Elizabeth Edwards interview

[Stephanie0523]

I don't want to stir up any controversy here, but I just wanted to say that the Oprah interview with Elizabeth Edwards today really impressed me. I teared up several times. She wasn't rehearsed or insincere. She really spoke from her heart, and seemed to me to be such a thoughtful person. I always liked her, but the interview just reinforced to me what a strong and seemingly very kind person she is. I've never read a memoir before (mainly because it feels like voyeurism to me), but I may just have to read hers.

 

[Boingo1]

She amazes me at the strength she has to deal with all that's going on. A terminal illness and a cheating husband. But the way she explained how ONE thing (though it's a horrible thing) couldn't completely wipe out all the good that John has been to her, kind of made me see her point.. a little. I still think he's an a-hole.

 

[LaughingWater]

I'm sorry I missed this interview and hope to catch it online somewhere.

I wish her the best.

 

[baylian]

And the press is reporting that this Rielle Hunter now wants a paternity test done. Pretty much due to the fact that this book is coming out.

http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2009/05/07/paternity-questions-swirl-elizabeth-edwards-speaks

And from the looks of the baby in the picture - it could very well be his.

What a putz . . .

 

[hiitdogs]

The Enquirer and Fox News certainly are great sources of information of what Miss Hunter's plan is going to be. I just find it incredibly sad that they cannot stay out of a private matter. This is between a husband and a wife and really is not a matter of public interest!

I feel bad that Elizabeth Edwards had to talk about her very private pain publically to set the record straight from her view. The woman has terminal cancer! For the life of me I cannot understand the need to pile on to her, just because her husband is a Democratic politician who had a lapse in judgement. Of course, her husband should not have had an affair and subjected his wife to this. He made a mistake like millions of other people make the same mistake but it is not on public display. None of us knows what exactly happened and quite frankly I don't think it is anyone's business.

I only saw part of the interview, I have great admiration for how she handles all the challenges life has dealt her.

 

[fit44]

She wasn't rehearsed or insincere. She really spoke from her heart, and seemed to me to be such a thoughtful person. I always liked her, but the interview just reinforced to me what a strong and seemingly very kind person she is. I've never read a memoir before (mainly because it feels like voyeurism to me), but I may just have to read hers.

ITA!

I was so impressed by her sincerity. I couldn't help but think-what a beautiful person!

 

[baylian]

The Enquirer and Fox News certainly are great sources of information of what Miss Hunter's plan is going to be. I just find it incredibly sad that they cannot stay out of a private matter. This is between a husband and a wife and really is not a matter of public interest!

I feel bad that Elizabeth Edwards had to talk about her very private pain publically to set the record straight from her view. The woman has terminal cancer! For the life of me I cannot understand the need to pile on to her, just because her husband is a Democratic politician who had a lapse in judgement. Of course, her husband should not have had an affair and subjected his wife to this. He made a mistake like millions of other people make the same mistake but it is not on public display. None of us knows what exactly happened and quite frankly I don't think it is anyone's business.

I only saw part of the interview, I have great admiration for how she handles all the challenges life has dealt her.

I don't understand the "pile on her" part. I think everyone here is and many other people are on her side so to speak. Yes - people make mistakes but with his wife having cancer and he still choose to follow his undone zipper really takes the cake. I take that as much more than a mistake - I take it as being self centered, egotistical, disrespectful and basically being a total $hit. I think she has handled this with such dignity however I get the feeling she is still in much pain. Plus she choose to go out on the limb in writing this book so I think she obviously new that there was going to be piling on - on her husband that is. I don't know if I could have wrote a book regarding this with two young children but she felt it best to do and I hope this has helped her with her healing and helped to stop the questioning of how she handled this.

And please don't turn this into a partisan issue just because I posted a link. It wasn't blaring news on Fox (a small blurb down at the bottom) and I have no idea on the Enquirer and what they have printed.

The other fact of the matter is - John Edwards is in some hot water with campaign funds regarding Miss Hunter.

As I said before - he's a putz . . .

 

[jackie7]

Have to agree with you Baylian! And he is definitely an egotistical ahole! That being said I have tremendous respect for Elizabeth Edwards and think she is an amazing writer! She is so eloquent!

I think she made some good points..women have to start respecting other women. Why would you want someone elses husband and if you got him that way, you will probably lose him the same way!

Women have to have more respect for themselves! I know that this doesn't apply to everyone, but we seem to have become such a superficial nation. I want what I want when I want it and don't care who gets hurt.

My niece has a friend who is a lawyer who only dates married men. She is bright, cute and very personable - so what gives?

Imagine Edward telling Elizabeth that he had 1 indiscretion; didn't he realize that the truth eventually comes out. So she suffered through hearing about it and then find out that he lied and it was an affair. What a creep!

 

[pixiesis]

I saw the episode and was also really impressed with Elizabeth. But the whole thing just made me feel so sad. Besides the affair and her terminal cancer, the poor woman has also lost a son. And her idiot husband made her go through much more pain with the affair by only telling her only a small part of the truth at first and then the rest (or is it?) 1 1/2 yrs later. I thought she looked really lovely, but also very aged from her illness. She is very eloquent and I was pleased that she was able to write her book and tell her story in her own way.

Anyone else wonder what John will do when she passes away? I don't believe a thing he says, and wouldn't be completely shocked if he shacked up with his mistress and or some other woman. Another part of it that makes me sick is Ms. Hunter's (and John's?) poor baby who might not ever have a father.

Amy

 

[LauraMax]

I didn't see the interview, but I've always liked her. I liked her husband too until he lost the ability to keep his pants zippered. He was a presidential contender, now his political career is, if not over, permanently stalled.

You know what I always find strange? In Europe it's a sign of virility & power for leaders to have mistresses (at least it used to be--I think now it's kept on the QT but it would never ruin anyone's political career).

 

[pink_fortitude]

You know what I always find strange? In Europe it's a sign of virility & power for leaders to have mistresses (at least it used to be--I think now it's kept on the QT but it would never ruin anyone's political career).

You know, unfortunately that is true - at least in France. My friends from Paris (they moved here just 9 years ago) said that citizens are taxed for the mayor of Paris to have and take care of a mistress.

Missy

 

[LaughingWater]

I never feel like this kind of private matter is anyone else's business, but if John Edwards used campaign money to hush up or take care of his mistress, then it all becomes a public matter.

I haven't read Elizabeth's book. Did she write about the affair? If so, then again...it's fair game for the public to discuss.

I think she made some good points..women have to start respecting other women. Why would you want someone elses husband and if you got him that way, you will probably lose him the same way!

*nods* I can't for the life of me figure out what goes through a woman's mind when she knowingly starts up with a married man. It's about more than just his wife. It's about his children, his extended family, and his life. It's like saying, "I am willingly participating (along with the husband, of course) in the disintegration of a family, and I'm okay with that."

 

[fit44]

*nods* I can't for the life of me figure out what goes through a woman's mind when she knowingly starts up with a married man. It's about more than just his wife. It's about his children, his extended family, and his life. It's like saying, "I am willingly participating (along with the husband, of course) in the disintegration of a family, and I'm okay with that."

I was on a forum for "women only" and the women who slept with married men did it because married men are safe(free from VD). Married men do not sleep around in general. These women are not looking for a relationship. They don't care about the wife. It's all about what they want. It's really sad, but true.

 

[baylian]

I never feel like this kind of private matter is anyone else's business, but if John Edwards used campaign money to hush up or take care of his mistress, then it all becomes a public matter.

I haven't read Elizabeth's book. Did she write about the affair? If so, then again...it's fair game for the public to discuss.


*nods* I can't for the life of me figure out what goes through a woman's mind when she knowingly starts up with a married man. It's about more than just his wife. It's about his children, his extended family, and his life. It's like saying, "I am willingly participating (along with the husband, of course) in the disintegration of a family, and I'm okay with that."

Everything you said is so true - particularly the part about participating in the disintegration of a family.

I think the book is out next week.

Honestly the first time I ever saw JE was a view of him at the National Cathedral for the service following 9-11. It was about 3 days after that fateful day. Really - I said to myself "who is that hottie"? It wasn't a couple of years later where Vanity Fair (yes I am a conservative who reads that liberal rag - BUT I CAN'T HELP MYSELF!! They have some of the best people articles ever) - anyway they had a huge article on him and I said to myself "this guy is gearing up to run for the office of presidency". Funny thing is that Vanity Fair ran an article of Spitzer too! Maybe it is the curse of Vanity Fair - tehehe.

Like I said before, this isn't a partisan thing. It's a guy thing. And the chickie-poos who help them out.

God Bless Elizabeth Edwards . . . !

 

[hiitdogs]

I don't understand the "pile on her" part. I think everyone here is and many other people are on her side so to speak. Yes - people make mistakes but with his wife having cancer and he still choose to follow his undone zipper really takes the cake. I take that as much more than a mistake - I take it as being self centered, egotistical, disrespectful and basically being a total $hit. I think she has handled this with such dignity however I get the feeling she is still in much pain. Plus she choose to go out on the limb in writing this book so I think she obviously new that there was going to be piling on - on her husband that is. I don't know if I could have wrote a book regarding this with two young children but she felt it best to do and I hope this has helped her with her healing and helped to stop the questioning of how she handled this.

And please don't turn this into a partisan issue just because I posted a link. It wasn't blaring news on Fox (a small blurb down at the bottom) and I have no idea on the Enquirer and what they have printed.

The other fact of the matter is - John Edwards is in some hot water with campaign funds regarding Miss Hunter.

As I said before - he's a putz . . .

"Piling on" meant that I felt that this is a private matter and that the media should leave it alone because she has gone through enough pain already and it certainly is not conducive to her health condition. It doesn't not serve a public interest.

You said in your post that Miss Hunter now wants a paternity test. In the link you provided it was said that this is what the National Enquirer claims. I am assuming you read the article of the link you posted. I merely said that I don't consider the National Enquirer or Fox News a reliable newssource. You may disagree with that but that's my opinion.

This is not a partisan issue, this is a human issue and that's what I have said. What I will say though is that if this was a Republican politician Fox News would not be dwelling on this like they do, nor do I think you would.

That being said, I find it incredibly poor judgement (to say the least) of John Edwards, however, it is a private matter and does not need to be chewed up over and over again in public. The one and only person who has to deal with this is Elizabeth Edwards. They have been married for 28 years which in this day and age is quite an accomplishment. Obviously there were some good things that happened in that marriage and she appears that she doesn't want to throw away 28 years of marriage for a (granted pretty big) lapse in judgement.

 

[LaughingWater]

That's interesting. I never thought of it from a venereal disease point of view.

I suppose there's a lot that goes into this way of thinking. I would imagine some women get a thrill out of "stealing" away someone else's guy. Perhaps they feel validated because they've managed this particular accomplishment.

Plus one could think there is less effort with a married man ~ it's you and the wife, and she does all the heavy lifting. Don't have to work too hard there ~ you aren't carrying along all the stress the wife must bear when raising a family and building a life. You provide temporary respite and escape. A healthy relationship with an available man, one that requires more attention and maturity, would certainly look much more difficult by comparison.

Don't mind me...I'm just thinking about loud.

 

[LauraMax]

That's interesting. I never thought of it from a venereal disease point of view.

I suppose there's a lot that goes into this way of thinking. I would imagine some women get a thrill out of "stealing" away someone else's guy. Perhaps they feel validated because they've managed this particular accomplishment.

Plus one could think there is less effort with a married man ~ it's you and the wife, and she does all the heavy lifting. Don't have to work too hard there ~ you aren't carrying along all the stress the wife must bear when raising a family and building a life. You provide temporary respite and escape. A healthy relationship with an available man, one that requires more attention and maturity, would certainly look much more difficult by comparison.

Don't mind me...I'm just thinking about loud.

But wait--if the guy is cheating on his wife w/one woman, why would she think he hasn't cheated w/others, & contracted an STD anyway?

I guess I can kind of see it if a woman is just looking for sex, but still........personally even if that were the case for me, I couldn't do it b/c I wouldn't want to hurt another woman like that, & would hope other women would feel the same way if I was married to some rat bastard who wanted to cheat.

 

[baylian]

"Piling on" meant that I felt that this is a private matter and that the media should leave it alone because she has gone through enough pain already and it certainly is not conducive to her health condition. It doesn't not serve a public interest.

You said in your post that Miss Hunter now wants a paternity test. In the link you provided it was said that this is what the National Enquirer claims. I am assuming you read the article of the link you posted. I merely said that I don't consider the National Enquirer or Fox News a reliable newssource. You may disagree with that but that's my opinion.

This is not a partisan issue, this is a human issue and that's what I have said. What I will say though is that if this was a Republican politician Fox News would not be dwelling on this like they do, nor do I think you would.

That being said, I find it incredibly poor judgement (to say the least) of John Edwards, however, it is a private matter and does not need to be chewed up over and over again in public. The one and only person who has to deal with this is Elizabeth Edwards. They have been married for 28 years which in this day and age is quite an accomplishment. Obviously there were some good things that happened in that marriage and she appears that she doesn't want to throw away 28 years of marriage for a (granted pretty big) lapse in judgement.

I'll admit - I skimmed the article. I was really drawn to the picture! Sorry - the kid looks like him. Could be wrong - hopefully I am.

I'm not going to get into the political mudslinging here - Cnn/Pro Dem~ Fox/Pro Cons. You watch yours and I'll watch mine. I've had enough mudslinging these past two weeks with the school board election. Honestly I have never seen a town of 5000 so divided. And friendships lost.

I never thought of the STD thing either . . . .

This is going to sound really bad but please don't take it this way - Elizabeth Edwards had lost weight during the campaign. I heard it was due diligence on her part. I did not see the interview with Oprah but how does she really look now? Stressed, tired, less healthy. Just a curious question. I will YouTube the interview when I get a breath - just not this weekend.

 

[icumom]

Ya know, John Edwards was the only one in both parties to address the impossible issue of poverty and stupidity (uh, I mean, lack of education) in this country and what it costs us....what a fricking IDIOT to blow it on an affair!!!!! And who knows what its like behind closed doors, I"m not one to judge, being a second, and younger wife (vilified and called a trophy by the first of course) - out of lonliness, middleage crazy, hubris, who the heck knows, he HAD to know that if it got out he'd be ruined!!!!

A morality tale for all I suppose, as now we have to know the sex lives of all public people......the state of Octomom's Uterus is the headline today!

 

[hiitdogs]

I'm not going to get into the political mudslinging here - Cnn/Pro Dem~ Fox/Pro Cons. You watch yours and I'll watch mine. I've had enough mudslinging these past two weeks with the school board election. Honestly I have never seen a town of 5000 so divided. And friendships lost.

I never thought of the STD thing either . . . .

This is going to sound really bad but please don't take it this way - Elizabeth Edwards had lost weight during the campaign. I heard it was due diligence on her part. I did not see the interview with Oprah but how does she really look now? Stressed, tired, less healthy. Just a curious question. I will YouTube the interview when I get a breath - just not this weekend.

The woman has terminal cancer and is going through chemotherapy! I'd say that takes a little bit of a toll on your look, don't you think? And her private life has been dissected all over the media for the past 18 months while she was trying to come to grips with what happened and where she is going from here. I think I'd be looking stressed and tired.

As to the campaign funds, the quarrel is about $ 100,000 which was paid to Miss Hunter's production company for videos. Anyone familiar with productions knows that this is hardly a drop in the bucket.