For the first time in a LONG time I really feel happy and content

libra01971

libra01971

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I'm typically an optimistic person but I have been going through a LOT lately including a new job (as a personal trainer - a dream of mine) in addition to my regular full time job (which is VERY busy right now), as well as a separation from my husband - which I am finally coming to terms with that it's NOT going to work out and I'm FINALLY okay with that.

Ds is even doing better -- maybe as a result of the lack of "dh"s negative behavior not lingering as much (although h does stay with ds while I am at my PT job).

While I still have not been depressed or anything - like I said, I usually appear to be in a happy, good mood whether or not my real mood reflects that (I'm good at covering that stuff) - I feel like things are getting easier which leads me to believe I am doing the right thing. I even have a little crush on another trainer at the gym which I realize is probably just a rebound thing but it gives me something else to think about - although I don't think about it too seriously. Plus, I suspect he may have the same little crush I have - though that may change if he ever realizes my current situation. I DEFINITELY DON't want to rush into another mistake.... Anyway, I finally feel content and as if I don't really care what ex-dh does (he's an alcoholic) because I'm positive it's not going to be something I want to deal with again..... (okay, enough blabbing....)
 
Laura: i am so proud of you for being so positive and making the decision to better you life and leave the negativity behind you. i know it is hard, but you are strong and determined and i think your courage in taking the new job and leaving a bad marriage is very admirable! You go girl! Roll with those punches:D You rock!


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Hi,
I am happy that things are looking better for you. I think having a crush is a good sign. It is a sign that you a releasing yourself emotionally from your husband which is the first step in being able to leave him and being able to start another relationship if you choose to(not necessarily with the person you have the crush on)and get on with your life.
 
Sounds like you are making postitive steps in your life. We divorced years ago and I remember the great sense of relief when we seperated, knowing we were doing the right thing. My kids were 1 and 3 (now 16 and 19). Not sure how old your kid(s). At the time the peditrician told me that the most important thing is the kids are getting and know they are loved. Now many years later my ex and I are good friends. Just always try to focus on the kids and it is possible. I've got all sorts of tricks to what makes a good divorce!

Re the crush that's great. I had a best guy friend who helped me so much get through it (my Dad passes away 3 mos after my ex and I split). You never know, we ended out being best friends for over 5 years when he moved away and even now we keep in touch.

Congrats on doing the right thing. Windows do open when doors close.

Keep us posting
 
I'm very happy for you! Congrats on becoming a personal trainer! Your positive attitude, inner happiness, and soon to be freedom from a negative situation will help you create a rewarding and well balanced life for yourself. It's an exciting time for you!

Connie :D
 
Laura, your courage is awesome! Yes, you ARE doing the right thing. I wish you and your boy the best.

And let me tell you something... the last time my son threw a big, wild fit and I was so close to throwing one myself, I thought of you and everything you've done for yourself, and I told myself, "Okay, if Laura's pulled herself together, I can, too. This is just one stinking fit, no different from the others. This CAN'T faze me."

You're an inspiration, Laura. Don't ever forget that.;-)

Pinky
 
Wow Laura! Good for you! I'm very impressed with all that you have accomplished. You are an inspiration.
 
Laura, I'm so glad you're feeling better! You're getting your life in order. That can never be the wrong thing to do. You were handed a tough (and crappy) situation and dealt with it the best way for you and your son. I'm also glad to hear your son is doing better. Your ex-H is just going to have to fix himself! Be proud of yourself, 2 jobs, a great son and a healthy life and attitude! You ROCK!

Nadine

~~Happiness is an Attitude~~

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Laura, I don't even know what to say. I've been through a divorce myself & I wanted it but DD's father did not. I was very scared of going through with it, but after I did, I realized it was the right thing to do. I had a huge weight lifted off my shoulders and even now to this day, her dad & I get along. His father passed away this past week, and I was treated as much of the family as everyone else. I felt good about that. As a matter of fact, I have gone out to eat with him & his 20 year old girlfriend several times. So I believe it's possible to move on & keep up a positive relationship with your ex if in turn he's committed to doing the same.

Keep up the good work. I expect to see changes in you in July. Because positive changes within reflect positive changes on the outside.

Marla
 
Laura,

All I can say is WOW! I am SO proud of you. You give me strength to get through my problems. I know you are working SO hard right now, but your hard work will pay off. It sounds like you are doing what is right for you and your son -- which is the best thing you can do (although it may not be easy). Stay strong! You're one tough cookie :) You ROCK for sure.

See you soon. Oh...and beware of the PT :) Of course a little flirting never hurt anyone -- and can be good for the ego!

later gator,
Shonie
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world" - Mahatma Gandhi

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Great Laura! I'm so thrilled to hear all is well! Good for you for taking on challenges in your life especially at such a stressful time. Good Luck and many more HAPPY days for you!
Your-Friend-In-Fitness, DebbieH (AKA "Den Mother Debbie")http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmilies.de/wavey.gif[/img] If You Get The Choice To Sit It Out Or Dance...I Hope You DANCE!!!
 
You go girl! Having been through something similar myself recently (and being another Laura :) ) I can so completely relate. I divorced in 2001 & it took me a good 2 years to get over it & even consider dating. I also lost about 30 lbs during that time.

I can only say this--the best is yet to come! My life just keeps getting better & while I like to joke that I'm charmed, I know deep down this has all come from me--the things I've been working toward for years are finally becoming reality. So you just keep on keepin' on & your rewards will keep coming. ;)
 
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