OT-I can't measure up-VENTING

MRSchultz

MRSchultz

Cathlete
OK - I need to vent here girls!

My DH and I own a bar and grill with his cousin and have owned it for a little over nine years. Those two pretty much run it since I have a full time job during the week so they both take care of it. (I do work at least once during the weekend, too). Anyway, they hired another bartender, of course, she's cute, skinny, single, young, etc...... I feel so 'out of it'. Ya know....OLD!!!! I'm not worried at all that he'll ever leave me for someone else, but I just feel so old, fat, ugly, prudish, etc. OK - I know this sounds like I'm feeling sorry for myself and maybe I am-UGH- I don't know. I guess I needed to vent to all of you.

I'm looking at it this way: OK young chick you wait and see what I can become! I am currently trying to lose about 40 pounds and am eating very clean and on an AWESOME rotation that kicks my butt in a good way, so I guess those little girls better watch out because I'm emerging better than ever and could kick there butts!

:7 Marcia :7

P.S. Thanks, just needed to vent.
 
Marcia, there's something very powerful about consistently completing Cathe workouts and eating healthy and clean. One begins to feel so strong and very empowered. That young'un has nothing on you on you, I bet.

Marla;-) :D
 
THANK YOU Marla. You are right, that little pip-squeak couldn't last 10 minutes doing a Cathe workout. :)

THANK YOU, just what I needed to hear.

~Marcia~
 
Wow, I could have written your post. I have been feeling the same way. I'm about to turn 40 and never dreamed it would affect me so much. Are you about to be 40 too? Just curious. Here's hoping we both get over this yucky feeling soon. I don't think we are just feeling sorry for ourselves - at least this is the first time I've experienced feeling like this. But then my periods are starting to disappear so I'm wondering if I'm having some sort of early perimenopause? I'm rambling. Feel better soon.
Lisa
 
Marcia, if you're not worried that your hubby will leave you for another, then no problemo. And just think, as you get stronger, leaner and meaner with those Cathe workouts, he'll fall more in love with you.;-)

I feel old most of the time, but I'm sure I can hold my own around those pretty young things.:)

Pinky
 
Hi Lisa:

I'm 35 years OLD. I'm glad I'm not alone, but Marla really helped with her post above, please read it.

I agree, though, I sure hope this feeling goes away soon. I don't even want to go down to the bar because I will feel so 'oh, I don't know-no fun!?!?!?' Ya know....? And, that is NOT like me, normally that stuff doesn't bother me and I sail right through it, but for some reason this time it bothered.

Yes, Lisa I'm sending good thoughts your way, so we can get over these feelings.

~Marcia~
 
Marcia,

I am sure your hubby all ready loves you more than enough no matter what.

We are going to be kicking some butts together! Just remember that.
I am so amazed at how far I have come myself in such a short time and I still have a ways to go, but I am almost there, and you will be too. Just hold on, while we do the Toasty Rotation. I hope you cry out for mercy and sweat like there is no tomorrow. I will be right there with you.

So here's to sweat and alittle pain, but gosh we have soooo much to gain!!!

Cheers!

Charlotte~~
 
THANK YOU CHARLOTTE!!!

Yes, we definitely will be sweating together and making some MAJOR progress, I'm COUNTING on it! :)

It helps to know you are right there along with me. I thought about you both days thinking "she's doing this right along with me and yesterday at the same time even" :)

I won't give up on your Toasty Rotation that's for sure. I'm in it for the long haul 100% ..........

Thanks again, I really needed this little boost tonight~

I'm off to get some good sleep so I'm ready to roll for tomorrow's workout!

~Marcia~
 
Marcia, just a bit of perspective:

10-15 years ago, 40-something women were probably saying "OK young chick Marcia you wait and see what I can become!" As in - you were probably the object of the same envy and bad feeling you are now emanating.

It does no good to bash "young chicks" for being young. Every life phase has its benefits AND its costs. Younger people may have dewier complexions and more time ahead of them, but they usually have a ton less life experience and exceedingly questionable judgment in important life matters. More mature people may have a wrinkle, a dimple or a gray hair or two, but (hopefully) they have learned from their experiences and make better and better choices.

I don't mean for this to be a bash. I for one have truly valued getting older, and at 44 I've got about 9 years on you. I've valued it for a whole host of reasons, and I've gotten far more physically fit as the years go by.

Don't try to measure UP to the youthful crowd, Marcia, because in a lot of ways that'd mean going DOWN. Make the most of what you have now - which is a lot. 35 is a great, great age.

A-Jock
 
Ha ha - this ought to make you feel better - I'm turning 40 in Feb. Have a 14 ,12 and 4 y/o. Yesterday I was in walmart with my youngest and the cashier asked "how old's your grandbaby?" Really made my day:eek: ;) Marnie


Lisa , I hear ya!! I am having thoughts of getting a tattoo :eek: . I can't even believe it myself. But it's true - working out helps. I can't believe how strong I have become over the past year.
 
Aquajock says it perfectly again!!!
Although I'm only 28, I have always lived in college towns due to my work, and so am surrounded by forever young, svelte girls.
And I say girls rather than women because in many ways, they are still children just beginning their lives. But I've also, to my relief, found that most men really do appreciate the things that A-Jock mentioned - maturity, experience, those incredible benefits that being older give you. I can't speak for your husband, but I truly believe that most men are not totally way-laid by youthful appearance and do value other qualities in women, especially the fantastic women they have chosen to be with.

If your feelings about this situation impact your daily life (i.e. you don't want to go out as much, don't want to go to the bar, you find yourself more irritable, or punchy at him) you should talk to your husband about it. It would be terrible if her presence there impacted your life like this, particularly given that she is most likely not even a threat.
 
Yeah, even if you lose a little of what you want to lose,you will feel better about yourself and have alot more confidence.
I think they hire these young ones is just to increase sales.All of the time people will pop into a certain bar,just b/c there is a cute little bartender.
Did anyone see the show on Dateline or something about "would you hire a cute nanny". I guess it had to do with the whole "jude law" bit and the fact that he cheated with the nanny.
I was bothered by a babysitter we had one time.Never in a million years was I bothered by her b/c she wasn't that much younger then me,she was overweight and very lazy.But when she would come to my house in the mornings, and I was home, she would have normal clothes on.At some point during the day, she would go home and change (my DH would always be in and out of the house) and when I would get home from work she would have the tiniest skirt on and her belly would be hanging out.I think she was trying to impress DH.Didn't work.
The reason I got rid of her was b/c a friend of mine went to my house one day while I was working and she said that the babysitter was asleep in the couch and my daugther was watching movies.It was a beautiful summers day and she was in the house, while the vampire had the blinds shut so that she couldn't see the sun.That was the last straw.
Sorry I went off topic!
Lori:)
 
Thank you ALL, you've made me see the light and I am happy with who I AM and what age I am at. :) I very much appreciate your comments.

THANK YOU!!!

~Marcia~
 
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