I have a question... My husband lost his dad a couple of months ago. He was very ill for the past couple of years. He had congestive heart failure and renal failure. This is the first father's day since he died. We live on Long Island and my father in law lived in Florida so we never saw him on Father's day. Anyway, I was not trying to be thoughtless or anything I just out of habit invited my dad and stepdad to our home for a steak dinner. I didn't even think for a minute that this would not be okay. My husband says that he just wanted to be with just "us". Meaning me and my daughter and that since I see my family all the time, we could have made it another week. I already invited them and the plans are set so he's going along with it but says he's probably not going to eat or anything. He says I never think about anybody but myself. That remark really sent sparks... I don't know. I almost feel like he's the one being too melodramatic. But! Thank God I'm not in his position. Losing a loved one is difficult enough... Losing a parent? I don't even want to go there.
What do you guys think? Am I being too selfish? Is it too selfish to want to honor my father and step dad who have been there for me my whole life? If I knew it was going to bother him so much, I guess I could have just taken them to breakfast or something and then we could have had the rest of the day to mope together which is what he is planning to do.
Help!!
Jill
What do you guys think? Am I being too selfish? Is it too selfish to want to honor my father and step dad who have been there for me my whole life? If I knew it was going to bother him so much, I guess I could have just taken them to breakfast or something and then we could have had the rest of the day to mope together which is what he is planning to do.
Help!!
Jill