Anon Update
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Oh, thank you!!! I was just checking to see if she'd signed on. Did I dial the right number? I was going to try her home number, but I just didn't know if I should.
Again, Jennie, thank you so much for finding out, and, Anon, I'm so glad you're okay and we're all behind you here!!!!!
Again, Jennie, thank you so much for finding out, and, Anon, I'm so glad you're okay and we're all behind you here!!!!!
RunninTeach
Cathlete
Thanks for the update, Jennie!
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I am fine!! You are all awesome! I had no idea you were all waiting to hear from me. I have 12, but possibly 16 clients (after my consultations this weekend) for personal training right now- and my 2 children who keep me so busy! So I am soooooo tied up right now, that i don't even have time to "deal with" my other issues right now...for now, everything is "normal" at home. I haven't even been on Cathe forums in a week or two. Thanks again, Love you all.
Sunshine 1528
Cathlete
Whew ! I almost called too but wasn't sure . . .
Happy happy happy things are going well with your new venture !
Hope all else works out for you !
Happy happy happy things are going well with your new venture !
Hope all else works out for you !
Everything is "fine?" Most of us don't know this girl and have worried and prayed for her and her safety - so she's just training people and things are "just fine?!" I feel like we're hearing "wolf" called too many times...but I am hoping she's just getting her ducks in a row, and biding her time, with an active plan for getting out.....
idream
Cathlete
rnyogamom,
Your post is understandable, however, domestic violence is very very strange. It does appear to be a dramatic "turnaround" One minute shes asked for the seperation (he didn't want that), And then we hear nothing!
No wonder everyone was worried!
If it is crying wolf, well, its a very sad sad case of no self esteem/ self worth! And a cry out for some love and attention.
It takes a woman/survivor of domestic violence an estimated 7 attempts at actually leaving the abusive partner. Many many broken bones, promises, and hearts late.
A leopard doesn't change his spots, so anon is living in "la la" land. Yeah, I am brutally honest, but its important to be so. If all we have been told is true, anon is still very much at risk and in danger.
None of us are really in a position to judge/assess this situation. lets remain supportive.
Andrea
Your post is understandable, however, domestic violence is very very strange. It does appear to be a dramatic "turnaround" One minute shes asked for the seperation (he didn't want that), And then we hear nothing!
No wonder everyone was worried!
If it is crying wolf, well, its a very sad sad case of no self esteem/ self worth! And a cry out for some love and attention.
It takes a woman/survivor of domestic violence an estimated 7 attempts at actually leaving the abusive partner. Many many broken bones, promises, and hearts late.
A leopard doesn't change his spots, so anon is living in "la la" land. Yeah, I am brutally honest, but its important to be so. If all we have been told is true, anon is still very much at risk and in danger.
None of us are really in a position to judge/assess this situation. lets remain supportive.
Andrea
janiejoey
Cathlete
It's very difficult IMO to be free of the abuser. You want so much to believe him, yet it's impossible for him to change without help. Also I'm sure she is terrified of him most of the time. Or maybe just absent of feelings. It's important for Annon. to know this. Yes, one day it's fine, the next moment it's hell. Annon. also needs help, but in order to receive it, she needs to understand that it will never be better unless she changes something. That something is to leave (run) for her life! That takes a lot of courage, and in site. She's not crying wolf. Your right Andrea, this is part of the circumstances in an abusive relationship.
I hope for her sake and her children's, that it won't be too late before she comes to realize what she needs to do. We can all see what to do, and it's difficult not to say anything. I know. I want to tell her to stop this nonsense and go with her gut instinks and get the hell out of there. Only when she's ready will that happen.
I'll keep supporting her no matter what. She does need us to vent.
Janie
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The idea is to die young as late as possible.
I hope for her sake and her children's, that it won't be too late before she comes to realize what she needs to do. We can all see what to do, and it's difficult not to say anything. I know. I want to tell her to stop this nonsense and go with her gut instinks and get the hell out of there. Only when she's ready will that happen.
I'll keep supporting her no matter what. She does need us to vent.
Janie
The idea is to die young as late as possible.
Clarissa
Cathlete
Are you freaking kidding me??? Crying wolf?
Okay, whatever. For those of you who have been kind - thank you a million times. But for one of you - HOW DARE you talk about me on this board like I live in lala land?? How dare you? Who do you think you are? Seriously. I am a super nice person going thru a hard time. I didn't deserve this.
I will NEVER EVER be back again.
Mark my words. Thank you Jennie - you are the best. I really appreciate you all so much.
Signing off and NOT looking for attention for it,
Clarissa
Okay, whatever. For those of you who have been kind - thank you a million times. But for one of you - HOW DARE you talk about me on this board like I live in lala land?? How dare you? Who do you think you are? Seriously. I am a super nice person going thru a hard time. I didn't deserve this.
I will NEVER EVER be back again.
Mark my words. Thank you Jennie - you are the best. I really appreciate you all so much.
Signing off and NOT looking for attention for it,
Clarissa
pixiesis
Cathlete
Clarissa,
Please don't go away! We will be sooooooo worried. I understand that you're hurting, and I'm so sorry. But try to just take a deep breath and not get upset about one little post. Think of all of the cyberhugs and supportive posts you've gotten from so many of us, and let us continue to be there for you. We know you are having a tough time. I can't even imagine what your life is like and what kind of decisions you're facing. I'm sorry it's so complicated and hard! But please, don't go away because you feel hurt by that one post, when you've had so much support. Why focus on the one person who hurt you at the expense of all of us who have tried to support you? Try to embrace the support rather then focus on negativity.
I know you must feel beat up by life, but now is the time for you to learn to be strong and just know in your heart that you are worthy and lovable. And please, don't go away. We will worry about you like crazy.
Please don't go away! We will be sooooooo worried. I understand that you're hurting, and I'm so sorry. But try to just take a deep breath and not get upset about one little post. Think of all of the cyberhugs and supportive posts you've gotten from so many of us, and let us continue to be there for you. We know you are having a tough time. I can't even imagine what your life is like and what kind of decisions you're facing. I'm sorry it's so complicated and hard! But please, don't go away because you feel hurt by that one post, when you've had so much support. Why focus on the one person who hurt you at the expense of all of us who have tried to support you? Try to embrace the support rather then focus on negativity.
I know you must feel beat up by life, but now is the time for you to learn to be strong and just know in your heart that you are worthy and lovable. And please, don't go away. We will worry about you like crazy.
chachi
Cathlete
Clarissa...I must agree with Janie, do not leave the forums. I think you need this outlet just like many of us do. There are people here that care about you and do not judge. I think that you are an incredibly compassionate, beautiful lady and we would miss you dearly. (((Hugs)))
Chastity
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I'm sorry for sounding harsh - I've worked with abused women - well, patched them back together, several times over 20 years in intensive care...not a whole lot, but enough - and thinking of a vibrant young woman being abused, not to mention children and an animal, AND having survived as a child of substance abusing middle class parents - your posts hit me and many of us to the core.....so when we hear that all is just fine - life is "normal" - is alarming....hence my last line that I hoped you were biding your time and putting together a plan for independance.
Miss Lee
Cathlete
My post has been edited.
rnyogamom -- I appreciate your apology. I was taken aback by your post, but your apology, along with your explanation helped me to understand your POV.
Anon -- please don't leave. We would be terribly worried about you
. We're here to rally around you and to be here when you need us.
rnyogamom -- I appreciate your apology. I was taken aback by your post, but your apology, along with your explanation helped me to understand your POV.
Anon -- please don't leave. We would be terribly worried about you
. We're here to rally around you and to be here when you need us.
idream
Cathlete
I think, Clarissa you have totally read the posts wrong!! yeah, I make no apologies to you for my "la la" land, comment. I can't tell you what you want to hear. I will remain brutally honest, in that regard.
In relation to the "crying wolf" I was trying to explain that I thought if you were crying wolf then its very sad and you need love and lots of it! I wasn't saying you "were" crying wolf.
Plus, you did tell us that you were asking for the seperation then he didn't want it. But after that you went very quiet. Everyone was worried about you! And then you tell us how busy you are and that everything is fine. I can only hope your puppy or children don't upsaet him and things can flare up at any moment and you know that too) You shouldn't take offence.
I have supported you from the outset. Please don't take the attitude "Never coming back" In life, you are not going to always be told what you want to hear, sometimes it will be hard to take, but so be it.
I am concerned for you and your children, you know that, I can't make it any plainer to you than that.
Its hard to express feelings and words in posts and sometimes we take things the wrong way. (Often happens here on the cathe forums)
Hey, maybe you should direct some of that anger towards your man! (kidding)
You only have to look at the number of replies you get to your posts to realise people here really really care.
I hope this clarifys/explains to you.
I hope that you get back to us.
Andrea
In relation to the "crying wolf" I was trying to explain that I thought if you were crying wolf then its very sad and you need love and lots of it! I wasn't saying you "were" crying wolf.
Plus, you did tell us that you were asking for the seperation then he didn't want it. But after that you went very quiet. Everyone was worried about you! And then you tell us how busy you are and that everything is fine. I can only hope your puppy or children don't upsaet him and things can flare up at any moment and you know that too) You shouldn't take offence.
I have supported you from the outset. Please don't take the attitude "Never coming back" In life, you are not going to always be told what you want to hear, sometimes it will be hard to take, but so be it.
I am concerned for you and your children, you know that, I can't make it any plainer to you than that.
Its hard to express feelings and words in posts and sometimes we take things the wrong way. (Often happens here on the cathe forums)
Hey, maybe you should direct some of that anger towards your man! (kidding)
You only have to look at the number of replies you get to your posts to realise people here really really care.
I hope this clarifys/explains to you.
I hope that you get back to us.
Andrea
Do not let a few posters make this your final decision. Us others that care for you are what is important. We love and support you and you bring so much info to us.
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beth6395
"You didn't pause your dvd and go make popcorn did ya"
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