Getting responses from your posts

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Cathlete
Since reading a current thread about not having responses to your posts, I thought I'd make it a topic on its own. I know we've all felt that at times our posts don't get the attention that we'd hope they would. I'm glad to know that it's not "just me!" :p I do know that it certainly isn't intentional but some posts, for whatever reason, can get lost in the shuffle. So I'm asking, if that happens to us, what would be a reasonable way of bringing it back up so that perhaps those who may have missed it and could have some input, may have another chance to respond? I know none of us want to feel as though we're pestering others but sometimes getting responses helps support us with what's going on in our life. Speaking for me personally, that's important since I don't have much support in my non-cyber life. :-( TIA for your thoughts.

Bam
 
Absolutely, there have been times when I've felt ignored but I KNOW it's not really true. For instance, I've experienced times when I've posted in a thread and after I hit the "post" button, I suddenly realize that 3 or 4 people have posted since I started to type and then my post gets lost in the mix.

I know there have been times when I've started a thread that has a few hundred views and only 20 or 30 responses and I always wonder why that is.

I think a good way to handle a perceived cyber shrug is to bump up your own thread with some humorus new post. That's what I would do. A sense of humor goes a long way towards breaking the ice.

Michele
 
yup! bumpity bump, as Michele so eloquently stated - don't think anyone gets ignored intentionally ;)


"you miss 100% of the shots you never take"


Debbie
 
<Since reading a current thread about not having responses to your posts, I thought I'd make it a topic on its own.

Ok, so what have I missed??

Catherine
 
Thanks Micehle, I completely missed that. It's sad that people think that their posts are being ignored. I'm sure as others have said it's not intentional.

catherine
 
I guess this happens to a lot of us from time to time. It can be difficult at times because there does seem to be some "stars" on this forum who do get much of the attention, good or bad.
It used to bother me but I've since gotten over it. I know there are a lot of really great, knowledgeable, and accepting women out there and as a result, I've continued to be a small part of this forum.

Carolyn
 
I don't respond to a lot of posts mostly because I am too busy and also because I don't feel I'm knowledgeable enough to contribute to certain questions.

BUT, I do read the vast majority of posts and would like to say to anyone who feels that they are ignored that, personally, I sort of feel like I know you all just by stopping in and reading once or twice a day. All of those who start threads and contribute provide me with a good amount of entertainment, knowledge and great ideas!
 
I would bet it has happened to all of us. I know I try my best to answer posts I think I can...I don't read EVERY one..I probably cannot answer EVERY one either!!..:)...But for me if I had something specific and I knew who to ask, I usually PM them and most of the Forum members don't mind, including me...:)
 
I think yesterday was a hot day for "new threads" and therefore it was pushed to the 2nd page before it could even be seen. Not too often, I will browse the 2nd page...like I did yesterday...and came across a thread addressed to me! 1st i had seen it and it wasn't that old at all! less than 24 hours!

Yesterday was just a hot day!

Personally, if something has a ton of feedback, I leave it and aim for the ones with zero responses so that person can at least hear from "someone".
 
I read lots of posts and respond to those that I can but there are times that I simply do not know the answer or don't feel comfortable giving advice on a certain topic b/c I am not that well versed in it.

I never intentionally ignore a post unless it's a controversial issue or a flame thing that I don't wish to get involved in but that's totally different...:)
 
I guess you could always bump it as has already been suggested. Or, you could post about being ignored. That seems to get everyone's attention ... :p

All kidding aside, I don't think anyone gets intentionally "ignored". People are busy and as others have said, some of us read more than we post (like me). If I don't feel I have anything constructive to add to a thread, I move on. It has nothing to do with who the original poster is. Some people have more time than others to post. There could be about a million reasons why someone didn't post in a thread. It's probably nothing personal. I'm barely here anymore and a lot of people don't "know" me, so my posts barely get responses. I don't take it personally. There's no reason to.

Carol
:)
 
You guys are going to think I am really pathetic, but I felt bad because eveyone knew everyones birthdays but mine. I know I am going to regret posting this and I am pmsing big time ,so I am probably just overreacting. I have to say I felt really bad. It was March 20th. Anyway, I had a great day and just ignore this because I know it is really petty and stupid, especially since I don't even post that much, but I am still working on not being such a lurker and posting more. It's all good though.

Susan:)
 
I think birthdays are special and should be acknowledged and celebrated. I'm glad you posted this because I just might do the same thing when mine comes around. It's one day that no one can ever take away from us and it's the time the world got blessed with each and every one that's brought here. Please don't regret posting this info. You're special and it should be known! Happy birthday and many happy more!!!!

Bam

Edited to add: P.S. Don't hate me for what I did! :p }( :+
 
I've had posts that haven't gotten replies, and it does make me feel ignored. ;( Usually, though, it may be just a delayed reaction, and I get a few posts later on (but not as many as I would think my highly compelling post would generate;).

But PLEASE don't bump just by writing "bump" or a cutsey "bumpity bump." It's rather annoying, especially if someone does it within hours of posting. If you've waiting for a couple of days and still have no response, then add another post to your thread, perhaps clarifying (maybe the first question wasn't clear enough?).
 
I just looked at the post you're referring to and it appears that the poster was taking things much too personally. If she started new posts more often, she would see that some posts gets tons of responses and others get very few. I find it helps to make your post clear and to the point. But even so, if a lot of other new posts appear that day, your post can sink to the bottom of the page very quickly and people don't look that far down.

I have found that Michele's suggestion works best. Respond to your own post by adding something or clarifying your question a bit, and keep your sense of humor. Or if your original post was unclear or too wordy, just post the same question again in a new post that's more to the point.

-Nancy
 
I don't you can ever really take it personally if you post and it doesn't get a lot of responses. Some things may be wildly interesting to you but to no one else, but that does not mean that no one loves you anymore on these boards.

"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." Mark Twain ;-)
 
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