 daughters to be in her wedding party. We were very honored at this. Here's the kicker-she just sent out a save the date email for the engagement party with the added: "We are having the wedding party wear cheesy Christmas sweaters! So get shopping!" I am so bothered by this. I now have to go out and find 5 sweaters that will only be worn one time. And from the looks of ebay, this is a growing niche and these things are not cheap-$30-$40 for a men's sweater! We are a one income household that has taken a bunch of paycuts this year. I feel guilty when I shop for myself at Target!

So what do I do? Do I suck it up and buy them? Or do I just tell her it's really not in our budget to do this right now-especially with Christmas coming, etc.? And for your engagement party? Really? It's not an "Ugliest Christmas Sweater Party" where I can just decline the invite and be done. Sigh. I'm scared to see what's going to be required of us for the shower, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and wedding.

Ah, family. Gotta love 'em!

ETA: Sorry if I offended anyone with the description of the sweaters! I didn't mean to!
 
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There must be a Salvation Army or Goodwill nearby that you can find LOTS of cheasy Christmas sweaters - I have seen them there. I would go check one out!
Much easier on the wallet!

Good Luck!

Michelle
 
You beat me to it. I was also going to suggest Goodwill or the Salvation Army--must have tons of them. A friend of mine just told me she got her 12 year old son a suit at Goodwill for a one time affair. Good luck.
 
If I owned any cheesy Christmas sweaters I would send them to you ASAP!

Maybe you can paint a Christmas theme on some old sweatshirts or something?

It really doesn't make sense for an engagement party.
 
What if you take a red or green sweater and put xmas pins all over them (if you have them), or garland around you and hang tinsel off...kind of like decorate yourselves like Christimas trees. It's not exactly a sweater but it's still festive and cheesy, plus you probably have all these items lying around your house.
 
Namita and Melissa, my cousin gave me the same suggestions. I could go to the dollar store for some inexpensive pins and decorations. And I'm going to make DH hit up the resale shops-it is his sister, after all!;) I just think it's such a silly thing to do for an engagement party, but what do I know?
 
klaudia, i would say it's not in budget. if its so important to her that you all look like fools then let her buy the dumb sweaters!
 
Thanks for the support, Kate! I told DH to tell his mom we weren't going to participate, but knowing her that's what she'd do-offer to buy them for us. Fine by me!
 
Like you're not going to have enough to pay for with a shower gift, wedding gift, and all the CLOTHES for the wedding itself!:eek::eek::eek::eek:

Once I was in a wedding where Bridezilla had us all buy these really awful shoes - dyed to match the dress, platform, UGLY, etc. I had shoes that would've matched just fine...I should've put my foot down, but I didn't. Ah well, gives the girls some fun shoes for dress-up I suppose!:rolleyes:
 
ITA with going to Goodwill!! There are some awesome "ugly" sweaters there, for only a buck a pop (or less)! It seems like she's just trying to have a little fun with what is typically a more "traditional" party.
 
i am totally with kate, klaudia. tell her thanks, but not participating! what is the worst that will happen? i know i was a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding, and she picked out the worst dress ever! now, i do not mind ugly, or unflattering, but this was indecent! i told her i simply could not wear it. she was in a huff, but she got over it too.

good luck, and lots of hugs.
 
Heck, I wanna come to the ugly sweater party - sounds like fun. I;m not big into weddings and lovey dovey crap, but I love Christmas, and will wear an ugly sweater to eat free food and drinks :p:p:p

Try the Goodwill or Salvation Army, you may get out of there for under $20 for all five of you

Nan
 
kate, think black, lace, front bodice shaped in v down to my navel. and me nursing finn still. yuck!! never would i enter a church wearing that!
 
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