Hello again,
I am reeling with shock today as my (serious) boyfriend of 6 months has decided to call it quits out of the blue. His reasons were that he could not cope with my divorce issues. He ended things on the phone in such a cold manner that I seriously wonder whether I ever knew this man.
Things were extremely serious and just a few months ago he was talking marriage. I have always sensed that he was holding a part of himself back and his reason for this was that he didn't know how things would pan out in the future as far as my divorce is concerned.
To say I am disappointed and very angry is an understatement. He himself went through a divorce 10 years ago and knows what it entails. When we first met, I made it clear what my status was and he has always said he would be there for me etc.. Now I find that he has chosen to bail out and it is very disappointing.
He introduced me to his family, close friends etc.. I met his 13 year old son and had built up a wonderful relationship with him. I was single for nearly 2 years after my own marriage breakdown and did not rush into this relationship lightly. I had committed fully to him and always thought that at least this commitment was being reciprocated. I saw him last weekend and there was no sign that this was brewing.
To have ended things on the phone is cold and cowardly and I deserve much better. A part of me wants a closure meeting, making it clear that I have no further interest in a relationship with him, but just so he can respond to my questions. I fear that if he does indeed agree to such a meeting (which is unlikely) he will only be cold and detached and make me feel worse. I feel I deserved a lot better than this and am appalled by his cruelty.
I am determined not to let this get me down and will grow stronger out of this experience. Sadly, it will make me even more cautious and wary of men and has only served to lower my opinion of them further.
Has anyone experienced this sort of thing? I am truly baffled by what has happened. My self esteem, however, is intact - I know that I am an intelligent and beautiful woman who deserves and will get the very best. I would just welcome some advice from you all.
Thank you.
I am reeling with shock today as my (serious) boyfriend of 6 months has decided to call it quits out of the blue. His reasons were that he could not cope with my divorce issues. He ended things on the phone in such a cold manner that I seriously wonder whether I ever knew this man.
Things were extremely serious and just a few months ago he was talking marriage. I have always sensed that he was holding a part of himself back and his reason for this was that he didn't know how things would pan out in the future as far as my divorce is concerned.
To say I am disappointed and very angry is an understatement. He himself went through a divorce 10 years ago and knows what it entails. When we first met, I made it clear what my status was and he has always said he would be there for me etc.. Now I find that he has chosen to bail out and it is very disappointing.
He introduced me to his family, close friends etc.. I met his 13 year old son and had built up a wonderful relationship with him. I was single for nearly 2 years after my own marriage breakdown and did not rush into this relationship lightly. I had committed fully to him and always thought that at least this commitment was being reciprocated. I saw him last weekend and there was no sign that this was brewing.
To have ended things on the phone is cold and cowardly and I deserve much better. A part of me wants a closure meeting, making it clear that I have no further interest in a relationship with him, but just so he can respond to my questions. I fear that if he does indeed agree to such a meeting (which is unlikely) he will only be cold and detached and make me feel worse. I feel I deserved a lot better than this and am appalled by his cruelty.
I am determined not to let this get me down and will grow stronger out of this experience. Sadly, it will make me even more cautious and wary of men and has only served to lower my opinion of them further.
Has anyone experienced this sort of thing? I am truly baffled by what has happened. My self esteem, however, is intact - I know that I am an intelligent and beautiful woman who deserves and will get the very best. I would just welcome some advice from you all.
Thank you.
