Fell off the wagon!

The only thing that I have to add that other folks haven't touched on is, that maybe it isn't as bad as you are making it out to be. Afterall, everything is relative right? What seems like a binge to you now, might be just normal eating to somebody else! I don't even think eating a half a box of Nutter Butters is that terrible, all things considered. If it is only 1x a week and the rest of the week you are clean. I think some of what pushes us to overeat sometimes is the unrealisitic expectation that we can somehow be perfect in our eating and exercising. We are human after all, and humans like treats!! And then if we do eat something "unclean" we beat ourselves up to much, which is part of the cycle.

Ok, enough of a ramble. I don't think I was that clear, but I hope it helps nonetheless.
 
Hi Gayle,

I'm the same way. When I'm good I'm very very good, and when I'm bad, I'm horrible.

Something came up in the news recently, that I want to share with you. It's called High Fructose Corn Syrup, (HFCS). The news reported this to be addicting and a health rick for human consumption. They called it "Diet Sabbotage".

Some reactions to our bodies are; it blocks the brain to let us know when we are full, so we eat another meal, or keep eating, but never getting that satisfaction of a meal. It causes cancer, it is addicting, and it creates, all sorts of havoc in our bodies.

The FDA allowed this in our foods around 1980's. Seems to me that is when our (Americans) started to reach high levels of obesity.

HFCS is in many processed foods in our stores. So it is essential to eat clean as often as you can.

If you eat processed foods at all, please try to stop. Soon you will no longer be addicted, and will be making better choices of food. Thus back on track.

The good news is, a lot of health food stores are now taking all the products with HFCS off thier shelves. And more and more people are educated about this harmful product and therefore not buying it. Look it up on the web, you'll be amazed.

You are not doing this to yourself, this is not your fault. Know this, and don't beat yourself up anymore.

Hope this helps you,

Janie

"Whoo Hoo"
-Cathe Friedrich-
 
Gayle, I'm not going to give you any advice. Been there, done that. Just a hug. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off etc, etc.
 
Gayle-

First of all Here is a (((BIG HUG))).

Now repeat after me. It is OK to have less than perfect times of eating.

Can I tell you something? I lived on the WW point plan for years. It can work, but I found it to be guilt producing if I chose to go off plan. I'm not telling you to change. I just found that WW can be a hard plan to modify. I was often hungry. I learned to manipulate the plan and found my choices to often be high in sodium. OK, I have said enough about that.

You can forgive yourself. Drink some extra water,
and move on. The past is done and we can't change it.



Have you ever visited Dotties Weight Loss Zone? Dottie lost a significant amount of weight with WW, gained it back and is trying to loose it again. Bless her honesty!!!

PS- I haven't read the other replis yet.


Judy "Likes2bfit"


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Success is acheived by early preparation


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Awwww, Gayle...you rock! Don't you worry one bit - we have ALL been there & there is nothing to feel bad about. Hell, sometimes I don't even know where my wagon is. There are days when I think my son took it outside and left it somewhere ;) You know what? Tomorrow is always a new day....and furthermore, life is too short never to indulge and be bad once in a while. You will get back on & be just fine :) HUGS!


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Debbie
 
Hello again (and yet ANOTHER THANK YOU to you all).

Debbie-I at least know where my wagon is. It's out in my back yard, lying upside down on the very top of our dirt pile, in the pouring down rain! LOL. NO KIDDING! I can see it from my window this very minute! LOL I'll have to go get it and bring back 'round front! LOL. Funny analogy! Thanks for the laugh.

Janie-I have gotten me and my boys away from processed foods over the last several months! So we are making progress. Both my boys prefer my baking or cooking over anything store-bought, so I'm doing something right! LOL Thank you for the insight on HFCS!

Judy-and your take on the WW plan is a good, honest one. I've gotten very good at 'allowing' myself the 'goodies' and still stay within my points. But, just like any program that has set numbers to abide by, it's a pitfall at times. I have visited Dottie's website, but just for recipes. I wasn't aware she had gained weight back.

Honestly, I am feeling a bit better, although I'm saying that as my chocolate ice cream cones stares me in the face! LOL It all just seems so overwhelming to me at times....the clean eating, the steady workouts, raising 2 boys, running a household, YADA YADA YADA! Perhaps eating everything in sight is just an occassional way of me treating ME! Like someone suggested up further, I'm going to try to find a DIFFERENT and BETTER way of treating ME when I feel the need.

THANKS AGAIN!

Gayle
 
Thanks, Judy, for the suggestion! I think if I took a bath, they'd both be jealous! LOL. I'll give it a try next time I feel the urge to chomp!

Gayle
 
I have a cheat day, too, so it's planned, you know you have it to look forward to, and it's easier to behave for six days. There's actually a book called the Cheaters Diet (which I ordered and have not gotten yet) which is the same principle. I ain't good to give up all your favorite goodies forever, so don't even try. I actually am having the first of TWO cheat days this week, which I only do about 3 times a year, because I got Good Friday off from work, so I decided a good way to celebrate was to eat donuts 2 days in a row. Know what? I'm OK with that and know that I will have to exercise more this week to make up for it, but that's OK. No guilt, just paying the piper.

Someone brought up the article "How to Lose Weight Like a Guy," and it said this:

Okay, you blew it. You had PMS, or your accountant called with news of a surprise audit, and the jelly doughnut hollered, "Eat me!" What do you do next? If you're a woman, you throw up your hands, tell yourself what a bad person you are, and reach for another doughnut. Then you wallow in self-loathing for days. And what does a guy do?

"He feels okay, maybe even good, and really enjoys that steak," laughs emotional-eating expert Edward Abramson, Ph.D., a professor emeritus of psychology at California State University and author of Body Intelligence. But he doesn't order another one—he climbs back on the weight loss wagon, no harm, no foul. The best way to beat that diet-busting trap:

Apply his 80% rule

"Most guys avoid anything that even smacks of perfectionism," and that applies to dieting, too, says Pamela Peeke, M.D., an assistant clinical professor of medicine at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and author of Body for Life for Women.

"When women start a diet, they go from zero to 100—they become 'perfect' overnight, which is a hallmark of failure. That's why I developed the 80% rule: Hit your weight loss goals 80% every single day you can. One day, it'll be 120% because it happens to be a great day. Other days, you'll hit 50% or even 20% when you're dealing with PMS. Just make sure it averages out to 80%."

"It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt." Mark Twain ;-)
 
Gayle, I've been there MANY times. In fact I'm just back down in weight after a 3 or 4 month "binge" during the Holidays. I am the same in the fact that I always seem to fall off the wagon right when I'm about to reach my goal. It's like I sabatoge myself. I also notice that I seem to binge the most when I have set back. Even right now, I pulled a muscle in my side and was not able to work out Wednesday or today and probably not tomorrow. I have been struggling all day today to not eat bad. I'm in that frame of mind that "well if I can't work out I might as well be bad", which I really know is the exact opposite attitude to have. But when I have a set back I get depressed and when I get depressed I want to eat bad. My guess would be that there is something in your life triggering your eating this past week. But don't beat yourself up. Just keep moving forward. It's so tough, but we do all go through it. Being fit is certainly NOT an easy thing. We are all strong women, but we are all also only human. Just start fresh and take it day by day! We're all here for you!

Katie
 
Hi Gayle. Congrats on your weight loss and success as a runner. I don't have any words of wisdom, but I had a similar experience this week. I went to the grocery store after a stressful day at work and I was really hungry (very bad idea). Anyway, I ended up getting oreos, cheezits, and Ben and Jerry's ice cream. I even called my DH and a friend from the grocery store (neither of them answered) so that they would tell me to put these things back or to just pick one. Anyway I got home and ate the whole pint of B&Js :-( . Then felt too sick to workout the next morning. Like you said, why do we do this???

Karin
 
Gayle,

I am so glad you posted this. I seem to go through the same thing- perfection for a few months followed by disaster. I belong to the all or nothing club, too. In the past month, I have had more bad days than good days. Today, I ate a whole pint of Haggen Daas. I feel so guilty. I also feel like anything I have accomplished has gone out the window. Rationally, I know this is not true, but as you know, it is hard to get rid of those thoughts. I wish I could just snap out of it!

It’s nice to know that you aren’t alone. I hope anyone who is dealing with this stuff has a much better day tomorrow!

And gayle- congratulations on everything you have accomplished!
 
Any other thoughts on the three month cycle? I have been noticing the same thing about myself that many have posted. Great for 3 months, then Bam! I am horrible for awhile! Why 3 months? It is not on purpose, but just seems to cycle that way.

My times of no exercising and bad eating have gotten shorter and shorter (One lasted for over a month). Right now, I am at the end of week 2 of no exercising and poor eating! Grrrrr!

Is tomorrow a new day? I hope so. For me and for others who are experiencing the same self doubts and poor choices! I know we have a million check-ins, but what about a poor choices check-in to keep us headed in the right direction? This could cover so many of the "poor choices" that we talk about every day. Just a late night thought. Going to bed and will check back in tomorrow...hopefully after I workout!!
Jenn
 
Maybe you are totally depriving yoursef of any like cake cookies a donut here or there.
Have a cappuchino once a week..
You are probably craving it and fearing you will never get it again and eating everything in site...
Take it easy. Start again today. You will be fine.
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Good morning. Today is a new day and I'm going to really really REALLY concentrate on good choices today....one minute at a time. I've started my day off with a large glass of ice water, in an effort to get the bloating to subside.

I don't understand the cycles we make! 3 months seems to be the benchmark of when my choices begin to falter. I used to think it was PMS-related, but it's not. I used to think it was rotatioin-related, but it's not. I think it's just a physical and mental thing for me; I MAKE the choice in my head and off on a binge I go. Somehow I've got to help make that stop, or at least make it a bit better when it does happen.

In the last 24 hours, I've spoken with quite a few people, including you here on this board and some friends at home. The one thing that sticks with me...somebody said that we are always told to not be hard on ourselves (and that's good advice), but these binges are teh epitome of being hard on ourselves. I find that statement very true and somehow that woke me up last night and cracked me over the head! LOL.

I was going to just take the time off beetween now and Monday, but I've decided to START TODAY, this very minute. My binge this time lasted just 5 days. Seems like a lifetime! I wonder, honestly, if others have binges like mine. For me, it's not only what I eat, but HOW MUCH! Some nights I would eat until I was literally bloated and sick to my stomach...eating when I'm not hungry, not tasting the food, and I can't seem to fill my stomach. Then I go to bed with stomach of a 6-month pregnant woman. Anyway, sorry for that detail, but I really wonder where my head is sometimes and WHY!

Jenn-as for a check-in, we'll see what others have to say. I'm up for it if you and others are!

THANK YOU, ladies, for all the kind words, PMs, emails, support and advice. You've no idea what it means to me!

Gayle
 
Hi Gayle,

I have nothing to add to what the ladies have already said but I do want to say your boys are soooooo adorable I just want to give them a hug. Cutie pies for sure.

Winter
 
I know how you feel Gayle. My eating has been atrocious this week! I've been sick but that should not be an excuse! x( I need to get out to the food store and buy some good foods...I ran out and was not about to go to the food store feeling the way I did so as a result I was eating all of the garbage in the house!;( I must admit though that when I don't feel well I reach for the "comfort foods" so it' not that I would have totally avoided them if I had good food to eat...I just would have eaten alot LESS of it then I did!

Hang in there...you'll get back on track...we all do!:)
 
Hi, Gayle,

I'm having one of those weeks, too. And it just happens to be occuring during my first week off from lifting weights in about three months of extremely faithful working out (and very clean eating). I thought it would be the opposite - that my hunger would decrease because I'm taking a week to just stretch and relax.

But somehow, the not exercising like I'd been doing over the past bunch of months has somehow "triggered" my old self and now I'm having something of a minor splurge fest. I'm good all day but for some reason by the evening I'm allowing myself to chow down on chocolate. x(

So for myself, I've decided to just sort of go with the flow of that - I've sort of decided that this week will be my special week of relaxing and eating "moderately" well. From Monday my S&H rotation will start, and from Monday I will again become my new & improved self - the self who is cutting out all the excess sugar and making sure to eat balanced at all meals. After all, my goal is to lose fat and I can't likely do that chowing down on chocolate! }( I've gone shopping and filled my kitchen with my standards of fresh veggies and fruits, chicken and fish, oatmeal, and I've also researched a few new clean recipes to try out and all that sort of thing for inspiration for Monday.

I actually wrote about my splurge week on a different site and one interesting response I got was that there was a possibility that my metabolism had kicked in and was getting faster - therefore giving me a spurt of unusual hunger/cravings. The advice I got was if I started to feel famished at an odd time, to just go ahead and eat an extra balanced clean meal.

I wonder if your metabolism has kicked into a higher gear, and I wonder if it does that with your rotations and eating in three month periods?

At least thinking like that made the situation seem a little more positive for me! :eek: :7 And it really may be the case, too. So you might try just thinking that those 5 days were your little "metabolism boost." }(

There's no way I'm going to let all my hard work go into my mouth and onto my body...so come Monday, I'm getting back into the driver's seat. It sounds like you're doing just that, too.

Warm wishes to you!
 
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