Teenagers, summer and curfews....

[Tamster]

A question for those of you with teenagers....

What time do they have to come home?

My teenager(age 16) came home later than he was supposed to last nite and I'm wondering about this curfew thing. I just can't bring myself to go to bed while they are still out, so I waited up for him.

I ask that he be home by midnight on the weekends and 11:15 on nights that I have to get up for work in the morning.

Thoughts or solutions are welcome...help!

Tammy

 

[tina72382]

Tammy, that sounds reasonable. Of course, it may not be as resonable to him, but when i was 16 (a whole 8 years ago ) my curfew was 12 on the weekends. weeknights, sometimes earlier. my mom would never go to bed before I got home.

 

[Dml]

Hi Tammy,
My daughter just turned 17 and we never really had a "curfew". That said, none of my kids are allowed to "just hang out". They have to be at a specific, supervised event or friends home. As far as I'm concerned, in this day and age, they really don't need to be out "running the streets". Midnight or 11:15 without a specific activity to be participating in wouldn't happen at our home. We also bought her a prepaid cell phone for a 16th b-day present. She calls when she arrives somewhere and before she leaves. If there is nothing "to get into" it is well worth the $20 for us to rent a movie, buy lots of junk food, and have a sleepover at our house, and we do this several times a month. The teens stay up all night watching movies and "just hanging out" at our home. Best money we ever spend. We know all of our kids friends, know who to keep an "extra eye" on, and almost always have a house full.
Blessings,
Denise

 

[exercise forever]

When I was 17 I had to be in at 10:30 on the weekend. My parents said what you can't do before then,you don't need to be doing it at all. I didn't agree with this at the time,but boy do I know how she felt now. I have two 13 yr.old kids and right now they are not allowed to go roam around now anyway. Unless it is related with family or something I'm comfortable with. And this has to be with an adult. At least right now until the appropiate age.


kim