anyone else nervous about leaving your kids with dad?

[singinggoddess]

Is anyone else nervous about leaving your kids with dad when you are on the road trip? I love my husband to death, but he can't do more than one thing at a time. We have three girls all under the age of 6 and I am worried for there safety and for his sanity. He is great with one or two but tends to lose track of one or when he is overextended. Anyone else worried?

Susan

 

[clareMc]

I just left my two daughters with their father for a week while I went to see family in the UK. I was very concerned beause he just is not as involved in the domestic scene as I am, plus he was under a lot of stress and I worried he would shout at them and take out his stress on them.

Well, I really should have trusted him more because there was nothing to worry about. He's their father, he has their best interests at heart. He loves them as desperately as I do and would do nothing to hurt them. They had a fine time without me and he coped wonderfully, played with the girls a lot, played every board and card game known to man and played loads of soccer with them, took them to all their sports classes, fed them, etc, etc. He was a fine "Mum" for a week. And you know, it does the kids good to see more of Dad and less of Mum sometimes too.

No-one is irreplaceable. Humbling to learn it, but true.

Trust him. He loves his kids and will do right by them.

Clare

 

[MSJ]

RE: anyone else nervous about leaving your kids with da...

Maybe he'll be more "on track" if you are gone, because he knows you aren't there to help. I think he'll rise to the occasion. Have fun on the road trip!

Maggie

 

[singinggoddess]

RE: anyone else nervous about leaving your kids with da...

Thanks you guys, you are probably right. I think it is probably a control issue too, where I have to let go for a weekend which will probably be hard for me, but Cathe will probably be kicking my butt so I won't have time to think about it.

Susan

 

[lala1]

RE: anyone else nervous about leaving your kids with da...

Dads do things differently than we Moms do and that's one of the reasons kids need both. My DH certainly handles things differently but the kids thrive with him. I am working on my masters which requires me to be gone for 6 weeks in the summer (2 more to go) and I know they have a blast!! He's much more relaxed than I am. Anyway, as someone said, he is their dad, he has their best interest at heart, and when he has to come up to bat, he'll do great.