Hi everybody, I'm an occasional lurker/poster. I think alot of your opinions, and I am sure there are many recently new mom's among you who might have some insight into this. I have a new 2 week old adorable baby GD. My dau and SIL live very close, and we have a good relationship. There are three GMs and all live close. We were all present at the birth. It was quite the party. I was able to see clearly that her in-laws were way way involved. In the past two weeks they have been over to hold the baby most everyday. My SIL had to sit them down and ask them to keep it to one person at a time. NOW, I have receive email asking me to put down my availability to babysit on an excel spreadsheet with a deadline of this Friday. They will need someone to come hold the baby while my dau. works (at home) from 1-6 Mon. through Fri. If I don't get my rsvp in, then for the next 3 months (who knows whats coming after that) I will not be able to drop by, hold baby, visit except when there is a 'opening'.
Now...I get up at 0430, get home from being a busy nurse at 3pm...Really don't think I'm up to spending the rest of the day over there, besides which, I think she should be taking care of and bonding with the baby herself. The other family is unbelievable, falling all over themselves to take days. Of course, This is making me look bad, especially as her own mother. I want to help and be involved, but I can't compete with them and don't quite know how to handle any of this. How do you feel especially new mom's and GMs? (NOT to mention this would take away my only Cathe time!) Dianne
Now...I get up at 0430, get home from being a busy nurse at 3pm...Really don't think I'm up to spending the rest of the day over there, besides which, I think she should be taking care of and bonding with the baby herself. The other family is unbelievable, falling all over themselves to take days. Of course, This is making me look bad, especially as her own mother. I want to help and be involved, but I can't compete with them and don't quite know how to handle any of this. How do you feel especially new mom's and GMs? (NOT to mention this would take away my only Cathe time!) Dianne