Another annoying experience!

[jaypea]

Yesterday, my DH and I took little Andy to my elem. school to see my first graders. I have been out since March, so they were really excited to see me and the baby. That part was good. I also saw a lot of teachers and assistants, and they were excited to see the baby too, but a lot of them made some things to me that I didn't find too nice. I will be going back to work in the fall-it's a decision that works best for our family right now. So many people made comments like, "You're not really coming back in the fall, are you?" "How could you leave that little guy and feel good about it?", "You will find a way if you stayed home." "You'll miss him so much." And, I can keep going on...

I found myself defending my decision to go back to work over and over. I just wanted to say, "You have no right to say this to me. You have no idea what is best for our family-it may not be the same as what you chose to do with your family, but that doesn't make me a bad mother!" So, what started as a great visit ended with me crying to my husband lastnight.

Why don't people just mind their own business? Why do woman, time and time again feel the need to make others feel bad? Why don't we support each other more?

Well, I just need to get that off my chest. Thanks for listening!
-Jen

 

[wendymin72]

Jen-

Don't feel badly. Everyone has to do what is right for them and thier loved ones. You will never find everyone agreeing with your decisions and you just have to IGNORE those that feel the need to be rude about it. There is no one right way to raise a child...try not to let it bother you.

Hang in there!

Wendy

I smoked my last cigarette on March 17, 2004 at 10:00 pm!

Baby Joey born May 14, 2005 11:19 pm 7 pounds 12 oz 21 inches long.

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[FiddleFit]

Jen, I'm sorry you had such a disappointing experience at the school :-( What befuddles me time and again is that if you had told them all you *were* intending to stay home in the fall, you would have received comments like "Oh, you're going to go crazy staying home with the baby all day!" and "Must be nice to be able to afford to be a stay at home Mom". You can never win. Stay confident in yourself and your decisions. You're right that no one else has the right to make this decision for you. Just ignore them, if you can.

All the best,
Sandra

 

[MSJ]

Sandra's right. People will give you a hard time no matter what you do. I decided to stay home with my kids and my and my husband's family had a fit. Same thing when we decided to homeschool. We are dreading telling them about baby #6. They all think we should have stopped at 2.....

I've been given a hard time for demand-feeding my babies and letting sleep in bed with me, among other things.

The way I see it is THEY ARE YOUR KIDS and what you do is between you and your husband.

Hope all goes well with you this fall.

Maggie

 

[purple_magada]

I'm sorry that people were so rude to you. Makes you wonder why they would even say that? But as Sandra pointed out, some people will say anything!

It is your family and your decision really only concerns you and your DH - they need to mind their own business!!!!

 

[sunnydelite]

i agree with everyone else, people are outta line with their unsolicited comments and advice about your life. it just kills me that anyone but esp. strangers think they know what's best for you and your family. do not listen to them and please do not allow these people to make you cry and doubt your decisions. you and your family will be just fine with you going back to the workforce.