Sister Wives?

[Jonezie]

So I mean this as a genuinely inquisitive question, not at all as a judgement. Has anyone been watching Sister Wives on TLC Sunday nights? I'm intrigued by it...and trying to watch it with objective curiosity. Did anyone see last night's episode? Where Wife #3 left the interview after the husband announced he'd helped Wife #4 pick out her wedding dress? I felt so sad for her...it was heartbreaking.

I'm not about to pick up polygamy for myself...but I find this show interesting to watch. Mainly because the women are so interesting. And I'm really trying to understand what must be a very complex emotional situation.

Jonezie

 

[morgs]

OMG too funny ! I was going to post on Sister Wives as well.
Honestly, I think it's a pretty interesting show. Only one reason: These gals seem to have 'no problem' with him courting another woman to be a fourth wife. I have only caught glimpses of the show becuase believe it or not , I'm a total channel surfer, but, it's amazing how well these women get along ! I'd be a fightin B*@#~ ! They really must have serious control over thier emotions like you said. Cool thing is, they look like they are all very good parents and what's most important are that the kids get the care that they need and it looks like they have that pretty much mastered. Thier patience level is off the scale !!

Good post !

Morgs

 

[cindi1]

Agree - I am surprised by the women and how they mother and get along in support of each other. The husband was also not what I expected either -less dominant.

Sometimes when they talk about it - it all sounds very logical and I think, hmm - an extra wife WOULD come in handy sometimes. Then I wouldn't always have to make dinner!

I suggested it to my DH and he said maybe I should just hire a housekeeper - probably a wiser approach to my dirty house dilemma.

 

[JT]

They were on Oprah last week where many emotions opened up about jealousy and other things. The wives stated they have learned to smooth the rough edges off of bad emotions. During the 1st wife's anniversary, although, he told her it would be "vulgarity" if she took another lover even though he has 4. A couple of the wives grew up in poligamist communities.
If you can download the show, it is worthwhile to watch.

 

[Worknprogress]

I don't know what to think about this or if I could live in the situation however, I agree with Cindi. When things are crazy to manage in the house, I could definitely use another wife - NOT another man!

 

[Liann]

I am WAY too jealous to deal with a situation like that. No way, not happening! I think it's a double standard though telling the wife she can't be with other guys when he has a whole hen house. Screw that!

 

[jacmar]

I am WAY too jealous to deal with a situation like that. No way, not happening! I think it's a double standard though telling the wife she can't be with other guys when he has a whole hen house. Screw that!

Liann ~ I am with you. There is no way I would share my hubby! And your baby is SO cute!!

 

[cindi1]

I watched that episode last night on DVR - where he was telling wife #1 - Meri - how disgusting it was to think of her with another man. He did admit it made him sound hypocritical. It was interesting, he didn't want to talk about or acknowledge her feelings...as if it would call into question their lifestyle.

 

[RapidBreath]

There is a certain sanity to having more than one woman to spread the work around so no one person has to do everything.

forgetting about the ooky part and shared stds/yeast infections.

 

[ebonynicole]

I just think this is completely ridiculous. To me that is someone who is being greedy and hypocritical. If it's all well and dandy then one of his wives could go and marry another man, what's the difference.

To me alot of this is a man having his cake and eating it too...

 

[Rocket]

These women spend way too much time extolling the advantages of plural marriage, if you ask me. They seem to be trying to convince themselves, not us.

And when they talk about how great it is to have their child-rearing burden shared, I can't help but think some of the wives wish the others would stop popping out babies.

I'd like to see some scenes where the sister wives and their husband cope with the inevitable conflicts in parenting technique, financial priorities, personality clashes, etc. And I'd love to see a frank discussion of the competition the wives must occasionally feel toward each other. Now THAT would be TV worth watching.

 

[Jonezie]

These women spend way too much time extolling the advantages of plural marriage, if you ask me. They seem to be trying to convince themselves, not us.

And when they talk about how great it is to have their child-rearing burden shared, I can't help but think some of the wives wish the others would stop popping out babies.

I'd like to see some scenes where the sister wives and their husband cope with the inevitable conflicts in parenting technique, financial priorities, personality clashes, etc. And I'd love to see a frank discussion of the competition the wives must occasionally feel toward each other. Now THAT would be TV worth watching.

Rocket, I've wondered the same thing...about the number of babies the other wives are having. The first wife only has one child. But I think they love having the big family...and ALL the children.

About the inevitable conflicts...on the last episode, one of the wives had to leave the interview (in tears) because the husband picked out the wedding dress with the 4th wife but had not done so with the other three. And there was lots of conflict discussion on the Oprah interview last week. But, as the other posters mentioned, they have a way of speaking so logically and rationally about sharing the household responsibilities, you almost buy it. When Wife #2 (the "career woman") talked about having someone else take care of dinner after working a 12 hour day, I was like "Yeah, that would be great!" But alas, I'm an only child...and I don't share well...especially husbands.

Jonezie