Guys...don't understand

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divagirl

Cathlete
Why do guys come back like a month or 2 later?

I ended a relationship with a guy around July 4th because he didn't really make me feel special. Was at times disrespectful by rolling his eyes while I tried to talk to him about something that bothered me. Slowly it's been a little contact here or there by email or a short phone call. Now he texts me that he misses me and wants to hang out with me tonight.
I basically let it all out over email about how I felt about things between us if he wants to open our lines of communication. I feel like I am now rehashing everything because I feel like I've moved on but he wants to see me again. I'm aggravated. I told him I had to be really honest because I can't just hang out without wondering if anything would be different.
 
Tell him to go to hel* if you don't wanna see him. I mean guys are soo stupid. One minute they can't stand to listen to ya and the next they're like "Oh I can't live without you!" Yea I do watch too many movies!!}( {(
~Adri;-)
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He was probably going out with another woman and maybe she went through the same thing you did and dumped him and now you're his backup plan. I also watch too many movies, but this one I've been through. There's just something weird about how he started communicating again. My ex boyfriend used to do that *exact* same thing all the time and I fell for his cr*p and gave him chances, but his behavior towards me never changed. Guys like that don't deserve chances. Somebody that takes you seriously and respects you is like that all the time. You should never wonder if someone is going to be respectful towards you. He should always be respectful. Period. Instead of going out with him you should go out with your friends and meet some new guys. :)
 
Hmmmm....well if it weren't Friday night I would be more convinced of his sincerity! Lots of people find they suddenly miss someone on a lonely Friday night! Seriously though, ormally I like to give someone a second chance but I have to say I did the whole date someone, break it off, pick it up again thing and he was no less a jerk the second time around, TBH. And, if your main feeling is one of aggravation, well, that tells you something doesn't it?

Let us know what happens!

Sparrow

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘Wow - what a ride!’ — Peter Sage
 
Sekcy_Gymnast - Adri: "Tell him to go to hel* if you don't wanna see him." "I mean guys are soo stupid." OUCH!!! ;)

divagirl: Him rolling his eyes while you tried to talk to him shows no respect and no class. It's better to respond in a classy manner. Let him know that there is no longer an interest, and good luck finding the right woman, but you are not the right one.

If he persist send him to "Sekcy_Gymnast - Adri," she'll tell him off for you.:+
 
I woudln't bother with it. Sounds like he'd just be brining chaos into your life. Plus people don't just change all of a sudden. He might be sweet talking you now, until he has you, and then it will all go back to same old.
 
Divagirl - I'm not sure why that happens, but it always seemed to happen to me. I think Rose might have something there. And Bill is right, he doesn't show much respect for you. And from what I hear, Bill is a FABULOUS husband and knows how to treat his wife. I would listen to him.

Bill - I hate to say it, but since Adri is only 14, guys her age do seem stupid. }( But they have their moments.

Now Miss Adri - first the coffee, then the wine, then the whiskey and NOW relationship advice? Are you REALLY 14? You've got a really good handle on proper eating too. Birth certificate please! ;-)

Suz

"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." - Anatole France

http://www.picturetrail.com/dogs2birds
 
Thanks for the advice. Love getting advice from a man as well ;-)

This guy is still pursuing me. I let him know everything that bothered me. He tried to give me an explanation over the phone as to why he acted as he did. I just know he'll do the same thing again. I want to be with someone who respects me. I'm going to just tell him its best if we just don't go there.
 
Divagirl, run! Run like the wind! Men always want what they can't have. If he gets you back he'll fall into the same old bad habits. You deserve better--don't let him get under your skin again!
 
I ended it. I know I can't deal with his short temper even if there's an "explanation". Helps that I actually had a very nice first date with a new guy over the weekend. Halleluiah!
 
Amen to that! Adri will let him know for sure. She tells it like...

Good to have you on the forum Adri, we love ya,

Janie

"If you can't say anything nice about someone, then don't say anything at all."
-My mother, Mary Cooper-
 
The really suspicious part is that he wants to hang out *tonight*. Sounds like he is just lonely and looking for company, as opposed to missing you. It's like those guys who are only interested in you when they are drunk.
Amy:+
 
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