I just want to be left alonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnne!

[gidget1978]

Ugh....we just built a new house in Oct and there are a few things that need to be done around here...but nothing major.Not to mention the new baby in Jan.

So every evening my in laws are here to see the baby and now my FIL as decided to finish one of the closets downstairs. It doesn't need to be done and it takes him forever to do stuff. Now he is here every day in the afternoons, when I would like to be taking a nap.
I hate to be a b&tch about it b/c I know he is helping but sometimes I wish i were just here alone. No one else. I can go around with my bra off (i hate bras) not have to help someone do something and just be home alone! It drives me crazy!

Just needed to vent! It just seems like there is always someone under my feet.
Lori

 

[RunnerGirl]

My sister had the same problem when she had her baby. She finally sets some rules cause she was ready to blow.
LD

 

[LauraMax]

It can be really tough when someone you care about is trying to help but isn't giving you your space.

I can't really relate to the baby thing but I did want to sympathize. I've lived alone for so long that even when I go on vacation w/people I feel like my head is gonna explode if I can't get away for some alone time once in a while.

Is there any way you can ask him to take the baby to a playground or something for a couple of hours while you have the house to yourself to decompress? Something like "Dad (or whatever you call him), it's such a beautiful day & I could really use a nap, why don't you take the baby to the park?"

 

[berry99]

Lori, I am sorry! My SIL just had a baby and she is going through the same thing right now. They have not had a night with just SIL, my brother, and baby because someone is always there. I hope that you get some much deserved space soon.

Karin

 

[punka274]

Hey Lori,Me tooo
I want a whole day to myself!

My MIL lives NEXT DOORx(! I can look out the window and see her house(scary)! Oh ya, were moving janurary of next year(can't wait)

p.s I know Im terrible;-)

catch ya on the ww thread!

 

[gidget1978]

Thanks ladies! I just needed to vent. It seems like everytime I turn around someone is here. And tonight, DH's grandmother is going to my inlaws for dinner and when they take her home they usually come in here first (they may not tonight though b/c they are going to be here tomorrow night for dinner)I don't know if I can handle granny tonight She ask the same questions over and over. She knows what she is talking about though. I don't know if she is just trying to make conversation or if she doesn't listen to your answer in the first place.
lori

 

[Liann]

Gosh, I must be a really selfish person, but I would be having none of that. It's ok for people to come visit the baby, but every night is just too much (at least it would be for me). I have to have alone time or I would go nuts. And I would hate people just dropping by. I like being able to walk around in my undies if I want and not have to worry about it. My DH's family is very much the opposite though (which is why I am glad they live across the country). They all live on the same block and eat dinner together EVERY night. They go on vacations together, etc... We're talking his parents, sister's family, aunt's family, and his grandparents. If we lived there, they would be over our house every day and I would go insane. Luckily, he has promised me that even if we moved near them, we would stay about 2 hours away so I would be spared the live-in inlaws. I hear your pain though and really hope things improve for you! Has this been going on since January? Maybe your DH could talk to them and set some ground rules. Is he aware of how you feel?

 

[L Sass]

Lori - if you are like me you NEED that alone time!!! My DH has no idea why I like my "me time" so much - but it lets you recharge. I love those days when I can be left alone, and I also feel really selfish saying that. I will tell you though that when I signed on to do my 60-mile walk one of the moms from the drill team that I coach said she would donate $50 toward my goal because walking 60 miles in 3 days would probably be the "most peace and quiet I've ever had". HA! Find a way my dear - escape for little bits here and there! Good luck.

Lorrie

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[gidget1978]

Yeah, its been this way since Jan, minus the trips they have made out of town and a couple of times they had the cold so they wouldn't come around but for the most part its every night.

Last week my MIL picked my son up while he was still half asleep and he lost his mind. He cried so much that he threw up and then when they came to visit the next night (again) he was stirring in his crib and she was gonna go get him until DH told her it wasn't a good idea.

Its 9 at night and my FIL is still here. DH is gone to hockey so its been this way alllll day. Its a good thing I was gone in the A.M b/c he was here then.I am hot and would love to get my p.js on but that means no bra and I will have to wait until he leaves.

Like I said, I feel bad complaining b/c they are great people but anyone would agree that seeing the same people every day would drive you completely insane.

DH likes his space to so he can relate and he feels the same way I do.He said there are days he comes home and when he sees their van in the drive way he kinda thinks "not again" He feels bad for feeling this way but you just can't help it. Like tonight he came home from a very busy day at work and my FIL wanted to bring in some wood. There is just no down time. You come home to rest, not to get up and do something else.

I don't think anyone will have the nerve to say anything but its getting to the point now where DS is going to bed earlier and they won't see him unless they come here in the afternoon. Prehaps it will soon die down. I just can't wait for him to finish the da*n closet downstaits so I can sit around my house in the afternoon alone.
Lori

 

[spyrosmom]

Ok, so I'm not the most sensitive person on the planet. But tell him it's your house, you're pregnant and tired. He can take the hint and go or he can pay the mortgage and stay. Toss him out!!! He'll get over it.