Need some advice

nancy324

nancy324

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Tuesday would be my parents' 52nd wedding anniversary, but my father died in 2004, a few months before their 50th. I know it's going to be a very difficult day for my mother. It's a weekday, and I have to work, so I can't visit with her.

Do you think I should send some bright, cheerful spring flowers? Do you think the card should say something about celebrating a great marriage (after all, it did last for almost 50 years, and it was a great marriage), or should I just say "we love you very much" from me and my DH and leave it at that? I don't think I want the flowers or the card to be funereal in any way. What would you do?

Thanks!
Nancy
 
Nancy-
I would send bright cheery spring flowers. Adding a note about celebrating a great marriage is a nice touch. Do it.

Judy "Likes2bfit"


If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail.
 
Judy,thanks so much! Now I can't decide about the flowers. I want to send tulips, but I just did that for her birthday in January. There are 3 dozen petite roses in shades of pink, peach, yellow and red. Or, to be really cheery, a bouquet of yellow daffodils. Which do you think?
Nancy
 
Nancy~ I think this is a fabulous idea as no doubt your Mom will be thinking of your Dad all day on Tuesday. The modern gift for a 52nd is ruby, so I'd go with the roses.
 
Thanks, Tammy. Not only will she be thinking of him all day, but he always got her flowers on their anniversary and made a fuss. That's why I thought of the flowers. I can't bear to think of her without flowers on that day! I just wish I could take her out to dinner too.
Nancy
 
Nance, I love your idea! Does your mom have a favorite flower? My mom's favorite flower was the yellow rose and I sent her bouquet for every occasion. After she passed I planted a mini yellow rose shrub on her grave.
 
I agree. Send the flowers and remember the anniversary. She'll be thinking about your dad and will glad to know you are too.
 
Thanks, Michele. Actually, my Mom's favorite flowers are carnations, but I don't like the bouquets I'm seeing. She likes a lot of flowers, and I know she likes roses. Can you see these?:

http://products.proflowers.com/rose...plitA&catid=RecentlyViewed&baseproductid=5461

Michele, Judy, Tammy & Robin: I really trust your opinions. What do you think for the little note that goes with the card? I'm really leaning towards "We love you very much!" Nancy & DH. Plain and simple. What do you think? Or do you think I should mention the anniversary?

Nancy
ETA: I apologize for being so indecisive and needing so much help!
 
Nancy those roses are beautiful! I also love the red vase option. I think you should mention the anniversary-I know it would make me feel better becasue she will be thinking of her husband.

Lisa
 
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the flowers!!!! I like the "thinking of you and Dad on this special day"....or something along the lines of remembering your special day...
 
Nance, that bouquet is gorgeous. There's nothing more stunning than a huge bouquet of mixed roses.

As for the card, you really can't go wrong either way. The sentiment you were planning to use is really lovely, but if you want to mention your dad, that's fine, too. I sense that you're nervous to mention your dad. Don't be. I'm sure not a day goes by that your mom doesn't think and dream about him. Sometimes it's nice to acknowledge that.

You're a wonderful daughter!!
 
Thanks Tam! After reading the responses here, I suddenly remembered that my Mom told me how much she dislikes it when people act like my father never existed! I ordered the roses with the green vase (my Mom loves green) and wrote: "Thinking of you and Dad on this special day. We love you very much!" I'm really glad I mentioned my Dad on the card. Thank you all SO MUCH! I don't know why this was so hard for me.
Nancy
 
Thanks so much, Michele! I did mention my Dad on the card, and it was definitely the right choice. You are SOOOO right!

You ladies are the best.

Nancy
 
Nancy.

Their marriage has ended when he died. But a "Thinking of You" card would help her a great deal, I bet. With lots of memories and flowers.

These things are always so sad. Please give her a hug for me.

Janie

The idea is to die young as late as possible.

http://www.picturetrail.com/janiejoey
 
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