Bridal Shower
- Thread starter Timber99
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Shoegal
Cathlete
It isn't everyone
I got a save the date card from a co-worker to attend his daughter's wedding. A little while later - I received an invitation to her shower. In essense, I have met this girl maybe about 4 times - if that - and have not had a conversation with her past, "hi, how are you?" Frankly, I felt it was entirely inappropriate to invite me to the shower
- they even went so far as to invite the wife of another co-worker. She felt the same - she said she should not have been invited.
My own personal belief is that you only invite relatives and friends of both the bride and the groom - people who want to be there, and others that perhaps don't want to be there but for political reasons - they are invited anyway because it would be a slight otherwise. For example - the wife of my cousin. I don't know her all that well - but I can't not invite her - my aunt would be upset if I didn't. I don't believe this includes acquaintances, business associates, clients or their spouses - if you are the host of your own wedding - usually you can decide who you want there and don't want and dictate all that. If you're not - and say your parents are hosting - they can decide to invite their friends to their son or daughter's wedding - but I don't believe these same people who don't know the bride or groom personally or aren't somehow related to them should be expected to "shower" them with presents.
This is just my own personal opinion - essentially - it is supposed to be a party - and it can include everybody and anybody if so desired. Just remember - you are expecting these guests to shell out for a gift.
What a lot of people don't realize is that when you are invited to a wedding - you are essentially invited as a "guest" - a person who you might want to share in the day. This guest - does not have to compensate for being there in any way - does not have to pay for their dinner or drinks - or even bring a gift. It is only if they choose to - it shouldn't be expected. The shower, however, is a different matter - it is a party given simply for the purpose of giving a gift - you should be clear that whomever you are inviting will be willing to do that.
I got a save the date card from a co-worker to attend his daughter's wedding. A little while later - I received an invitation to her shower. In essense, I have met this girl maybe about 4 times - if that - and have not had a conversation with her past, "hi, how are you?" Frankly, I felt it was entirely inappropriate to invite me to the shower
- they even went so far as to invite the wife of another co-worker. She felt the same - she said she should not have been invited. My own personal belief is that you only invite relatives and friends of both the bride and the groom - people who want to be there, and others that perhaps don't want to be there but for political reasons - they are invited anyway because it would be a slight otherwise. For example - the wife of my cousin. I don't know her all that well - but I can't not invite her - my aunt would be upset if I didn't. I don't believe this includes acquaintances, business associates, clients or their spouses - if you are the host of your own wedding - usually you can decide who you want there and don't want and dictate all that. If you're not - and say your parents are hosting - they can decide to invite their friends to their son or daughter's wedding - but I don't believe these same people who don't know the bride or groom personally or aren't somehow related to them should be expected to "shower" them with presents.
This is just my own personal opinion - essentially - it is supposed to be a party - and it can include everybody and anybody if so desired. Just remember - you are expecting these guests to shell out for a gift.
What a lot of people don't realize is that when you are invited to a wedding - you are essentially invited as a "guest" - a person who you might want to share in the day. This guest - does not have to compensate for being there in any way - does not have to pay for their dinner or drinks - or even bring a gift. It is only if they choose to - it shouldn't be expected. The shower, however, is a different matter - it is a party given simply for the purpose of giving a gift - you should be clear that whomever you are inviting will be willing to do that.
Timber99
Cathlete
Thanks ladies. Nobody is giving me a hard time but there are definitely different schools of thought amongst those that are making the lists!
I, too, have received invitations and cocked my head to the side thinking "why am I invited to this shower?" Personally, I think that those invited are the family and friends of the bride and groom, along with some friends of the parents (but this circle is more limited). I just don't want people to think that way about my invites! Ah!
I, too, have received invitations and cocked my head to the side thinking "why am I invited to this shower?" Personally, I think that those invited are the family and friends of the bride and groom, along with some friends of the parents (but this circle is more limited). I just don't want people to think that way about my invites! Ah!