After dealing with 2 deaths, I'm now ready to start

ShyWolf

ShyWolf

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Hi All;

I'm Vilma and was an active member here on these boards until Fall of 2004. I'm not sure how many members that I would chat with are still here but if you are I'm sending you all a big hug.

I forgot to make myself #1 in my life and now I'm back to where I started.

My father and I were extremely close so when we found out that he had advanced prostate cancer I'm sure you can only imagine how I felt.
After almost 2 years of traveling from my home in NC to NYC where I grew up and where my parents live; just the thought of working out was way at the end of my to -do list. I lost focus and as a result my body is no longer toned or fit :( although I have maintained my 45# weight loss my body has become soft.

Just 3 weeks before my dad passed away on August 23, 2005. My fur baby... my dog of over 12 yrs Pepper got pyometria which I have never heard of and was too far gone and we had to put her down on July 27, 2005. Needless to say 2005 was not a good year for me and I was very sad and depressed.

I'm hoping that I can once again become a part of this community and that you all can extend welcome backs to me. As I could really use the encouragment and the support to get back to fitness. I had a dream of my father last night; the 1st since he died and he let me know that he's ok and that I can let go now. ::shrug::

I'm ashamed at how much endurance, strength and how I let all my hard work go away. As it is I've decided to start myself up slowly and not set myself up for failure so no Hardcore yet :) well at least not for a while.

I have found it is so much easier not to do anything and oh so very hard to push myself to get back on the workout wagon.

My husband in trying to cheer me up had picked up a video game for me called The Sims 2 ... well that was my escape and I got sucked into that. I still play it but not as much as I did LOL. Games are fun but I realized not at the expense of feeling good about myself.

Anyway I just wanted to reintroduce myself here and maybe find a group thread where I can post regularly for some morale.

Thanks if you've read this far. ;)
 
Welcome Back, Vilma. :)

I'm sure you'll find not only old friends...but some new friends here too.
 
I do remember you Vilma...:)...I lost my father in Oct 1997. We were very close and even though the pain has diminished some I still miss him alot. He has left me with some truly awesome memories and smiles. I have also had to put down 3 dogs in the last 3 years. This grief can be tough to work thru, but for me this Forum of loving, caring people has helped me in so many ways...:)

http://planetsmilies.net/15384.gif[/img] back and I feel you will get all your strength gains back when you are ready to move forward...it is great to have you back...:)
 
Welcome back! I'm sorry to hear all that you've been through, but it's great that you're ready to start back and you're back in the right place. You couldn't ask for a more supportive bunch:)

Come join us in the Daily Check-In. There's always room for more!
 
Hi Vilma! I most certainly remember you and want to extend my sincere condolences for your sad losses and a big (((((((Welcome Back!)))))). I also lost my Dad to prostate cancer in '93 and love it when he comes to me in dreams, it's like a visit and I find these dreams comforting beyond measure.

Don't feel ashamed of your decreases in physical endurance and strength, you were nobely doing what you were called to do. I don't think you lost focus so much as life required you to shift your focus. Everything in its season right?! I'm sure if you look back at the last 2.5 years you have displayed more emotional and mental strength and endurance than you ever thought possible.

I remember your kindness from when you used to post, this community is so wonderful as it is ALL inclusive, I know you will be welcomed back sincerely and warmly. All the best to you in this new season of your life.:)

Take Care
Laurie:)
 
Hi Vilma,

I wasn't around during your first "postings" here, but I'm happy to meet you now. Welcome back, take care, and check in often.:)
 
Welcome back! {{{{{HUGS and PRAYERS}}}}} for you and I hope you know we're all here to help you through it.

It will be 2 years tomorrow that I lost my mom and this week is really tough for me. She would have been 92 years old this coming Saturday and I can't stop thinking about her. Now we're trying to help and support my elderly in-laws. I have found this forum to be a great support and many here have helped to carry my burdens. I'm glad you posted. Keep us updated on your progress and just take it a day at a time.

Michele
 
Hi Vilma. I'm new, so I don't remember you, but welcome back! These people are wonderful and supportive and I love this community. It doesn't matter where you've been, only where you are going. Embrace your new dedication to your body and just rejoice in that, for it is a wonderful thing. Everyone goes through rough patches (I've lost my father too) but you have come through it. Welcome!
 
Hi, Vilma -
Welcome back. I'll be glad to get to "know" you on the boards. Don't feel bad about the exercise/fitness stuff. Yes, it's important to take care of yourself, but sometimes it is necessary to put other things first. You did the right thing. And once you get back into it, I'll bet you'll find it's much easier this time around, since you already know what it takes to get in shape. Just have fun with it, relax, and know you're doing your body good.
 
Hi Vilma, I remember you from my lurking days. It's good to have you back. I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer and understand how hard it is to deal with. I'm glad you have come back for the wonderful support you get here.
 
Hi there!:)
I remember you! So sorry to hear about your loss but you are making a good move in the right direction!

We have a thread called "The Moment of Truth" its been going on for quit some time now.In the bieginning it was about getting to the point...facing what issues (workout wise) we wanted to deal with.But now...we just chat:) There are some awesome girls over there and you will feel very welcome! We laso workout to;) Alot actually!

Great to see you back!
Lori:)
 
Thanks to all who replied to this post. You all do not realize how much it means to me.
thanks & hugs to all :)
 
Everything in its season --- That's a nice thought never occured to me that way.

Thanks for your kind words Laurie :)
 
Welcome Back! Vilma
I remember you well. We chatted often! I am sorry about your dear Dad and your dog. Life can be rough sometimes.

Keep visitinghere and stratup again slowly. You can do it. You did the exerciesroutine before it will not be that hard to reinstate old good habits!!

Judy "Likes2bfit"


If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail.
Success is acheived by early preparation


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((((HUGS)))) to you for all you've gone through. Don't be so hard on yourself...life happens! There are just times when there are things that are more important and we end up making sacrifices. That's totally normal.

Now is a great time to start taking care of yourself again and you've got my support. I'm new to this forum, but look forward to getting to know you and everyone else. :)
 
{{{{{Vilma}}}}}

Welcome back! I'm sorry to hear about your losses. I do remember you, and I understand how you're feeling (2005 was that kind of year :( ).

Coming back to the forum is definitely a step in the right direction.

Take care.
 
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