Men SUCK!

LauraMax

LauraMax

Cathlete
OK, last winter I went through this really ugly & painful breakup. After taking some time to recover I finally felt like I was ready to go "back on the market" so to speak.

So this guy from my gym, who's attractive & seemingly nice & who I've been flirting with for years asked me to lunch. I said sure thing. We met today at a restaurant & about 10 minutes into the conversation I find out the b*st*rd is MARRIED! I was kind of stuttering & in shock, & he said "I never told you I was divorced." WTF? I've known him for like 3 years & he never told me he was married either!

Oh, but it's a horrible marriage & he can't stand to touch her & they live in separate "wings" of the house. As if that makes any kind of a difference to me, the pig.

<sigh> There goes two hours of my life that I'll never get back. I'm just sickened & right back to square one, thinking I'm much better off alone than messing with all these lying, cheating scumbags. ;(
 
Oh & I almost forgot--he's just waiting for the "right woman" & he'll leave his wife. Is that supposed to be some kind of incentive for me? I am so completely pi$$ed off about this whole thing--there will be some serious weight training tonight at the gym.

And if a single guy tries to flirt with me I'm gonna clock him with a 10 lb dumbell.
 
Ok Laura,
Take a deep breath.
Yes many men are pigs.
There are alot of good men out there. The problem is someone has latched on. You will find Mr. Right when you are not looking.
It will happen.
HOW BIG OF A HOUSE????
Seperate wings.
WOW!
If he hasn't left her he probably never will . Sounds like financial reasons.
Calm down . Maybe the online dating services aren't a bad idea???
Someone was just talking about it.
I don't know how well they screen people.
Well , good luck though.
Anne

http://www.picturetrail.com/acatalina
 
What a waste of your time (both the lunch date and the years you've been flirting with him) and energy.

Separate 'wings' of the house?

He does suck, but there are some men that don't!

Is this the 'younger guy' who was always flirting with you?

I feel sorry for his wife, who may not have the same 'story' he does.
 
Anne, his house is HUGE. The guy is like a multi-millionaire, not to mention pretty d*mn hot. Doesn't matter though, I will never date a married man, I don't care if his "wing" is 37 miles from his wife's. And I tried online dating, all I got was a bunch of freaks & losers.

Shelley, do you think 45 lb plates can fly like frisbees? }(
 
No, he's a few years older than I am, about 45. The younger guy actually asked me for my number, & I did give it to him, but when he called I chickened out. I just can't imagine what kind of conversations I could have with a guy who's 11 years younger.
 
It just shows you the quality of man he is, that he is staying married to a wife he doesn't love until "the RIGHT woman comes along". What a scum bag. Sorry Laura, that's really sucks!

Katie
 
You know Laura I applaud you because there are women out there who would've fallen for that line, and talked themselves into believing that the guy was worth the effort. Thank you for keeping your integrity, your worth more than that. Let him keep his big house, his big ego and his rather sorry situation.
 
Oh Lauramax, what a pig!!! They aren't all, but that one definatly is. And I'd aim the 20 pounds a little lower then his head if I were you.
 
Well, I *had* posted earlier, but for some reason it disappeared.

Anyway, I am very sorry that this happened to you, Laura. No, not all men suck, but there are their fare share of them out there!

I don't think that the #45 plate would fly enough to take a head off, but they would do very nicely to knee-cap some poor unfortunate soul!
 
OMG what a pig is right!!! What did you say to him? Sorry about that experience, what is wrong with some people?????
Brandi
 
I had a similar thing happen a few years ago and it still pi$$es me off when I think about it. A seemingly decent guy, great sense of humour chats me up daily for a few weeks, tells me he's seperated, we go for a drink, soon he's taking me and my KIDS out for dinner and hanging out with us and saying 'let's do this, let's do that'. It was easy and fun hanging with him. I call his number one night to see what he's up to and a woman answers, I just knew it was his wife. His lame explanation was that they might as well be separated and through me he's found that as a man he's always known he was needed but it was nice to be wanted. Whatever Bud, get the Hell out of my kitchen. There was affection between us but thank God, no sex. Sometimes men really do SUCK. I'm trying to get back out there and went to a bar on Saturday, not the place for me! A married friend of mine said to me 'you'll just have to wait for someone to throw a perfectly good one away!' Yeah, WTH?? THANKS FOR COMING OUT!!! What's a cute, intelligent woman of a certain age to do???? That question has stumped this chump! There's someone out there for us Laura and gosh darn it he'll be worth the wait!!!!:)

Take Care
Laurie:)
 
Laura,

My mom just sent me this email, thought it might make you chuckle...

Now days, 80% of women are against marriage, WHY? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.

1. Men are like ...Laxatives ...... They irritate the crap out of you.
2. Men are like.Bananas ...... The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like ......Weather . Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like ......Blenders You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like .....Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like ...Commercials ....... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like ......Government Bonds .... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like .....Mascara . They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like Popcorn ..... They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like Snowstorms .... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like .......Lava Lamps .... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like Parking Spots ........ All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.

Lori
 
So sorry to hear about your disappointment in this guy. What an a**!! But don't fall for his line of Bullshi!! If he is that unhappy in his marriage then he should be working to fix or he should get out. Instead of looking for something on the side to see if he's ready to leave.

Unfortunatley I was one of those stupid girls who fell for that line. The only person who got hurt was me. Mistake done once and I never again. Just beware.

The younger guy could be a good time you never know. If the opportunity arises again take it. One date is one date. You could have some great laughs if nothing else.

And aiming the plate lower is grand idea. Make it several plates. A good kickboxing session could also be helpful.

You deserve better and good things come to those who wait. (or so they say)! Hang in there your prince will come.

;-)
 
Thank goodness you found out during lunch!!!and only wasted 2 hours on him.
Fortunately for you they don't all suck and eventually you'll find a good one.
Deanie:)
 
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