Need ideas to surprise him

[Sonia123]

Hello

I would really like to do something special for my 8 year bf. We are planning to get married soon. Things have been hard because my parents never approved to my relationship with him. I've been freaking out at him but really wanted to do that to my parents. It's a very unique and weird situation. We also have a business together (me and him) since 6 years that is very slow and do not allow us to move out. However, the business have great opportunities and is simply hard to leave or close or sell for now. May be in few years. Things are going to happen, it's the time the problem.

We both still stay at our parents. But now, we will recieve help from this family and will get married soon and move out. I suffered so much in this and I am not even telling the half of it. It's just too long and complicated.

I don't feel I've been so good with him. He listens to me and try his best to understand. Sometimes, the situation is so tough on me that I act so horribly with him. And I really think he will leave me because it's not right how I treat him, but he stays. Always does and never resent me but forgive me because he know I don't mean it and it's just so hard on me. He is so sweet. He is so special. I will never meet a man like him.

His birthday is soon. Plz give me ideas of things you did, bought. I feel so terrible. I love him but my parents affect me so much and I can't wait to be on my own and not around them because I let them hurt our relationship. I depend on them financially now and I hate it. I feel so stuck. It's easy to say to not let them influence me but I live with them and they are my parents and I love them. But finally, his family found a way and we are buying a house in few months. So things are looking good. I want to appreciate him without the influence of my family, I can't wait. my life is been so hard.

So his birthday is a great way to show him how important he is and how much I LOVE HIM.

Plz help with suggestions

by the way, this forum is amaizing and I never thought in a million year that I will write about my personal problems to strangers but you all are wonderful and helpful and I feel comfortable writing.

Thank you

 

[spyrosmom]

As far as material gifts, I don't know. But as for a special, meaningful gift, tell him what you just told us, or write him a letter. Tell him how he makes you feel and you're sorry if you get out of line sometimes. Most people don't need more "things" but we could all use a little love, support and encouragement. Especially if you guys are a bit rocky right now, it might really help.

Nan

 

[LauraMax]

One Valentine's Day I named a star after my ex hubby. It cost $25 & He LOVED it. I can't remember the website but if you google "name a star" or some such combination you'll probably find lots of stuff.

 

[angie_nrs]

I agree that telling him what you are truly feeling and maybe why you treat him the way you do will strengthen your relationship. Perhaps you treat him badly sometimes to test him and see if he will stay? Or maybe b/c deep down you want him to go? Figure it out and communicate with him. Getting things out in the open is probably the best gift you can give him.

But, if you feel you still want to do something else, try to do something he has a passion for. I suprised my DH with a drive in a race car at MIS b/c he is a huge nascar fan. This might be cost prehibitive for (it was a once in a lifetime thing for him) you but you can still be creative and find something fun that will match his likes. Since then, I have gotten tickets to a local race track and bought nascar DVD's and magazines.

Hope this helps

Angie

 

[tneah]

My DH has everything he wants or needs, really. Its hard to buy him stuff, so I write him poems each year. Just silly, but from the heart poems that I frame in a cute little frame.
He adores these, "priceless" gifts.

Or if there is a poet, author or someone a "saying" he loves, print it out on good paper and frame it. One year I took a saying from the book, 'The Art Of War", he still has it on his desk in the office.

One year I baked him a "booby" cake (he is a chest man for sure), I went and got a cake mold at an adult store and baked and decorated it to look like the real deals He loved it!

You have to get a little creative, but I agree those gifts from the heart are far better than ones from the wallet.

 

[dlavie]

Is there a charitable concern he has? For instance I am involved in the Linux movement, my son gave me a bumper sticker that has the Ubuntu (the variation of Linux I use) logo on it.

A lot of non profit organizations sell things from key chains to T shirts. It would show that you are "keyed" to causes and concerns of his. They get a small donation, your SO gets a visible expression of his concern.