More about having kids: having them late in life

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Joni

Cathlete
Ok, since Maximus posted about her doctor saying that age 37 is too late to have kids - how many of you either had kids later in life or want to have them later?

I'm also 37, and my biological clock has been loud all my life - but the circumstances were never right for me. Well, the men weren't.

But I still have hope that I have a few years left to breed! Women are having kids well into their 40s now and medical technology for fertility has really advanced.

So let's hear some stories that will give us clock tickers some hope!!


Joni
 
Hi Joni. I don't have kids, but my sister had her first at 43 and her second at 46. My aunt, who is now 90, had her youngest at 43. And my boss's wife, well into her mid-40s, just had her first. It's definitely possible.
 
Hi Joni,

I had my first at 22 and my last at 42!

The extra baby weight went away when I was younger and I had to WORK it off when I was older.

The little things stressed me out more when I was younger and I am pretty laid back now.

Oh, and it was no trouble at all getting pregnant at 42!
 
Hi Joni,

I had my DD at age 37. I have to say that I really loved being pregnant and had an easy pregnancy. I was doing some form of exercise until the day before my DD was born. So, it is definitely not too late. My DH's mom had him at age 44, which was considered quite old 40 years ago! Best of luck to you!

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Thanks everyone!! I love these stories - they keep me hopeful because I'm not quite ready but I'm getting up there. I think diligent Cathe-ing will keep me young. ;-)

My BF and I decided to go to Honduras for 2 weeks at the end of August...hmmm....:p

It's funny you mention the baby weight. I'm obsessed with getting my 25 year old body back into *good* shape after a bigtime weight loss in my mid-30s. I have this feeling that I'm going to reach my goal - look great for about a month - then get pregnant and have to start all over. But - it would be SO worth it. I've already got the stretch marks - so bring it on!

Thanks for the encouragement. Maximus - hope you see this!
 
Joni,

I have my 1st when I was 30, and 2nd one when I was 37. It's true for me that it takes longer to loss baby fat this time than the first time. But I definitely don't think 40's would be too late. However, do keep up workout because you really need the physical strength when you have baby in your late life...One of reasons I started workout again was because I felt so drain all the time, especially in the nights that I had to keep rocking my baby. Then I had to head out working like a normal person next day...

As fit as you are, you are going to be fine. Wish you have a fun trip.


WantFit
 
You got that right. I have so much admiration for all the moms on these boards who work out AND run after their kids, which is a workout by itself. My nephew is 1 and he wears me out after 2 hours!!

Too bad kids' energy can't be bottled and sold as a nutritional supplement...
 
I will be 35 in August and hope to one day have children...I truly hope it is not too late!!!
Angela:7
 
Joni, I think my dr. was trying to shock me. She said most women who have children late in life have "help" (as in fertility treatments). The good news is insurance now pays for this (she said it was a trade off for viagra LOL).

Anyway, I still have hope that the circumstances will be right before it's too late. If not, I have no problem w/adoption. The only problem I might have is I don't want to be a grandmother to my child. :eek:
 
Too funny - trade off for Viagra. Yeah - since when should insurance pay for THAT?!

That's very good to know that insurance is more flexible for fertility treatments - see? Now I'm even more comforted.

And - the way I see it, since we're late bloomers - the fertility treatments might help us have a "litter" so we can get our "pregnancies" over in one shot. Twins even!!

(Yikes....I'm kidding)

We're a LONG way from being grandmothers!!!
 
Oh I would so love to have twins--I'm afraid if I do go for the kid thing I'll only have time for one & I've always wanted more. I have a thing about only children, I don't think they learn to socialize as well and have a tendency to be spoiled (disclaimer--this is not meant to offend any only children out there!).

Having twins would be great, getting them in all in one shot. :p
 
Hi Joni,

I'm new to the forum. Don't worry. I know so many girls who have had their kids in their 40's.

I had my 1st when I was 36 and my 2nd at 40. My best friend is 41 and had her first baby last Thursday.
She didn't hook up with her husband until 2 years ago.
AND another girl I know is 43 and had a baby this past April...so no worries.

There are lots of "older" (BUT SMARTER) mom's at my kid's school -- there is something to say about wisdom and age.
AND I honestly think that I'm a better mom being older than I would have been in my 20's or 30's.

Hang in there - everything happens for a reason.

Take care
Patti




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I actually would like to have twins too because it's late. I would be fine with having one, but would make extra effort to make sure he/she didn't feel alone or lonely. My preference is 2 though as is my BF's -- so, as I tell him: let's get this show on the road!! Where's the ring? Time's a wastin'!!

It's not working....yet ;-)

We're okay with adopting too - there are lots of kids out there...
 
Actually, I have a theory about kid's energy. They are, in fact, little energy VAMPIRES. They suck all the energy from the adults around them. That's why you always see little kids running around like maniacs while their parents sit, apparently close to lifeless, occasionally saying things like "honey, don't pour sugar in the cat litter box" and "no, no, power tools aren't TOYS!".
 
>Actually, I have a theory about kid's energy. They are, in
>fact, little energy VAMPIRES. They suck all the energy from
>the adults around them. That's why you always see little kids
>running around like maniacs while their parents sit,
>apparently close to lifeless, occasionally saying things like
>"honey, don't pour sugar in the cat litter box" and "no, no,
>power tools aren't TOYS!".

LOL...

Shelley, you are a really Hail Limcat. You are absolutely right. I can see how I play cat and mouse game with my two little rascals...:7
 
Hi Patti -

Welcome!! You've found the best forum on the internet! It's fun, silly, informative with just the right amount of sass thrown in for good measure }(

Seriously - it's so comforting to hear these stories. For years I really stressed about "what if I don't have kids?" -- to the point where I got majorly depressed for several months. I finally snapped out of it by reminding myself that "everything happens for a reason." I firmly believe that too. And when I relaxed, I met someone wonderful.

He and I often talk about the benefit of being older and wiser parents. We talk about writing a manual for kids. Then again, the experiences are what made us wiser so...maybe some were worth it.

The other benefit is learning how to be a better parent by observing friends who had kids earlier. I definitely know what NOT to do!

Joni
 
Joni,

It is true about things happening for reasons. The crappy part is we don't see the reasons till later...does however, make for building wonderful character! We gotta just let it happen - When your time comes, You'll be a great mom!

I think that had I gotten pregnant at 25 I would have gotten tremendously fat, completely depressed and would never worked out! LOL.

I'm wiser --- definitely wiser.

Oh - and the baby weight thing? I don't know about anybody else but
it wasn't really easy to get my body back after my second girl....my body changed for sure BUT (I just want add & and proudly too!) that personally I don't think that my body has looked or felt any better. - That is of course unless...I'm.....Senile!!LOL LOL LOL


:7
 
Hi there--

I am 37 and we expecting our 6th child. I know lots of women who have had babies into their 40's--for some their first baby, for some not.

I believe that in general a woman's fertility drops at age 35, particularly if she has not had children before, but as you say there is alot of technology that can help in that department.

And of course there is always adoption--I have a good friend who got married at 40 (for the first time), struggled with infertility, but concieved and bore a child at age 43. Having the desire for more kiddos, she and her husband are in the process of adopting 2 little girls from India.

I really hope that your life circumstances allow you to have a child since this is the desire of your heart.

take care
Maggie:)
 
First at 35, 2nd at 37, 3rd at 40. It was definitely harder to conceive after the first, and I had one miscarriage in there as well. Both of these things I attribute to advanced maternal age. I actually read that women's fertility begins to decline at age 27!!!!! I quit practicing law to raise my monsters, and while they can drive me nuts, I don't regret it one bit.
 
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