Update since last post. I decided to make an appointment last week with a marriage counselor and made the mistake of telling my husband. I was very careful not to be confrontational and said there were some things I needed to work on and wasn't happy about, and wanted to fix before they got out of hand. No fingerpointing. Things seem to get better after that. DH was helping around the house, and he seemed to be happier and less negative than usual. Until last night when he confronts me out of the blue to ask if I'm cheating on him!!!! When I tell him 'no', he says he wants to trust me but is disappointed in my reaction....conversation continues. I tell him I'm very unhappy without saying 'it's you're fault' or anything close. He then tries to corner me about having kids, something I'm scared to death of, and he knows this. I tell him I don't feel like we've talked about that, and he gets angry. We've talked about how to raise children, but not about things like how we're going to handle dividing up childcare-- he'll never give me a straight answer. I think he's hoping that I'll quit my job to stay home (I've been in school for 12 years and am getting ready to graduate-- he wants to have kids next year....) At that point he accuses me of stringing him on.
Sigh. I was up all night, and I'm not sure what to do. I feel numb today, and am not hopeful this can be fixed. There's just too much to know where to start, and it's frustrating. He's just not someone I can talk to about this... I love him, but I don't think I can keep living with him.
Sorry to keep posting depressing messages
L
Sigh. I was up all night, and I'm not sure what to do. I feel numb today, and am not hopeful this can be fixed. There's just too much to know where to start, and it's frustrating. He's just not someone I can talk to about this... I love him, but I don't think I can keep living with him.
Sorry to keep posting depressing messages
L