Sunshine 1528
Cathlete
I am an HR manager and had an employee come in to talk to both me and his former manager (he was transferred a half hour away a couple years ago to our large manufacturing site - we are at corporate).
He and his wife are pregnant - about 27 weeks - in trying to find out the sex of the baby, they ended up finding out that their daughter has some form of skeletal dysplasia. (Seems there are over 100 different types, mainly genetic from my research). Part of our discussion was that they had been told that her legs and at least one arm have fractures in utero. (Logically seems serious to me).
They had originally refused amniocentises (sp?) due to the usual horror stories from friends, however, they had gone to Stanford for a second opinion. The previous manager and I did some web searching and have found that there is a good possibility that amnio will give them additional information in order to make the decision as to whether to continue the pregnancy or not.
The wife is so upset she just wants to end it, but in speaking with my employee after work tonight, he has said she is willing to get the amnio based upon our suggestions after this morning's talk. (We were looking at it from the standpoint of making a decision based upon all possible information available).
Obviously whichever way they decide to go, the wife will most likely need counseling as she is so torn she cannot even shower because she doesn't want to see her stomach and imagine what her little daughter is going through.
Any advice from experience or from close friends who have gone through something similar? I know we can suggest counseling, etc, but for someone who is so distraught already, what are some of the options? (Another hurdle is that she speaks mainly Spanish and it is important she feel comfortable with whatever avenue she seeks in order to get through this devastating time.)
TIA for any suggestions
He and his wife are pregnant - about 27 weeks - in trying to find out the sex of the baby, they ended up finding out that their daughter has some form of skeletal dysplasia. (Seems there are over 100 different types, mainly genetic from my research). Part of our discussion was that they had been told that her legs and at least one arm have fractures in utero. (Logically seems serious to me).
They had originally refused amniocentises (sp?) due to the usual horror stories from friends, however, they had gone to Stanford for a second opinion. The previous manager and I did some web searching and have found that there is a good possibility that amnio will give them additional information in order to make the decision as to whether to continue the pregnancy or not.
The wife is so upset she just wants to end it, but in speaking with my employee after work tonight, he has said she is willing to get the amnio based upon our suggestions after this morning's talk. (We were looking at it from the standpoint of making a decision based upon all possible information available).
Obviously whichever way they decide to go, the wife will most likely need counseling as she is so torn she cannot even shower because she doesn't want to see her stomach and imagine what her little daughter is going through.
Any advice from experience or from close friends who have gone through something similar? I know we can suggest counseling, etc, but for someone who is so distraught already, what are some of the options? (Another hurdle is that she speaks mainly Spanish and it is important she feel comfortable with whatever avenue she seeks in order to get through this devastating time.)
TIA for any suggestions