My Mom (long)

And just remember, that your dear mom has always been & will ALWAYS be here for you. I can feel the ache in my soul for you. But I, personally, have to tell myself, that those folks, will always remember us & hopefully look out for us.

Marla
 
I feel your pain Shelley. I lost my dad in 1988 and my mom has been living with Alzheimer's disease for the last 8 years. It's so painful to see her in that condition for so long. My mom and dad were my greatest influence (Dad - sensible, dependable, wise) (Mom - generous, loving, kind).

I mourn the loss of both of them daily.

Take good care and know that I'm thinking of you.

Mar:(
 
Shelley,

I sent you a an e-mail to you first thing this morning. I just signed on here and saw this thread. As another person said you always know how to put your thoughts into words that we can really feel. However, I know exactly what you are going through right now. As you know my mom passed away just a little over a year ago and the 15th was her b-day. So, this past week has been extremely hard.

I guess, for me, I have my kids to thank for keeping me so busy. It keeps my mind from thinking too much, but then night time comes and I can't get a grip.

I know that i'm no help to you right now, but just wanted you to know that I know how you feel.

Dallas:-(
 
Aw Shelley, what you wrote is so poetic, and it conveys your feelings so well. You always make me smile with your humor and wit, and I SO wish I could do that for you now! Grief has no timetable and anyone who thinks it should is way out of touch with reality.

Like someone said before (I'm sorry I can't remember who) your Mom was obviously a great lady to have helped you become the wonderful person YOU are today. Remember, She is always there in your heart and mind helping you to make the right decision in life (like putting away the cookie bag.;) ) You NEVER have to stop missing her, just remember you'll have easy days and hard days, and that is perfectly ok!

We love you here Shelley and hurt when you hurt! Thanks for trusting us enough to share your grief. I'm honored. {{{{huge hugs}}}}

Nadine

~~Happiness is an Attitude~~

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You all are so amazing. I was really scared to post what I did, in case it was perceived as TMI or something. Thanks for letting me open up to you.

For all those wonderful people who PM'ed or e-mailed me, I'm replying, slowly but surely:)
 
Gotcha. Well, Shelley, honestly I was not offended, offput, or judging of your sentiments about your mother's passing. Quite the opposite, knowing how you feel and the fact that you trust us added to my respect for you as a person. Shows strength really. deb:)
 
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Judy
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So glad you put your feelings into such eloquent words. Sometimes it helps to write it all out, thanks for sharing with us and letting us feel your pain...hoped it helped. Thinking of you.

Sami
 
I PM'ed you, but I would like to list this tribute that I found in a book (can't remember which one.) My husband put it on a plaque with pictures on my mom, so I see it every day.


And if I go,
while you're still here,
Know that I live on,
Vibrating to a different measure,
Behind a veil you cannot see through.
You will not see me,
So, you must have faith.
I wait for the time when we can soar together again
Both aware of each other.
Until then, live your life to the fullest and when you need me
Just whisper my name in your heart
..... And I will be there!
 
Shelley,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think that there is any "right" amount of time for grief, particularly when it involves someone so close.

I'm going to be with my daughter-in-law-to-be today. She lost her Mom about 4 years ago, when she was only about 22 years old. It is SOO hard for her now planning the wedding without her mom. She's got a wonderful new stepmom, but really can't appreciate her because she just symbolizes so many negative things.

Your post reminds me to be continually sensitive to my DILTB. Thank you for that. It's so easy to forget how she feels.

Big, big hugs to Shelley {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

-Nancy
 

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