Friday night blahs....

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lrhollid

Cathlete
Yup, another Friday night, parked in front of the TV, bored to tears. I begged DH to go do something (I even offered to pay for a movie!), but no luck. He's playing video games, I'm here:)

Any suggestions for how to motivate one's husband to do ANYTHING other than sit around the house? I think I'm going to start doing things on my own, though I hate to hurt his feelings. Sigh. Did I mention it's the Friday night blahs?.....


L
 
I was going to have some Friday night blah's too - but a girlfriend called and wants to work out - so she will be here in a little while. We are going to Turbo Jam and GS SBB... That will help my Friday night for at least an hour...

As for the video game playing DH - I say do go find some other things to do. It shouldn't hurt his feelings that you want to get out and do something other than sit around. Even if it is just going to a girlfriends house for a bit or something.... Just getting out for an hour seems to help sometimes...

Good Luck!!!
 
i hear ya! my dh is playing video games(everynight) and i am here too. but it's my own fault we are home tongith.he tried to take me out, but i did't feel like it. i agree you should find other things to do if you want to be somewhere besides the couch. go out with the girls. have fun. i bet it won't bother him.


jes:)
 
I got 'em too girls. BLECH! :-(

My DH is out bowling. He's on a league on Friday nights. I usually visit my mom with Joey but she's away for the w/e. I called a friend but she's not feeling well so here I sit. I wanted to go out tonight yet didn't feel like making any more of an effort to find someone to hang with so I did this to myself I guess...

DH is always willing to take me out but the problem is that most of the time I can never come up with something worth while to do! x(
 
LOL-- Wendy, that's us! I'll suggest a movie, he'll say no, and then we'll spend 20 minutes looking at each other trying to figure out something to do... We live so far out in the country that it's a drive to do anything in town, and at the moment, we're a long way from family. DH did say he wanted to start working out with me. I'm planning on starting the August rotation soon-- think I should let him join me?

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L
 
living out in the country is our problem too! it's so much effort to get dressed, get all dolled up and then drive 30 mins to get to a place to eat dinner or whatever. it's faster to cook something and not have to get dressed. basically, it's the comfortable, laziness of married life in my situation. sad, but true! we have discussed things we could get invovled in or making more friends, but he works so much that we would be cancling plans more often than not. i keep saying i need my own hobbies and stuff to be actvie in, but i never seem to get around to doing it. o well....




jes;)
 
I think you should talk to him about this-in a serious way, not just joking saying "come on, we never do anything". This is the core reason I am divorced! My ex never wanted to do anything but watch tv and play video games. We spent so many nights on separate floors of the house, not even talking; him downstairs playing Nintendo, me upstairs watching tv out of boredom.

It's very important to do things together or you could become complacement and eventually feel like roommates instead of lovers. Not that I am saying this will happen to you-don't think that; I just know how it important it is for both spouses to be happy. Please talk to him. And yes, you should do things with your friends---maybe that will get him more interested if he's sitting home alone.

Good luck!!
 
My DH and I have a bad habit of spending evenings in separate rooms because he likes to watch tv and most of the time there is nothing on that I want to watch so I'll come play on the computer or do housework and he'll be in the livingroom in front of the tube...Sometimes I force myself to watch tv with him just so that we can spend some time together. Sometimes we'll rent movies which is nice and on occasion we'll play a board game together....
 
Wendy, that's the same way it is here. I'm on the PC & he's watching TV, both in different rooms. Oh well. I'm content.

Marla
 
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