Breaking up.........

[endorphin_junkie]

Hey Gayle Sorry to hear that things aren't working out as you'd hoped with your fiance but I love that you say that your are 'not afraid of being alone' and of raising your kids alone. Beautiful!! You've been through so much and come through the other side strong, confident and with such a strong bond with your sons. It's so good that you are not willing to compromise your romantic hopes to avoid being lonely. I know far too many married women who, even with a 'partner' are more lonely than most single women.

Take Care
Laurie

 

[tneah]

Gayle,

I had a dear friend in the same situation, she held her breath, jumped and left with three young boys to feed.
Today, she is happily married to a awesome guy (been so for the past 6 years now) and happy, happy happy! But even if she had not met her guy, she would still be happy because she left a partnership that wasn't a good thing for her, and yet she always said, I have "me", what else do I or my boys need? Her new hubby is just icing on her cake!

You will find the right words to say. Ask for guidance and instruction and the powers that be (whatever you believe in) will be right there along side you.

 

[buffettgirl]

Dear Gayle, many, many hugs to you and your boys. I know you'll make the right decision for all of you. Best wishes.

 

[red_mct]

Gayle, I recently broke off an engagement as well. It was really, really hard for me, because he lived with us and was close to my kids. But I knew it was the right thing, for a lot of reasons.

I won't lie to you; it was hard and sometimes still is. There is part of me that will always love him BUT there is another part that recognizes that loving someone and having a meaningful relationship with them are two different things. I know I did the right thing for me, and by extension, for my kids.

And you know what? I love being single. I am happier and far less stressed.

PM me any time if you want to talk.

((hugs)) and good luck.

Marie

 

[dss62467]

GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!!!! Marriage is overrated.

 

[banslug]

Thanks...for the support and the laugh "Marriage if overrated". lol

Honestly, I do love being single (not necessarily widowed) and LOVE that the kids and I call ALL the shots on everything. It is lonely, though, at times. And that's why I think I've let this relationship go on for as long as it has....for fear of being alone. But what I've realized over the last 5 monthss or so is that I'm no longer afraid of being alone BECAUSE I'M NOT! I've got the best group of friends and my family around me.

All that, but I still miss having somebody take care of ME.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh....being an adult is never easy, is it? lol

I'm planning on seeing my SO this week, and the discussion will come then. I'll keep you posted if you don't mind!

and THANKS AGAIN!

Gayle

 

[dss62467]

Having someone take care of you? What's that like? I've never had that.