Little girl jelousy issues w/ brother,any suggestions!

[punka274]

Hi,I'm a SAHM and I was hopeing you wonderful ladies could help me out w/DD jelousy issues! Shes five and loves her brother( just turned two),but i sometimes see her take things out of his hands,hit him,break his toys,and just does things to make him cry. She also told me yesterday that she wants him to go 'back in my belly',lol!

I just feel like a referee(sp) all day x(!

She starts kindergarten in aug.,any suggestions until then!(I'm hoping when she starts going to school,shell ease up on all the drama )

Thank you,take care!

 

[Shopahollic]

Hi,
Try giving away one child. Leave child in front lawn with a sign on him/her saying free! Ok, now seriosly, I have the same age gap but I am 2 years behind you. My baby is 1 and my oldest is almost 4. She antogonizes baby. I have been trying to push how great it is to be a big sister. I have also at times let my youngest cry and attend first to my older one except when youngest is crying due to the oldest. Also, I have been doing more hands on activities with oldest while baby is sleeping. Just remember its normal!

 

[punka274]

Whew,Im glad somebody responded,I was starting to think it was a stupid post,LOL!:7

Hey Shopaholic,Got any 'Child for sale' signs?;-)

With all the things going on around here,I guess I don't realize that my oldes one is probably doing all this for attention! I will start doing hands on project w/her! She's usually a very sweet/good kid!

 

[Shopahollic]

Amelia,
Sorry all my for sale signs were used up last time I tried to sell my 3 year old. My 3.9 year old was an angel until the birth of her sister. She loves her sister but jelousy is normal, and your post was not stupid! By the way despite the craziness in my house, I am a child therapist!

 

[punka274]

Thank you for you advice! My DD and i will start doing things together,without her brother! I just want her to know that I love them both so very much! She has her days where she understands then there the other daysx(! Have a good day!

 

[melanalyus]

I have 22 mos between my two littlest. My 3 year old is always 'tackling' my 1 year old. He will literally go from one side of the house running with his hand straight out and tackle him down. Sometimes, when he doesn't thinnk I'm watching he will pick up a toy and just throw it at him! Urgh!!!

I have given time outs for the behavior...but I try to find times when he's really good to his little brother and praise him. For example, "Wow, I like the way you gave your little brother that toy car!" or "Mama sure likes it when your two play well together". When I do give time outs, I ask questions like, "Why would you want to hurt your best friend that way?" and I make him hug, kiss, and say he's sorry. I have to believe it will get better. I find that I'm envious of other families where the sibling bond seems so strong and natural (so I suppose jealously runs in our family)!!!

I"m thinking that if we have another baby that it might take the tension off of the two of them being alone all the time. What are the chances that all three of them would battle? Okay, don't answer that!!!!!

~Melanie~

Jadon born 11/23/05
Justin born 1/17/04
Jory born 4/9/94

 

[punka274]

Hey Melanie

I to ask my five yr old why she does the things she does to her brother,she says"I don't know", I ask her to appoligize and give him 'sugars' and 'hugs'! But sometimes my two year old will scream and look at me when my five year old isin't even near him,lol,I think hes catching on!

I remember being a sister of four other siblings,we were always fighting and carring onn,always fighting over my moms(bless her heart) attention! We were hellyuns(sp) too:7

I just have to breath and maintain my patience,lol!

And I would say the chances are good for a battle with a new baby! unfortunately I can't have anymore children,and to be honest,two is enough for me,whew! Im 28 and i found a gray hair the other day,yikes!