DH Driving me crazy

[acatalina]

Does anyone elses DH try to sabotage your diet.
I am trying to eat smaller meals more frequently. I am really watching my portions.
My DH was yelling at me telling me to go get more food. I didn't have enough on my plate.
I felt like a 2 year old. I flipped yelling at him not to tell me what to eat. If he wants to eat like a pig do it and leave me alone.
He got mad at me last week because he made Chili , didn't rinse and drain the beef and threw sausage in it and i wouldn't eat it.
I am sooooo discousted.
I am trying to workout and eat healthy for me,not him,and I am being yelled at.
I am determined to loose the last 20 by June.
Is anyone else going through this?
Anne
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[amyg]

Anne- that sounds terrible!!! I posted a question like this a while back. I got some good advice- maybe you can too!! Or at least see you're NOT ALONE. Good luck!!!

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[Miss Lee]

My DH doesn't intentionally try to sabotage my diet, he just doesn't want to mind his caloric intake as much as I do. It's hard to eat clean when your dinner partner is slathering his food in yummy sauces and butter, or he takes a big 2nd helping and you'd like to do the same. Or when your DH asks you to buy "treats" at the grocery store. And he always wants potatoes and bread with dinner. It takes real discipline to eat clean under those conditions.

I don't know how I'd handle it if my DH was cruel to me about it. Maybe you could pick a time to sit down and talk to him specifically about this issue. I wouldn't discuss it at meal time. Tell him what it means to you to lose weight and how you'd love it if he joined you in this effort, but if he doesn't want to restrict his own calories or make healthier food choices, would he at least try to support you in your effort. I don't know what more you could do.

Michele

 

[candi]

Anne,

It doesn't sound like he's being cruel. It sounds like he cares about you very much and is just worried. I know it's hard for you, though. My DH tells me from time to time he wishes I would relax more about my strict eating, and sometimes I do. I know he just worries.

 

[acatalina]

He just won't listen. His cholesterol is 280. He had to go on meds.
He complains about his waist and eats 2 huge bowls of spaghetti.
He thinks i should too.
I told him , do you want me to be soooo fat that i can go on the biggest looser!!!!
I really think he just doesn't want anyone looking at me. I think he thinks i might find a boyfriend and leave him.
Who knows.
Anne
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[pink_fortitude]

Anne, your DH sounds like he may be feeling insecure about the changes that you are making. It sounds a lot like how my DH did after I started working out and cutting out the junk. He would come home with food he knew I couldn't resist that I wanted to completely cut out. I finally had a talk with him. I reassured him that I love him, I always will. I am not planning on leaving him, but I need to do this for me. I want to be healthy and I want to be fit and it hurts me when he puts those stumbling blocks in front me, and that is affecting the way that I feel about him. I said it very respectfully and in a nonconfrontational way, and he really responded. It took a while to adjust, but they do need time. I don't say anything about the way he chooses to eat, and he doesn't say anything about mine. Well, sometimes he does make fun of me for eating tofu, but it is in fun and not to be mean! :+

Missy

 

[toastythemosty]

Actually my DH would always tell me not to eat this and that when I use to eat badly. Now he doesn't say anything to me regarding food because there is nothing to say! LOL! I am liking that much better. Sometimes though he will try to get me to have some ice cream when I don't want any, etc. He will buy me m&m's when we go out to the movies. Once I ate all the peanuts inside the m&m's and spit the chocolate out. I must have been feeling really focused on that day. I still look back on that and can't believe I spit out chocolate. WTH? Memories like that encourage me to do it again.

Charlotte~~

 

[nancy324]

Anne-
If that's you in your picturetrail, why would you be trying to lose 20 lbs? You look just fine to me. I'm confused. Maybe like Candi said he's afraid you're going to waste away to nothing? Dunno, just guessing here.

As for me, DH and I like completely different kinds of food. He brings all of his bologna, salami, white bread and french fries into the house and I don't give it a second look. It has no more appeal for me than my fish and oatmeal has for him. We just eat our own stuff and get along fine.

-Nancy

 

[honeybunch1]

It's fine to worry, but NOT to express concerns in the described fashion. Yelling seldom reaps the desired result, except in military bootcamp where it belongs! If he REALLY cared, he would not be yelling at her.
Just Do It!