LauraMax
Cathlete
I've been training with a friend for about 5-6 months now. She swears she wants to do my routine & wants the same body type I have. She's a little taller but she is built similarly.
But her workouts have been spotty. Like, one week we'll do our leg routine together, & tris/shoulders, but she'll do back/bis & chest on her own & I know she's not following my routine. She's gonna end up completely out of proportion--my routine has been developed over the years for maximum effectiveness for my body type & every exercise has a specific purpose. She's been working out for about 18 mos. & I think when she goes on her own it's a little of this & a little of that without any thought or purpose.
I can barely talk to her about cardio & core. She's totally obsessed w/her abs--she does something like 300-400 crunches a day. But she does absolutely no cardio at all. During the last 2 weeks she's started doing 20 minutes or so on the elliptical a few times a week. She absolutely refuses to even try one of Cathe's workouts. She says she's not coordinated enough even though I told her there are basic workouts & she could work her way up to the more fun stuff.
And the diet! THE DIET! She doesn't eat........when she gets to the gym I ask her what she's eaten that day & about 80% of the time the answer is "nothing." Otherwise I'll hear "last night I ate an entire box of sugar donuts and I feel so guilty." I'm pretty sure she has an eating disorder b/c she is super-thin (5'6", 105 lbs) but I have no idea how to approach it without offending her or hurting her feelings.
Finally, the social aspect--I think before she started training w/me the gym was more of a social thing for her than anything else. I'm a no-nonsense exerciser, & much of this has to do w/time. I don't want my one hour lifting workout to turn into 2 1/2 hours. She's extremely outgoing & has this passel of groupies who are continually interrupting us just to BS. Usually I just ignore them & continue exercising but when she keeps chatting she holds me up.
So I'm kind of thinking about not training with her anymore. I love her dearly and of course we'll stay friends, but I kind of feel like I'm wasting my time w/her if she's gonna pick & choose when she'll train w/me & which body part she'll do, & if she's not gonna eat right b/c she's kind of undoing any progress she's made.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
But her workouts have been spotty. Like, one week we'll do our leg routine together, & tris/shoulders, but she'll do back/bis & chest on her own & I know she's not following my routine. She's gonna end up completely out of proportion--my routine has been developed over the years for maximum effectiveness for my body type & every exercise has a specific purpose. She's been working out for about 18 mos. & I think when she goes on her own it's a little of this & a little of that without any thought or purpose.
I can barely talk to her about cardio & core. She's totally obsessed w/her abs--she does something like 300-400 crunches a day. But she does absolutely no cardio at all. During the last 2 weeks she's started doing 20 minutes or so on the elliptical a few times a week. She absolutely refuses to even try one of Cathe's workouts. She says she's not coordinated enough even though I told her there are basic workouts & she could work her way up to the more fun stuff.
And the diet! THE DIET! She doesn't eat........when she gets to the gym I ask her what she's eaten that day & about 80% of the time the answer is "nothing." Otherwise I'll hear "last night I ate an entire box of sugar donuts and I feel so guilty." I'm pretty sure she has an eating disorder b/c she is super-thin (5'6", 105 lbs) but I have no idea how to approach it without offending her or hurting her feelings.
Finally, the social aspect--I think before she started training w/me the gym was more of a social thing for her than anything else. I'm a no-nonsense exerciser, & much of this has to do w/time. I don't want my one hour lifting workout to turn into 2 1/2 hours. She's extremely outgoing & has this passel of groupies who are continually interrupting us just to BS. Usually I just ignore them & continue exercising but when she keeps chatting she holds me up.
So I'm kind of thinking about not training with her anymore. I love her dearly and of course we'll stay friends, but I kind of feel like I'm wasting my time w/her if she's gonna pick & choose when she'll train w/me & which body part she'll do, & if she's not gonna eat right b/c she's kind of undoing any progress she's made.
Any thoughts or suggestions?