I've got the winter blahs

[Toosmart282]

Hello everyone!! I really have the winter blahs!! I am married and 34 with one child that is 12. I basically work out of my home. I work 4 days a week doing hair. I have a good life but I feel like I missing something. With me working and living in the same place I like to go to the casinos or just travel to a near by city and spend the night. I have to get out of here every once in a while. My husband thinks I should just be happy at home but he does give in sometimes and takes me somewhere. Is it bad that I get like this? I would ask one of my friends but I really dont have any. I have my clients but they are just my clients you know? I have replaced friendship with working out. I dont feel comfortable being friends with women because the last friends I had stabbed me in the back. I guess I need to pick different freinds right? Anyway I feel more comfortable around men. I can carry on a friendship with a man better than I can a woman. With me being married I cant do that because I wouldnt want my husband to be buddy buddy with another woman. Anyway now In my spare time I workout I'm in the best shape of my life. I guess not having friends and having the blahs have kept me in good shape.lol. Thanks for listening just had to vent.

 

[ZT27]

Hi,
I can totally relate to you! Although my workouts are not my friends completely but they're better than friends sometimes! I tried PMing you but you disabled your profile.

Lisa

 

[lorihart]

Its not hard to have the winter blahs!
I would imagine that you are missing friendships.You have a family and a good life...then I would think you are lacking female companionship.
Don't you and your DH hang out with other couples? I went through the sort of the same situation a couple of years ago.We hung out with a large group of people and they all moved in the same year! Can you beleive that? Then my SIL started seeing a new guy and they did their own thing.I was basically just working out, working and sleeping.I missed my friends so much.Thats when I realized I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and make some new friends.And thats what I did.
It was a little easier for me b/c DH has lots of buddies so I met a few wives and found some good friendships.I also made a running partner in the last year,who I talk to on a regular basis and I started a new job and made some really good friends there as well.
Maybe you should ask DH if you guys could get together with some of his co-workers and have a few drinks.You may connect with someone.Its good that you get along with men, but you can't take weekend shopping trips with men!
Have you thought about working outside of your home? Mingling more with people could really help.
Just b/c you got stabbed in the back,doesn't mean you have to throw the towel in.You CANNOT go threw life protecting yourself from getting hurt again.It was just an unfortunate thing that happened.
You gotta get out and mingle!
Lori

 

[claridge]

Making friends is NEVER easy, but you cant let a bunch of "bad apple" friends stop you from getting out there and meeting new people.

Go to a night class, start a hobby, join a gym...................anything that will make you get out of the house.

Going out with DH and his friends is fine, but relieing on him for your social contacts is not healthy. You really should get a little of your own independent life away from your DH needs and childs needs.

Once you do that, your life will be more fullfilled and you can cope alot better when you ARE at home.

Marion






You have to stay in shape. My grandmother started walking when she was 60. Today she is 97 and we don't know where the hell she is! - Ellen DeGeneres