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Cathlete
Oh My WORD! LOL I just had to post this after reading the other thread about seeing your EX at an online dating site! Well, how about meeting your FUTURE there? LOL

Get this. So, I finally decide to try this out, right? I enter my profile, I upload a picture, and start a search. I'm browsing along and guess who I should fine there!

GUESS!

The guy I'm actually going out on a first date with TONIGHT!!! (I did not meet him online, btw. He's my DS's friend's Dad.) I think it's just hysterical. Had to share with you all! Too funny, in my opinion.

Now, do I mention that I saw him online or not? lol

Gayle
 
Yeah, I'm thinking I'll keep that tidbit to myself for now! I just can't stop laughing about it! What are the odds!

Gayle
 
Ha! I'm on match, too....a very interesting place.

I say in any dating situation -- match or blind dates or grocery store "meetings" -- take it S-L-O-W-L-Y. I don't care how much experience you've got, it never hurts to take it slowly and not too seriously at first! My "unwinding" time of day is match.com and cathe.com - Match has provided great dating experiences (a little heartbreak a while back, but I can also dish it out if necessary, too!) I stay on it with an open mind...

Let us know how tonight goes!

By the way, it might be too late, but hold off for a while mentioning that you saw him (he might already know by checking "who's viewed me" if you viewed his profile)...But, who cares, don't dwell on it. Have fun with it...
 
LOL I still think this whole thing is funny! I am defintely taking anything and everything SLOWLY, so not to worry about that. I believe that you can tell pretty quickly if HE is the ONE (and vice versa).

We went out last night, to see Live Free or Die Hard. LOVED the movie. Then we came right back to my house, since my mom was watching my kids. I put them to bed and we hung out till about 12:30am. He's a nice guy, and I've known him in our kids' sports circles, and I like what I see so far. I'm trying to get past his Jersey accent.....lol...no offense intended whatsoever. lol

I did realize this morning that you can see who views you, so I think he'll eventually know I peeked! LOL But I didn't tell him last night.

This if fun, though, I have to admit!

gayle
 
Gayle~I'm glad you met someone that you can have a fun time with. Keep us posted!


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Gayle, Patti, and whoever else is on match --

Share your stories! I'm definitely procrastinating calling two guys this afternoon. Sometimes they jump the gun wanting to meet up before we've even met on the phone, and it drives me insane!! I need to figure out a way to say no (I suppose it'll never hurt just to say I'm busy, maybe next week - huh?)...

First dates are sooooo awkward, especially the first few minutes. Yak, I want to puke. But, if they're good, then I'm fine. When the date sucks, the whole things sucks and I think "I'll definitely be careful about meeting too soon."

Seriously though, I am busy, I don't want to waste my time, but I know it's important to practice...I suppose I shouldn't take it so seriously...

Just thought it'd be fun to share a little more...

Take care and good luck!
 
I met my DF. That kind of "erases" all the losers or date disasters (although, I really didn't have many). It can be a good thing (especially for those like him and me who don't go to bars to meet people) but you do have to be careful. I met some really, really great guys on Match. Some I am still friends with (a few, actually). We just realized that while we weren't a love match, we had enough in common to be friends. I also met my very best male friend on Match. He contacted me years ago and while there was no love connection, there was a strong connection. He is one of the best men I know (besides DF) and has been the best friend a woman could have. He likes DF as well. I don't know what I would do without him in my life and if it wasn't for Match, we would never have met. Funny part of the story is, it was actually his ex-wife (who is also a good friend of mine now) that made him email me in the first place. So...good things can come out of Match. Of course, for me, DF was the very best thing and my best friend a close second. Although, I know a lot of people who have had absolutely awful experiences.

I don't think online dating is the taboo it once was.
 
Well, I was the one who posted about seeing the "ex" on Match. He hasn't been on there since last week, so doesn't know I signed up. Once he does, then I guess he'll know I've seen his profile so full of lies.

Anyway - I met my first face-to-face yesterday afternoon. We just got together for a beer in town. Nice guy - really is into being a father to his son. Turns out he used to live 2 doors down from a friend of mine. So of course I called her when I got home to make sure he wasn't the psychopath of the neighborhood! No, she said he seemed like a very nice guy from what she knew of him.

I've actually been conversing online with three (seemingly) nice men. There was another guy, originally, who got very sexual very fast online. When he told me he wasn't circumcized and it made for more desire and better performance I told him it was TMI and didn't think we were a good match. Haven't heard from him since.

Diane
 
Haha - At least you can laugh at some of the weirdos out there!

(what does DF mean? I'm assuming it's an exclusive relationship, but I'm blanking on this acronym right now!)
 
Lorie-that's a great story! Thanks for sharing it!

I've been emailing 2 guys over the last few days, also. It's kinda fun! LOL

Turns out I saw my neighbor (who lives behind me now; DH and I lived in the apartment above this guy before we built our house next door) on Match also. Today, it seems that he's "viewed" my profile! LOL. I'm very tempted to just drop him an email to make sure it's really him (looks like him, sounds like him, but just not 100% certain it's him). Think I just might!

It's kind of fun, but I've told the guys that I'm emailing that that is exactly where I plan to stay until I'm SURE I'm safe enough to meet up with! I have to admit, it beats the bar....which I HATE!

Keep us all posted, ladies, on your experiences at Match (or any other online service). I'd be very interested to here updates and stuff!

Gayle
 
Okay, can someone explain to me why men from across the country will "wink" at me? I swear, I've gotten winks from FL, MI, TX, and OH. I'm in California for Pete's sake! I'll look on their profiles to see if they are relocating or something, but nada. So they have nothing to do with their lives but peruse women's photos? I mean, just what kind of relationship could they possibly have in mind if I live 2000-3000 miles away? I'm certainly not there for cyber sex.

Just wondering if this is happening to anyone else.

Diane
 
Diane,

They can be such idiots. I just ignore those...once I did write back to one (he was cute anyway!), and I just said, "Umm, that's great, but we're on opposite sides of the country". He said he overlooked that - that sometimes his searches will throw in random states (which can be true). BUT, for the most part, I get so irritated when they do that.

I do have to say though, and I'm sorry if I step on toes, but it's how I feel: I think winks are unnecessary. If you want to talk to me, write me. I have never "winked" b/c if I'm interested, I'll pick out something interesting in the profile and write to that. Not to say I won't respond to winks, but for so many of these guys, they need to learn they need to impress, or they just won't stand out!

So, you get major points with me if: You live within 25 miles and you actually write an email! (I stay flexible, but these are good things!)

What an interesting dating world!
Caroline
 
I've gotten flirts and emails from guys who are out of state, too. I think they are bored and just cyber flirting. There may not be many women in their location if they live in small town or say, Nebraska. Some probably are interested in cybersex. This one guy I've IM'd with, I think that is where he is headed, he keeps 'testing the waters' by mentioning how I should be careful, he usually has his web cam on. Thanks for warning, dude. Some guys are wealthy enough and willing to arrange a booty call if things worked out. That being said, there is a nice guy who contacted me, he lives in BF Arkansas, is Karate teacher, personal trainer, teaches Swedish massage, seems a healthy eater and a symphony conductor in a previous life, he seems genuinely nice and interested in LTR if he could find the right woman.
I've enjoyed getting to know new people...
edited to say, it probably wouldn't hurt to include in your profile that you'd look forward/prefer to hear from local guys.
 
Hang in there and give it a chance! There are a lot of negatives and difficulties on there. I just don't get why people aren't "real" and waste others time. On the other hand, there are some great people on there that just don't have the time to meet others or aren't into meeting them in bars (or whatever). You figure if you are on there, then there has to be some other normal people!

My BF and I met on Match during the last five minutes of my membership. I literally was checking the final emails and when I saw that he wrote, sent him a quickie response with my home email & invited him to write. After all the bad experiences I had, I wasn't holding out much hope but I figured what the heck. We are celebrating our one year (dating) anniversary next week & couldn't be happier!
 
That is so funny! Have fun tonight and let us know how it goes.

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