HELP! I don't want to piss of Grandma...

gettingfitmom

gettingfitmom

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My oldest will graduate in e few weeks:) Here's the problem, we have ONE extra ticket and TWO Grandmothers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am in a pickle. One Grandma lives 2 hours away and does alot w/ all her grandchildren. She does things for them and with them. The other lives a stone thro away will do things for them but rarely w/ them, big difference. (IMO)I know they would both like to attend, and one would be pissed off if they didn't get to go. Play favorites? or invite neither, leave it up to DD(not sure i want that pressure on her)DH ani't sayin' a word(smart man?) Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks Kay:)
 
Can you ask your daughter if she is able to get another ticket. Sometimes they can get one from another student who has extras or from a teacher, etc. I was able to get an extra ticket.

Is she graduating from highschool? If so, maybe you can call the school and speak to someone in the office.
 
I agree, I would check to see if DD can get an extra ticket from another student or teacher. Check with the school sometimes they have extras that students didn't pick up.
 
Definitely try for the extra ticket. If you can't get one then perhaps you need to dispense with inviting either grandmother. I hate to say it but it's probably the only way....I mean, you COULD invite the one who is more involved in the kids lives I guess but you would still make the other one mad and I don't know that it's worth it.
 
Aside from getting another ticket I only see 1 viable option: don't invite either of them to the commencement and forfeit your ticket. I wouldn't want to risk upsetting either grandparent, and I don't think it's a matter of "pissing" them off so much as making one feel like she isn't loved as much as the other. I would just hate it if I hurt my granny's feelings.
 
There's always some other kid with a spare so if you can't get the school to divy one up try that. If you can't get a spare, invite neither. To invite one and not the other will surely result in decades of resentment from the uninvited. Just say no to the Family Feud.
 
Call the school and ask if they have a lottery for the extra tickets or some kind of system where you can get extra tickets.

We had extra tickets and brought them with us and there was a grandma there with no ticket and could not get in and we gave her a ticket.
 
If you can't get an extra ticket.....I definitely would not invite either one...someones feeling will definitely be HURT!!! I would give that ticket up to someone else if you can't get another ticket.

Therese
 
I'd give it to the grandma who lives 2 hours away and does things WITH her grandchildren because I think it would mean more to her. But, you will then need to arrange something special between you all and the other grandmother: perhaps go out to dinner that evening to celebrate? I would not tell the close-living grandma that you even have the ticket or that there was even the possibility she could have gone. Keep it quiet. What she doesn't know about, she can't miss.

Clare
 
maddiesmum said:
I'd give it to the grandma who lives 2 hours away and does things WITH her grandchildren because I think it would mean more to her. But, you will then need to arrange something special between you all and the other grandmother: perhaps go out to dinner that evening to celebrate? I would not tell the close-living grandma that you even have the ticket or that there was even the possibility she could have gone. Keep it quiet. What she doesn't know about, she can't miss.

Clare
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was tempted, but don't want to play favorites. Did call school and am on waiting list for extra ticket...DS doesn't want to go, so problem might be solved:)
 
gettingfitmom said:
was tempted, but don't want to play favorites. Did call school and am on waiting list for extra ticket...DS doesn't want to go, so problem might be solved:)
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Best solution yet: Both Grandmas get an invitation, you are off the hook, and DS is happy. Personally, when my oldest son is made to go to an event, he makes sure EVERYONE is miserable!;)
 
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